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so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want?

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CarrieO: My bottom fantasies usually happen when I feel highly sexual or in need of a physical or emotional release through some sort of sensation/impact play. Submission for me is non-sexual and I don't often fantasize about that because I'm able to find an outlet for it in my daily life.

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switchtoplease: If I'm craving a certain food, it's because my body wants the nutrients.

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CarrieO: My bottom fantasies usually happen when I feel highly sexual or in need of a physical or emotional release through some sort of sensation/impact play. Submission for me is non-sexual and I don't often fantasize about that because I'm able to find an outlet for it in my daily life.

very interesting. i'm the same in that my bottom fantasies are strongest when i want release. but i'm connected to submission in the same way; unlike you, my sub side pushes my physical sexual buttons and cravings. submission has no outlet in my regular life, lol, almost doesn't seem to have a place there. it's almost introspective and interior, something done to me that engages certain things, but i rarely fantasize or even think much about myself acting from my submission. whenever i imagine submission, i hold still, i yield, i react. whereas my dominant fantasies are shared and couple oriented and also my action point, i'm starting to understand. though highly arousing, they have not pushed my physical buttons so much but have been about connecting with the sub, crawling around in his tender places both interior and exterior and leaving a loving mark.

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...crawling around in his tender places both interior and exterior and leaving a loving mark.

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so, since my first relationship in the lifestyle (in which i was mostly submissive with one inspired switch to dominance), i have gone forth as a submissive because that's where i have the most hands on experience. however, overlapping the end of that relationship and continuing on, my fantasies have been choreographed by the dominant in me. yesterday, i wrote an involved fantasy in which a switch-Domme artfully rigged chains to her ceiling like a fancy bed canopy from Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome, and she suspended her sub to them, and then she carved her initials across his groin with a sterile scalpel to mark his dick as her personal possession not to be touched by others. lmao, and i haven't even done anything that extreme yet, but the shit was hot as hell. partially this was motivated by the fact that my ex-dom had such a chain set-up for me that i didn't get to use it, but i didn't imagine myself strapped up, did i?

so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want?

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ORIGINAL: beej


so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want?

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While I enjoy bottoming to men and can get that every single day of every single year if I wished to when I have a kinky partner who plays with me a lot.

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word. maybe that's part of it. all i have on line is offers to get bent over someone's knee. not bad by any means, but it's not all that i want. i kind of feel like i've been living on a mediterranean diet and now i want a medium filet and potatoes. :)