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bondmaid123 -> RE: My sub doesn't like BDSM anymore (4/9/2010 6:25:07 AM)
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OP, if you're still following this thread...
When you say she "doesn't want to do it anymore" what do you mean by that? Does she not want to participate in the play styles? Not want to be submissive to you? These are two very distinct things.
I know that for myself, I struggle with communication (I was married for 18 years to a man who would simply NOT SPEAK for months at a time, sometimes... especially if there was something serious we needed to talk about, re: parenting or household or whatever.... it was maddening and has fucked up my communication skills in the extreme). So now, with the man I'm with now, I sometimes have a really hard time expressing things that are bothering me (or even things that are ~important to me~), and then I feel resentful, and frankly, it can be easier to just back away rather than muster up the energy to barrel through the mountain of panic/frustration/anger/etc that's built up (yes... I'm working on this.. lol).
I'm not saying she can't talk to you, but there are a LOT of reasons BESIDES infidelity that could be leading to this.... and it could be as simple as she's bored out of her skull with the play stuff and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. (sometimes we s-types have trouble with that.. lol)
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