slvemike4u
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ORIGINAL: hejira92 So many congratulations! As the single mother of 3, I know the trials and tribulations. I also know the pride that comes bursting out of you- so that you want to tell everyone you encounter how amazing this young man is!! You have much to be proud about. Enjoy the feeling and know you had more than a lot to do with what a terrific person he is today. (I've done enough bragging-and agonizing- here in the forums about my own kids that I'm glad to have company ) In an earlier post I mentioned his "low -maintenance" line..and admitted there was truth in that old joke...but when I got divorced it was,quite naturally,hard on my son....walking into a room and seeing him scratching out his mothers face in photos just about tore me up.He went thru a two,two and a half year period where he wouldn't talk to his mother...there was the almost 4 month period where he had a mysterious stomach ache that would crop up every school day. I took early retirement from Verizon...for the most part I didn't date till he was well into high school.I became a full time father.That was how I saw myself that was my sole identity. It was and always has been my most important job...and the best work I have ever and will ever do....I held his hand and took him to the therapist office over the mother issue(she never had time to attend those sessions,the new boyfriend was a time consuming thing...besides it was oh so much easier to just blame the bastard ex-husband for her shattered r/t with her son)...I took him to all of the Doctors appointments....sat thru all of the tests we needed done till we all,including him ,reached the inevitable conclusion that there was absolutely nothing wrong with his stomach....I watched and bided my time over his brief(thank god) flirtation with the goth crowd...including black nail polish. I gave him the time and the encouragement to find his way back to being who he is...to relearn that he still loved his mom...and that school actually was important to him.I encouraged him to never accept anything but his best effort in everything he did. Yeah he was "low maintenance" ...a favorite response the the "hows the kid" question goes like this,and it is absolutely true..."the next time that kid dissapoints me in anything important.....will be the first time". So pride bursting out of me,yeah Hejira...I guess you can say so
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If we want things to stay as they are,things will have to change...Tancredi from "the Leopard" Forget Guns-----Ban the pools Funny stuff....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eNwFf991d-4
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