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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

I'm not intruding...or not trying to...Ma'am told me to answer this....

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As a boi and a bottom, I know for a fact that best way to feel some real sadism is to mess up a bottom's scene. I'm the type to get livid, as a bottom, and put the DM in his place. Friend or not...that was rude.

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Secondly, or mainly as it pertains to the Dommes, Ma'am is of the opinion that one of the best ways to get anybody to do what She wants them to do is to use Her feminine wiles to manipulate a situation. It's what She does in a scene...She's a sadist. She happily and purposefully does what the bottom doesn't like and then finds some God aweful way to get the bottom to ask for more of it. One of these ways (as She happens to truly enjoy the vantage point and it does make Her feel powerful) is by having a personal strung up while She's on Her knees or sitting down on the floor doing the geni-torture bit. Being right there happens to put Her face right there. It makes it easier for Her to see what She's doing to the person's tender bits and it makes it easy for Her to do thing like kiss or lick the inner thighs or sore parts just so the bottom starts to beg to be hurt more so they can get more of the fun touch stuff.

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It's a very similar comparison She likes to make, one of the fastest ways She can get a man or a boi to submit is to threaten them with a blow job. If someone's idea of Dominance or topping is in disagreement with Her, they can go to hell. It's Her scene, not theirs. And She gets very vocal about that when anyone wants to "correct" Her on it.

Besides, if the DM was a bottom male, as the OP seems to point to, he was attempting to use your scene as a fanatsy basis for himself and you being on the floor fucked up his idea of what would have been "perfect" for him. And for that, he can stick his dick in a light socket.

boi

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Excuse me while I go sit quietly in a corner for a moment, and let my brain return to room temperature...

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
I feel better hearing so many people say that (the bit about it being the D's scene, not the bit about cocks and light sockets...). Sometimes I'm not sure where the line between 'it's my scene and therefore my call' and 'I'm going to ignore what you have to say even if it could help me' lies, and I just wanted to check I was on the right side of it this time

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

What I've taken the long way around to say is...there's a huge difference between attempting to add to your play style and attempting to get you to change your play style.

boi

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PS. Ma'am is happy to discuss Her ideas with other Dommes but She often sends me and any other bottoms around on some kind of errand so that all we end up hearing is "ooooh! I Have to try that!" and laughing. It's never a good thing but someone how we all end up wanting more of the not so good thing. Tis the life a FemDom's s-type.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Excuse me while I go sit quietly in a corner for a moment, and let my brain return to room temperature...

Me likewise.  Scorcher.  Boijen has tipped the balance regards the 'dommes on their knees' issue for me.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I admit to just skimming.  I think I'm going to be the odd person out on this one.

Now, had your friend (who happened to be a DM) interrupted your scene or period of time when you were enjoying after care, I'd have seen it as an intrusion.  From reading the OP, that doesn't sound like it was the case.  It sounded more like he was trying to give you a piece of advice of how other people might see it if you were on the floor.

I don't know what things are like across the pond as far as how stringent folks that attend clubs are on the 'never higher than the D' thing.  I can say that here, yes, there are some who think that is the world's gospel.  (What can I say?  There are extremists everywhere.)  It could be that your friend was trying to let you know this so you could avoid issues in the future with the hard core club.  Another possibility that occurred to Me was that your friend may wanted to help you avoid other tops who might automatically assume you were a bottom or switch because you were on the floor. 

Both of these possibilities, while perhaps misguided, I can honestly see as someone who might have just been offering a bit of advice.  I see the friend who was trying to help, rather than the official capacity as a DM.   There's something about this that makes Me think his intentions were good.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Excuse me while I go sit quietly in a corner for a moment, and let my brain return to room temperature...

Me likewise.  Scorcher.  Boijen has tipped the balance regards the 'dommes on their knees' issue for me.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
There's something about this that makes Me think his intentions were good.

I think it may well  have been the result of good intentions (avoiding issues with the hardcore), but he did seem personally uneasy with the floor thing.

The event was the afterparty for a local kinky market-not a particularly formal atmosphere in general.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
There's something about this that makes Me think his intentions were good.

I think it may well  have been the result of good intentions (avoiding issues with the hardcore), but he did seem personally uneasy with the floor thing.

The event was the afterparty for a local kinky market-not a particularly formal atmosphere in general.

It could also be that, even though he felt he was trying to help you a bit, he wasn't quite comfortable doing so.  He may have been a bit afraid that it was going to cause a confrontation of sorts.  I'd ask you to take a look at some of the prior answers to your original.  Even though all of them would have been perfectly justified, can you see how some of them could have potentially been disturbing?  He may have been a little afraid of how you would react, even if you're the nicest gal in the world.  Remember, he is a DM and he's probably seen more than his share of female tops who would need a crowbar to remove their head from their backside when they get full of themselves.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

He may have been a little afraid of how you would react, even if you're the nicest gal in the world. 

You have a point there, LP.  He could well have caught sight of the 'Death or Glory' tattoo on VC's back or the words 'hate' and 'kill' etched onto her knuckles.