atypicalsub
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actualy it seems to be lost on you that I used the word 'consensual' in my post. since you are pounding on a dictionary why don't you look up the word slavery in there. all i ever said was that i question if it wouldn't be better for us to use a different word rather than using the word 'slave' in a way that has no real connection to what the word means to everyone else in the world.
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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn
I am getting the feeling that the word CONSENSUAL is being lost upon you. A dictionary of some type might be helpful to you; doesn't have to be an Oxford like mine, Webster's is ok. Less letters but it gets the meanings down pretty well. No one here is talking about forced slavery or runaway slaves, Kunta Kinte. No one equated Consensual slavery with non BDSM forced slavery of the past. Let's not quibble with the "My kink is "realer" than yours chit." Some already think we're fucked in the head (well some actually are but that's beside the point) so let's not feed on ourselves.
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ORIGINAL: atypicalsub
tazzygirl, where in my post was I judging anyone? I said I was questioning the use of the word 'slave'. I made no judgements on any persons experiences in bdsm or on anyones relationship. And regardless of how anyone feels about their relationship, or how hard it might feel to leave, it is in no way the same as a person who is truely forced into slavery against their will. It can in no way be equated to a person who never had the choice to enter slavery, never has the choice to leave regardless of how they are treated, and if they did somehow escape would be returned to their owner against their will.
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl
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ORIGINAL: atypicalsub
I don't want to derail this thread but I do question the use of the word slave in bdsm. Since this is all consentual no one is really a slave. A real slave would not have the option of leaving if their Master/Mistress abused them. Many in the bdsm lifestyle cling to the word slave with romantic images attached to it but none of them are forced to serve anyone they did not choose to be with.
I would never tollerate a dominant who thought they could break my spirit or bend me to their will. I can not be forced to serve, but I can be seduced to surrender.
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ORIGINAL: AllLockedUp
For me, the slave thing was abolished a long time ago. I am NOT one that wants to revisit that time in no shape, form or fashion. Yes, I AM submissive, somtimes to a fault, but to be enslaved by anyone is TOO much for this BLACK woman!!!!
I am an opinionated person. Do not expect me to change who I am because I CHOSE to be your sub. Doms all too often think they can change who their sub IS!!! Unless you have had this person in your charge since birth, don't expect UNrealistic things.
Thats why it is called consensual slavery. And, yes, sometimes there are relationships that are just that difficult to leave. And you can be bent to someone else's will, if they know how to do it.
you identify as a sub, thats great.
but another of my pet peeves is being told that slavery isnt "real" because someone else cant understand it.
its real
it can be exciting
it can be scary
im sorry you dont get it
but dont judge me because i do.
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(although I'm sure my bio-family wishes I did less and was ashamed of more)
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