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an explanation please - 9/13/2004 5:47:32 AM

promoman

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Mistresses,I've had a fetish since I was about 14.I had an aquantance who was older,taller & heavier than myself.She enjoyed sitting on me.She was an extremely attractive,full figured woman.We would wrestle & she easilly got me down & sat on top of me.she liked the fact that she could subdue me & use her weight against me.She also enjoyed trying to "squash" me.Many times sitting on my face & head.As time went on & I began to handle her weight better,she would apply more pressure.Many times bouncing on me til I submitted.This turned into a fairly strong fetish for me.I enjoy having attractive,larger woman sit on & try to flatten me.I've heard it's a fairly common fetish.Why is it that woman are apprehensive in this kind of fetish play??Are they self concious about their weight?I've had a few tell me they are concerned about hurting me.I particularly like SSBBW's.One other note.I noticed black woman are less self concious about their weight than white woman.They are much more acceptable to my particular fetish.Being that I'm white,I do treat them with a great deal of respect.Something they tell me they don't get from their own African American community.I appreciate any & all responses.billyk

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RE: an explanation please - 9/13/2004 9:52:48 AM

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What

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SSBBW

is an SSBBW?

Single serve big bold women?

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RE: an explanation please - 9/13/2004 9:57:00 AM

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*laughs!* If that's it then i was completely offbase with Sadistically Sweet Big Beautiful Women!

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RE: an explanation please - 9/13/2004 10:02:35 AM

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Smile, I believe it is Super Sized big beautiful women. Sundew

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RE: an explanation please - 9/13/2004 10:39:23 AM

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super sized big beautiful woman.Promoman

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RE: an explanation please - 9/13/2004 12:16:55 PM

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promoman,

As a bbw slave, this girl can tell you that her first concern is always being too heavy for Master.
stormi once hurt her knee,.... she didn't tell Master til she was already on the floor and after sitting at His feet for a few hours found it very hard to get up. Master who power lifts leaned down and told the girl to wrap her arms around His neck and hold on. It actually took Him getting a little aggitated for stormi to do that, because even though stormi knows Master can lift and squat a lot more than she weighs, because society looks at stormi and tells her that she is too fat for words, she worries about hurting Master because stormi sees herself alot heavier than she is. BTW, Master pulled her straight to her feet without so much as a deep breath. Gotta love those muscles ...

It's a matter of not knowing how heavy you feel to someone else. stormi is not sure if that makes sense or not.... but for stormi when she pictures herself even stepping on someone's toes.... it's like having a horse step on you....and stormi is no where near that large.(and working on getting even smaller).

stormi does not know if this helped or not but... maybe gave you some insight.

have a good day,
stormi
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RE: an explanation please - 9/15/2004 12:02:33 PM

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dear promoman,
your question/email covers so many issues, I wish you'd left some of it out; for example, the "I treat them with a lot of respect, something they don't find among black men"; that's inapropriate, and feeds into stereotypes... I have dated both black and white, and have found assholes in both. You must realize that submissive (as the world implies) men will tend to be more kind/easygoing/agreeable and less controlling in general (so it's not fair to compare yourself with general black male population).
I understand the words may not exactly have been yours, but passing ignorance on is bad for everybody... By the way everyone, I have a sense of humor, and realize we all have our perceptions of how things are, but had to say something about not wanting black men bashed In General (if a specific jerk wronged you, that's another story).
Now getting back to your basic "why is it....?" Being a full figured woman (a BBW), and a relative novice to BDSM community, sometimes worry about how long it would be safe to do things that cut off one's blood or oxygen supply (because muder is a bad thing, even when having fun). The other potential is that full figured women tend to be less secure in general (because EVERYONE is busy telling us we're too heavy and unattractive), so you should spend time making her feel good about herself when possible.
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RE: an explanation please - 9/18/2004 9:48:30 AM

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Thankyou Lady,My interpretation was strictly from the 3 black ladies I know personally.Their views,not mine.I know & do business with black males & find them to be good guys.If you are in the Chicago area,I'd like to meet you.Promoman

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RE: an explanation please - 9/18/2004 5:19:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: stormiKnightBEAR
It's a matter of not knowing how heavy you feel to someone else. stormi is not sure if that makes sense or not.... but for stormi when she pictures herself even stepping on someone's toes.... it's like having a horse step on you....and stormi is no where near that large.(and working on getting even smaller).

Best wishes to you stormi. I'm plus sized too and I know how it feels to think you are the weight of the world.

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