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Changing... - 4/2/2006 9:05:41 AM

xGaiax

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I am finding, of late, that my Inner-Kali is wanting to come out and play.

I have always felt myself submissive, and yet within me is a recognition of my Woman-Power, and I seem to constantly attract submissive men. *sigh*

I have always been fascinated by The Lifestyle, and admit freely I am relatively inexperienced in it.

How does one balance and flow in this situation?
Is this merely a part of enhancing and learning about my submissiveness? Or should I begin to consider (and title) myself as a switch, and further my personal education in this side of The Lifestyle.

Personally, I feel more delicate and feminine as a submissive, and yet there is a glory in feeling strongly beautiful and knowing he is your pleasure-toy and slave to the sensations you are giving him....

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RE: Changing... - 4/2/2006 10:18:15 AM

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Sounds like you are doing just fine in sorting all this out ;)

Good luck and happy hunting :)

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RE: Changing... - 4/2/2006 2:56:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xGaiax

I am finding, of late, that my Inner-Kali is wanting to come out and play.

I have always felt myself submissive, and yet within me is a recognition of my Woman-Power, and I seem to constantly attract submissive men. *sigh*

I have always been fascinated by The Lifestyle, and admit freely I am relatively inexperienced in it.

How does one balance and flow in this situation?
Is this merely a part of enhancing and learning about my submissiveness? Or should I begin to consider (and title) myself as a switch, and further my personal education in this side of The Lifestyle.

Personally, I feel more delicate and feminine as a submissive, and yet there is a glory in feeling strongly beautiful and knowing he is your pleasure-toy and slave to the sensations you are giving him....

Well you are on a good path of self-investigation. I'd check out some links in the Mistress forum on ways to start out in this .. there's one going currently that is pretty good and filled with links and info. Read up. Investigate and find out more about what all Dominance entails and if its really suited to you.

I also have had trouble linking the delicate feminine feelings with Dominance, but it can be done. Its merely a matter of accepting yourself as you are, figureing out what you truely want/need, and finding it. There are plenty of male subs who are more than willing to cherish and worship your girlie/feminine side if you just let them.

I recommend you do much more research into Dominance and experiment. There are many strong willed subs with very controlling personalities outside of their submissive relationship and many of those subs attract submissive males because of it. But if you have desires or interest in having a playtoy of your own.. Research and investigate yourself.. Only you can decide where you want to go.

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RE: Changing... - 4/3/2006 4:34:58 AM

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I love switching, but alas I am definitely more of a Top. I find submissiveness gives me the feeling of being vulnerable and I don't like that at all. With my present sub he likes bottoming so its not an issue. In past relationships I was always strictly Dom because of my reluctance to sub, but with him there is enough trust to try it.

When I'm the Top I love the feeling of being in control of him and taking him to new heights that he has never known before. To me nothing is more beautiful or empowering then the blissful expression upon his handsome face when we are playing. To hear him say how much he loves and adores me, coupled with his moans is music to my ears. My boy is a painslut and I'm a bit of a sadist so we are well matched there.

Some people say they are perfectly content being strictly Dom or sub, to me it would get old after awhile. Variety is the spice of life they say and I've found that, that is true.

Good luck

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RE: Changing... - 4/3/2006 9:32:11 AM

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quote:

How does one balance and flow in this situation?
Is this merely a part of enhancing and learning about my submissiveness? Or should I begin to consider (and title) myself as a switch, and further my personal education in this side of The Lifestyle.

Personally, I feel more delicate and feminine as a submissive, and yet there is a glory in feeling strongly beautiful and knowing he is your pleasure-toy and slave to the sensations you are giving him....

You can be delicate and feminine and still be strong and in control. Some men (quite a few, actually) respond VERY well to a soft-spoken, feminine beauty, and you'd be surprised how easily you can have them begging to serve you, simply by presenting yourself as being delicate. I don't think you have to choose between strength and femininity, because being feminine IS strength.

Whether you should consider pursuing your life as a switch is dependent entirely upon how you feel about dominance and submission. Are you driven to dominate others, as well as to submit? To what degree do you wish to take control or surrender it? A lot of us lean more towards one role and only occasionally assume the other. Some of us are more equally dominant and submissive. But we call ourselves switches because we embrace both sides of the D/s coin, and would likely not feel complete if we did not have an outlet for the expression of our dominance or submission.

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RE: Changing... - 4/3/2006 4:14:20 PM

xGaiax

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Thankyou kindly Ladies and Gentlemen.

I have come up with a plan to experiment with and a toy with whom to do it.

It has been he that gave me the name of Kali for my 'other' side, and it is he that wishes to unleash her.

Kali is smiling....

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