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Worst first meeting? - 9/12/2004 5:30:18 PM   
knees2you


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What was the first worst meeting You ever had??
The first time You ever met someone, what was the worst thing that happened?

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/12/2004 6:24:52 PM   
sting516


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Status: offline 		The worst first meeting for me was when i first got started in bdsm...i met with someone who said she was a domme, but in reality just wanted to be spanked...well, go figure, i was less than happy about her lying about it...i should feel badly about it, but i took her clothes, all of them, and put them in her car so she'd have to get them...i know that was childist, but at the time, it seemed like the thing to do...geez, i hate being lied to.


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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/12/2004 8:20:07 PM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		I've been sooooooo Lucky!

i haven't had a real bad meeting... until recently none were "Mr. Right" but i am still friends with all the Doms i have met.
When i read some of the meetings it scares me to think that it could of been me, i am thankful i have been lucky..

i can tell ya about some "trolls" Doms online but trust me i wouldnt get within 100 miles of them in real life ... LOL

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/12/2004 10:09:30 PM   
LadyShoshin


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Status: offline 		There are 3, they are all the worst for the same reason. Men begged me to meet them, went to great lengths to get me to agree and when I agreed & showed up, they also showed up and pretended they weren't the person I was there to meet. It is disrespectful, rude, thoughtless and stupid. As an empath I can read energy, so I knew it was them, for one, I had his picture. If you have agreed to meet someone, not showing up or showing up and ignoring the person shows that it isn't the lifestyle you are interested in, but the fantasy you have built up in your mind. Have the decency to at least have a coffee with the person and chat, there is nothing wrong with saying "You are a really nice person, but I don't feel we are a good match" That at least gives you an idea of what you are passing up, demonstrates respect and leaves her thinking of you as a gentleman. Subs and Dommes talk, there is a network, when another L/lady asks, "Do you know anything about (so & so)", they are going to get an earfull if the guy stood them up or worse ignored them. If the fellow had the decency to sit and talk, the L/lady can say that he seemed nice, that they weren't suited, but he had good qualities.

Ok, end of rant.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/13/2004 9:08:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think a lot of them look at the BDSM websites and whatever else is out there. They see curvy little young women in tiny leather outfits (or less) and expect the Domme they contact online is yet another of those. When they meet you they get hit upside the head with reality. Few of us are BDSM models.

It doesn't really matter what you write to them or state in your profile. They are in fantasy land and will only read/ hear what they want to.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/13/2004 9:41:46 AM   
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What was the first worst meeting You ever had??
The first time You ever met someone, what was the worst thing that happened?


Let's see there was the time that I talked to someone online for a couple of years. We finally decided on a mutual place to meet. He then decided to attempt to rape me. It all went very bad. I did get hurt but nothing the way he did in the end.

Then again though, you could consider the marine who lives near me. He told me at first meeting I would bow down and suck him in a public place. I told him....not a chance in hell and I'm warning you.
Well, of course the jackass he was. Too ignorant to take warnings. He ended up with a broken nose. When he got back to the base he called me to apologize and said he would wait as long as needed for me to want him as my Dominant. Of course I laughed...didn't know if he would actually listen that time. He did though. I never heard a word from him after that day.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/14/2004 8:26:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		my first worst meeting started at a pagan gathering in SC, it was after things wound down the first night we were smoking around the fire just talking and playing, and they began teasing me about my choice of lives --which started with someone saying I should settle down and make little priests... there were a knot of little suburban girls all huddled up wide-eyed in a plop around the fire.

I was told later they had breezed into the gathering claiming legacies all the way back to Athene and got stopped by the land's careLady, so they had learned to hush before the fire came around.

One of these girls, 19 maybe, she had read enough to be dangreous as my grandad would say, got interested in the stories which started flying after my group decided it was time to prove all wolve's got smelly butts, my little gamma-butt included.

Word reached me a couple of months later (a lifetime during summer) that this girl was looking to talk to me, I sent word back of my mail-forwarding service and we started exchanging letters. we agreed to meet at yule since I would be wandering back into her neck of the country.

She had talked some about subbing...and giving over all of her power..yadda yadda yadda...whatever guardians I have, musta been on vacation or gotten bludgeoned to death by a 30 year old cock thinking about a 19 year old sub. So we meet for dinner in her home town, I had even shaved, had my hair pulled back, found a clean shirt,...

The diaster started with her greeting me according to a ritual form straight out of a peter lorrie film, I don't embarrass easy but I did get qued in to ordering a whiskey right up front....dinner was a laundry list of things she wanted to do, but apparently had been unable to find a boy in town who'd keep his mouth shut about it afterward.

Now ussually I don't first date-dom, a rule I have learned to actively live by, buuuut, (com'n you knew there would be a but) She came back to my room, went into the bathroom, came out nekkid and coked-up and apparently somewhere in her reading sub, got translated into agressive, she started demanding...I don't demand well of by nobody esp. a 19 year old kid, so I took her over my knee to do some of what her daddy shoulda done 12 years earlier.

and hell broke loose.

I've heard women scream, yell, cuss, the noise she made had cats bitching about the disturbance...it was half complaint, half pre-faked-orgasm, half banshee on a night on the town....I hadn't gotten her off my knee before the door knocks with the motel manager on the other side...and she yells RAPE RAPE RAPE...like I can rape somebody through bluejeans, she was blushign furious, and laughing like it was a game.

I answer the door, show the man there was no rape going on...but the girl turns out to be the daughter of a lodge buddy to this guy. she starts laughing harder. he goes to get a calvary or three, I start to grab my stuff figgerin' her grandpa is goin' be the judge I'll be facing come morning.

I get to my car then BAM BAM BAM...um "freeze" the deputy who turns out to be this girl's cousin on her mother's side, as she prances out wrapped in the bed-spread, is yelling at me to get on the ground. that is one of them terrible places, if you run you violate real laws, vrs. staying and facing the cast of Deliverence who are somehow or the other related to this girl.

I only spent 2 hours in lockup with a guy named Walter who had been shoplifting but was doing the tough-grunt routine, I just kept thinking the night was going to end with me getting punked out by a guy named walter. In the end the sherriff did tell me the girl had owned up to no rape had occurred but failed to report the months worth of letters, I had mine with me, in my shot up car, after showing the letters they let me out and the Ol' boy bought me breakfast, he was apparently a lodge member too but had lost the chief-moose or whatever they call the leader of the herd to her daddy and liked the stories. Though I noticed I was left to do my own patchwork on my car

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/14/2004 10:29:41 AM   
Laura


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Status: offline 		That could have ended very badly. Lucky for you she didn't try to make the rape charge stick. That would have been a huge mess.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/14/2004 7:48:32 PM   
cheeba0228


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Status: offline 		This is an easy one. The first time I met with the sub in question sexually is where we had a different and odd experience. We had been talking for a while online, met in person a few times. She was in a relationship where he knew about me and I about him. She was into BDSM and wanted a Dom and he wasn't. So we decided to rent a limo and have it just drive us around town, I'd instruct her on some things then stay at a hotel overnight. Well when I showed up with the limo to pick her up her man got in with her. I was like Uh NO!! She said only for the limo ride so she felt comfortable. So as we rode I told him directly I wanted no interference from him. They agreed so off we went. The night was going along surprisingly well. When we got back she said that she wanted him to stay and that he wouldnt get in the way. I told her absolutely not. She said o.k. that he would leave but about 15 minutes into the hotel room I glanced over and there he was beating off peeking in the window I told her she and he would have to leave. She begged me not to send her away but I had had it for the night. SHe left and we have talked since and are trying to arrange another meeting, without him. it was a night I'd rather forget.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/14/2004 10:10:47 PM   
newflowers


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Status: offline 		My worst first meet was probably not bad by many standards. After correspoding online for a bit, we agreed to meet for bunches at a semi-fancy resturant. So I arrive in a sweater and silk skirt and heels and he is wearing a faded hawaiian with missing buttons and a pair of dirty shorts. We had to wait a bit for the table and it wasn't embarassing so much as I was annoyed that, after chosing the place to meet, he was inappropriately dressed. Okay fine, call me a snob, but I was annoyed.

He had not emailed his personal information so I could make my safe call and a friend was waiting for me. He balked and I said okay I have to go, no big deal really but safe is safe and if I were to leave, my ride was waiting. He gives the info but complains the whole time. We sit and he spends the first part of the conversations ridiculing the need for safe calls and the questions I'd asked and saying how untrusting I must be to want so much information upfront. The next part of the conversation was how his ex was responsible for all the ills of the world.

Obviously not going well. After brunch, we walk in a nearby touristy area for a bit because I'm waiting for my ride. He begins to get touchy which is not always a bad thing but his hands made my skin crawl. His conversation now is how if I am a "real" submissive, I would agree to go with him to rent a room because he has brought all of his tools and toys.

Thank goodness, about this time, my ride shows at the appointed hour and I am out of there. He tells me he had a great time and is looking forward to seeing me again. When I say that I thank him for brunch, but no thank you, he launches into a trirade - he raised his voice even - to say that I am obviously a fake submissive.

Okay so the morning would have been better spent gardening. The really funny thing is, about a week ago, he sent me an email introducing himself and telling me that my profile indicates I am just the perfect woman for him. I tell him thanks but no thanks, we've already met and it as not good, and he sends an IM saying that he doesn't remember at all and I must be mistaken because surely he would have remembered. I told him where he works and his ex-wife's and daughter's name and he disappears.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/15/2004 12:15:02 AM   
angelica4


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Status: offline 		Wow...my worsts don't seem to compare! i think the worst of the worst was the time i was really lonesome....i was talking to a guy online periodically, and decided i would go meet him that night, just for the heck of it. i packed my little bag and followed his directions to his condo. well, i found it, and ventured it. i sat down and actually got the heebie jeebies before i said a word. my inner creep-dodger got me to say "NO" before we got started, and i started to cry and told him i had made a mistake. he held onto my arm but i stood up and got the heck out of there. it was a good move.
there was just something about him that wasn't right, and i immediately acted. felt i was lucky to leave.
angelica

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/15/2004 8:51:19 AM   
captainblack


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Status: offline 		My worst meeting was a subfemale that I met at a resturant near her home. We chatted
over dinner and seemed to be a good fit from what I could tell. She asked me to come back
to her place just down the street. I said that would be fine. She said she would meet me across the street at the cleaners. She had to pick up her stuff. After I settled out bill and
left the tip I went across the street to the cleaners to find that she was not there and had never been there.

I sure wish folks were big enough to say thanks for dinner, but this is not good for me.

I had another bad time when a gay guy answered my advert looking for a a sub f or sub ff or
mf couple. The interview over coffee went well until I told him I had no sexual interest in guys, but if he could find a sub f to partner with him I would be happy to think about them
as a pair. He just said, " I have to get out of here. It is too crowded for me." and then
bolted out the door and grabbed a cab.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/15/2004 11:23:26 AM   
ShrewWhisperer


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Status: offline 		howdi newflowers,

Not a bad story...and it goes to prove somebody can screw nearly anything up just with a little effort. It maybe that I have too much of a romantic in me (who I really wish would either withdraw, or start paying for dinner) but style is important within the life, esp. for male doms. It does all harken back to the late Victorian age where control of a woman was something to take pride in, like owning a good pair of fighting dogs with proper grip, or a winning racing stallion. It takes time and talent to create such things....

but alas in the great equality of america any slob with a keyboard can call himself whatever he wishes, before people jump on that, if someone calling themselves a gorean master showed up acting like Wally Cox, nobody'd get angry about imposed snobbery.

I do like stories where when it is clear the girl is not interested the would be dom starts to argue...cuz whining is right around the corner, and there is a perverse pleasure in hearing a dom whine...a little like seeing a pit-bull running from a spaniel.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/16/2004 10:12:45 PM   
dixiedumpling


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Status: offline 		This wasn't a "first" meeting, but it's the one that crushed my soul. This Dom and I had had a long email relationship that had included one meeting that went fairly well. Lots of things got in the way after that one meeting: sickness, work, sick parents, a car wreck, etc. You name it, it happened. A cloud of disaster seemed to hang over us as we set up playtimes and something would rear its ugly head and everything would get canceled. It was a relationship filled with drama, anger, misunderstandings and ego. We'd have angry words, but we could never just STOP. One of us would email the other and we'd pick up in email where we'd left off. Then last January we thought we'd finally have a time together that would erase all those bad memories. I'd be over in his neck of the woods for a meeting and we'd see each other. We'd use up all that pent up energy that had been building for months or was it a whole year? I emailed him my cell phone number. The place that hosted the meeting had no service for my phone. BAH! I was anxious on that Saturday about meeting him and went to the agreed upon place, turned on my phone and waited. (had service in town, just not out in the sticks) And I waited. And I waited. A horrible thought occurred to me and it turned out to be a horrible truth. When I'd emailed my cell number, I'd scrambled the last numbers. Sigh. His reaction stuns me still. He didn't come to see if I was at the meeting place. He went home and fumed that I was jerking him around. After waiting for over an hour past our meeting time, I left and drove home with constant thoughts that I should have waited even longer. He sent an email on Valentine's Day listing his reasons for not meeting me and how angry he was with me. As with all our "harsh breakups", he wouldn't listen to anything I said.

It's one of those situations that my mind won't be still about. I wonder how I could have made such a silly mistake. I wonder why he didn't at least come see if I was there waiting.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/18/2004 1:05:18 AM   
newflowers


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Status: offline 		ShrewWhisperer,

It is had to see dominance when the claimant is acting worse than my four year old grandson when he is in need of a nap.

I hope that you always keep the romantic - perhaps not an endangered species, but certainly not thick upon the gorund in my experience.

-a-

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/18/2004 7:47:56 AM   
Madame


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Status: offline 		I've never had a bad first meeting - while searching for my darlin' roy there were many boys - all of them poliet and nice enough ... but no Click.

But I will tell you about a new guy in town for a year's contract. He was introducted to me via IRC by a femsub I like - she's sencible and sweet and I agreed to include this new "gent" into our social group's week end fun.

He told me he was a submissive - though not into pain. I said fine, I'm a Sadist, but would allow him to escort me to the large Friday night munch and I could introduce him to our circle of warm and welcoming kinksters.

So here I am - dressed properly and looking ever so pretty, and in he walks. Sleeveless tank top, baggy sweat shorts, dirty sneekers and a fanny pack. I took him into my hotel room and had a private word with him. I told him that if he wanted to be introduced to MY friends he should go back to where ever he came and change his cloths. Gentlelmen who escort this ole FemDom should show some effort in their apperance.

He did as I asked and returned in a pair of slacks and a nice shirt - Geeze you'd think his Mother would have trained him how to dress for a special Lady. After the munch he was invited back to our suite to get to know us all better. It was very obvious to me that he wasn't a submissive, and when I asked him directly he replied he really just was "in the lifestyle" cause he liked kinky sex.

He spent most of the evening giving neck rubs to various femsubs and at midnight I sent him away. The next day for our group would be busy - with over 40 expected for our Pool Party there was much to do. Of course this lamer never showed back up .. even after assuring some of the girlies he would attend. I though, well hell ... good riddence to bad news.

But that isn't the Rest of the Story.

Just a few days later - one of our cherished FemDom members PMed me and asked if I have ever heard of this guy from Ohio in Dallas for a year. I said yes.. he had attened a function and wasn't what he presented himself as.

Come to find out he arranges a meeting with her. I know this Lady and I'm sure she had gone out of her way to make her Home welcoming to the new guy in town. Two minutes he stayed in her apartment, went down to get something from his car and never returned.

He was removed from the e-group and all our Members (97 at last count) now know he's a poser. How stupid can you get? Our DFW and OKC circle of friends all talk and exchange information. Did he think he wouldn't be found out? Guess so.

I hope he's on this board - and I hope he knows he hasn't a tinker's chance in hell to meet anyone of quality in our society. In the 3 years I have facilitated events for this wonderful bunch of nuts- this asshole is only the second one to be removed from our list serve.

Hurt OUR girlies and you can just freakin' hit the road. I have his picture and will be showing it around at our munch next weekend.

So if you see this MFer - you are a person non gratis - go troll somewhere else.

Phew I feel all betta!

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/18/2004 9:32:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dixiedumpling

It's one of those situations that my mind won't be still about. I wonder how I could have made such a silly mistake. I wonder why he didn't at least come see if I was there waiting.


I think you subconsciously didn't really want to meet him again. You thought you should give it a chance but some part of you knew better.

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RE: Worst first meeting? - 9/19/2004 4:56:38 AM   
velvettears


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Status: offline 		My first worst was with a couple. We had talked online for a few months and really felt that we had something to share with each other. I had made it a point to say what i was looking for was a Dom, if he had other subs I was comfortable with that. We met for dinner and he had brought his significant other. All night she was the one asking the questions and wanting to know my likes/dislikes...he never spoke except to agree with whatever she had to say. In my mind i'm thinking, ok who is the dominant one here? I found out before the dinner was over that i would be her "pet" and serve her. I politely bowed out and told them that i wished them luck in finding what they were looking for. Also told them they should specify what they are looking for a little better.

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