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Maintaining your position - 3/27/2010 6:59:33 AM

CarrieO

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Mostly top/dominant switch....mostly bottom/submissive switch...equal opportunity switch...However you choose to describe your switchiness....what happens when you're in the middle of a scene with your partner and...boom!...something triggers an alternate response.
You start as "domme on top" who has ordered her partner to give her a full body massage which turns into trigger point hell...and awakens the bottom in you.

Do you fight your feelings or do you allow things to flow? How do you maintain your position within a scene?

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/27/2010 8:31:46 AM

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I only sub to men, and only top women; I have absolutely no interest in vice versa at all, so staying where I start comes naturally.

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/27/2010 9:23:33 AM

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You start as "domme on top" who has ordered her partner to give her a full body massage which turns into trigger point hell...and awakens the bottom in you. Do you fight your feelings or do you allow things to flow? How do you maintain your position within a scene?

when this happened to me, i continued to orchestrate the situation as the Domme because he was still in his submissive head space. so i ordered him to put me in the position that i wanted to be in and to do what i wished for him to do. it wasn't exactly satisfying since in my head, i was craving to experience it the way i did when he was in charge, but it felt right because i'd taken control and he wasn't thinking at all of taking it back from me just then.

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/27/2010 9:59:55 AM

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It's difficult for me to switch with partners, I'm usually either absolutely dominant towards someone or absolutely submissive - the variable is who I'm dealing with and which role I typically feel more comfortable in with that person.
Thespian analogy: if they started improvising lines, it might throw me off a bit but I'd stay in character :)

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/27/2010 10:32:46 AM

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Since you’re asking a couple of different questions; I describe myself as a bedroom switch, and dom leaning outside. Or if I’m being cheeky a spoiled princess. Now if I get in the mood to switch it just depends on who I’m with at that time, sometimes its carry on as is since they can’t switch like that. Other people its just ok change of pace and its all good. I’ve never really had a problem with it through.

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/29/2010 6:08:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: SunNMoon

Since you’re asking a couple of different questions; I describe myself as a bedroom switch, and dom leaning outside. Or if I’m being cheeky a spoiled princess. Now if I get in the mood to switch it just depends on who I’m with at that time, sometimes its carry on as is since they can’t switch like that. Other people its just ok change of pace and its all good.

This is true for me, the bolded portion. I try to make it clear beforehand with my partner that there can be so many factors that affect my ability to switch. For the record, I tend to be a dominant/top switch who enjoys a submissive/bottom position with the right partner.

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ORIGINAL: beej
when this happened to me, i continued to orchestrate the situation as the Domme because he was still in his submissive head space. so i ordered him to put me in the position that i wanted to be in and to do what i wished for him to do. it wasn't exactly satisfying since in my head, i was craving to experience it the way i did when he was in charge, but it felt right because i'd taken control and he wasn't thinking at all of taking it back from me just then.

Correct me if I'm wrong....you ordered him to top you while maintaining your dominant position? If so, was it the action he was performing that called to your bottom/submissive side or was it the power that usually came from him while he performed the action in his top/dominant role?

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RE: Maintaining your position - 3/30/2010 10:14:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO
Correct me if I'm wrong....you ordered him to top you while maintaining your dominant position? If so, was it the action he was performing that called to your bottom/submissive side or was it the power that usually came from him while he performed the action in his top/dominant role?

right, i started off dominating him and topping, and then i ordered him to top me. it was a physical trigger only that made me suddenly hungry for the particular pleasure of bottoming in that position. then when i got there, because it wasn't the same as when he was the dominant top, getting what i wanted required ordering him about point for point. it was so strange. he was so solicitous all of a sudden, lol.

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