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bdsmnewbie10 -> FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 2:29:40 PM)

My husband and I are swingers. We met this couple, who enjoy seperate room sex about 6 months ago. While my husband and his wife enjoy vanilla, I have become a sub to her Hustand. We are only able to meet once or twice a month, but during that time he is my Master. We started actually with once a month and he's requesting more time...so it has become twice a month.

What my question actually is, I have developed what I feel is the trust and comfort level with my Master, that is required to submit to his desires, but I find myself feeling that my feelings are actually becoming more. I'm not sure if it is an addiction to him or affectionl.

Don't get me wrong neither of us are going to leave our respective spouses. Neither of us have used the word love in any contest other than " I love the way your give me....." But we have both made statements that we are addicted to each other.

SO THE QUESTION IS........IS THIS NORMAL FEELINGS?



mnottertail -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 2:31:25 PM)

Yes. It doesnt require introspection



lally2 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 2:38:40 PM)

i think trust is a powerful feeling that builds a connection between two people that when it really works and you can just let go and relax also develops an intensity.

on some level or another there is the psychological phenomena of enslavement too, where youre mind and body and heart become so connected that the term 'owned' that you see around the place, actually starts to make sense on a whole other level you would not have imagined.

it is powerful stuff when it works.  maybe you need to decide or discuss with youre Master how far these feelings are allowed to go before they gp any further.  just my thought, ive had no experience of youre situation, so i cant really imagine it.  ignore that bit if its not relevant.



bdsmnewbie10 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 2:42:18 PM)

In a way, we discussed it, I didn't exactly explain how deep I think my feelings are getting, but did ask him that if I ever say or do something to cross the boundaries, to please say something and he said he would.



lally2 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 3:16:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

In a way, we discussed it, I didn't exactly explain how deep I think my feelings are getting, but did ask him that if I ever say or do something to cross the boundaries, to please say something and he said he would.


so cool, but maybe you need to have those boundaries talked out and agreed upon.

its very different to just swing along with youre feelings and then be told, stop there. to knowing well before hand that when a feeling starts to grow it isnt permissable and you need to get a handle on it.  plus, had you thought that youre Masters feelings might be growing too, for the same reasons.  since you both have spouses i think you need to have a much clearer delineation of those boundaries.  in a way they will work subconciously on a level that keeps you within those boundaries without being allowed to let youre feelings free rein only to be told youre feeling too much and have to pull them back - more unsettling i would imagine.

if youre Masters feelings start to grow then those boundaries are going to start to expand without you knowing it and you could end up being allowed to go further with youre feelings than you can handle with comfort.

besides how will he know how youre feeling at any given time.

submission is an expression of type that can come through as blissful and content how will he know if that blissful and content isnt also mixed in with feelings of devotional love.  if devotional love isnt allowed from the start then you can check youreself in, talk to him about it should those deeper feelings start to kick in.



sirsholly -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 3:33:03 PM)

quote:

While my husband and his wife enjoy vanilla, I have become a sub to her Hustand.
Is this your first D/s relationship, by chance?



delicatelydirty -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 5:07:30 PM)

If the deepening feelings are romantic... you are potentially in trouble. You both need to stop and take a cold hard look at the situation, there are other people involved here who could get badly hurt. Not to mention if your feelings are one sided it could shatter you.
I play with a couple and he is Dom and she is more just kinky, but we all play together and my attachment  is to them as a couple because I know he isn't mine to fall for. I have been round the D/s block a few times and I know how it is when you so deeply trust your Dominant and would do anything for them it is very easy to start feeling other things too and if your both single and down with that, then it is all good and perfectly normal, if your relationship is outside of you both being single then different "rules" apply so to speak.

Neither of you are single you have a lot on the line and what you are loving is the fantasy escape you have with this man every couple of weeks, but keep it in perspective, it is a fantasy.



Jeffff -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 5:09:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Yes. It doesnt require introspection




Apparently you are incorrect, sorry.



GraciousLady -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 7:14:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

My husband and I are swingers. We met this couple, who enjoy seperate room sex about 6 months ago. While my husband and his wife enjoy vanilla, I have become a sub to her Hustand. We are only able to meet once or twice a month, but during that time he is my Master. We started actually with once a month and he's requesting more time...so it has become twice a month.

What my question actually is, I have developed what I feel is the trust and comfort level with my Master, that is required to submit to his desires, but I find myself feeling that my feelings are actually becoming more. I'm not sure if it is an addiction to him or affectionl.

Don't get me wrong neither of us are going to leave our respective spouses. Neither of us have used the word love in any contest other than " I love the way your give me....." But we have both made statements that we are addicted to each other.

SO THE QUESTION IS........IS THIS NORMAL FEELINGS?



Normal is what is normal for you. Just make very sure you are completely honest with your husband about everything; including your profile here.



itsmeinLV -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 8:34:26 PM)

It depends on what the definition of 'normal' is between the four of you.  As long as you are completely honest with your husband, and he with his wife, I don't see why this dynamic can't continue or why it isn't 'normal'.



kiwisub12 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/2/2010 8:42:14 PM)

This could be new relationship frenzy also. Doesn't mean you love him, so much as you love the way he makes you feel, which you might interperate as "love". Nothing wrong with that - unless you get all carried away and screw up your life.

There is nothing like a new relationship to make you feel alive and electric.



lally2 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 2:17:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

This could be new relationship frenzy also. Doesn't mean you love him, so much as you love the way he makes you feel, which you might interperate as "love". Nothing wrong with that - unless you get all carried away and screw up your life.

There is nothing like a new relationship to make you feel alive and electric.


this is a great point, be sure and dont get these things mixed up in youre head and translate them as love.  presumably youre Master isnt new to this, so he should be able to coach you through this stuff.  once youve got a game plan you can enjoy what youre doing together without the risk of feeling guilty or that youre hiding unreciprocated feelings which will only make you unhappy and might wreck a good thing



bdsmnewbie10 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 4:02:26 AM)

Both spouses know that he and I are into bdsm.

I appreciate all the reply's . We are all seeing each other this weekend.

Master and I will be discussing more.



lally2 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 4:43:39 AM)

had you and youre Master ever thought of going to a munch together.  the couple that i attended were largely made up of people married to other people but with a Master/sub play partner.

that might be a better resource for you.



sirsholly -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 5:32:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bdsmnewbie10

Both spouses know that he and I are into bdsm.

I appreciate all the reply's . We are all seeing each other this weekend.

Master and I will be discussing more.
i think the discussion needs to be between the four of you.



bdsmnewbie10 -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 9:56:41 AM)

Yes it is my first,but not Master's



DesFIP -> RE: FEELINGS FOR MASTER (4/3/2010 1:20:16 PM)

It's sub frenzy. You can get almost addicted to the endorphin release, to subspace.



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