Lockit -> RE: You're in charge, so do you delegate or do you do it yourself? (3/21/2010 7:01:29 PM)
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I am not into total control, but there are times when I want things done exactly how I have shown my partner, that I want them, like them and expect no variation. I wouldn't be happy with him deciding to make it better somehow without some discussion. Then there are other times when it doesn't matter so much and I enjoy him going about getting to the end goal, however he wishes to make it happen. All of this is from my direction and he learns by my telling him how I want things done and whether he can change things up a bit. It comes from a lot of communication and time together. I direct where we are going with our relationship, but will always get his input. If I find he enjoys something I will work that in. I want to see how creative he can be, how wonderfully intelligent, loving or attentive he is in all that he does. I also wish to show him how creative I can be and he needs to understand that if every time I give him instructions or expectations on what I want and he wants to change that in the moment or decides it needs to be changed, I am not going to be happy. There are times to do exactly as I say and others where he can do it however he wishes. I will make sure there are times for him to shine, as I love him shining! While I do take total control in various situations, I am also very relaxed in others. The main goal for me is that we both live within a very happy relationship and have as much laughter as we can find and that is achieved by us both shinning.
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