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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/11/2010 9:17:23 AM

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Eh, I don't think it's so much as "losing interest" that may be the case, as much as it is understanding that most of society is vanilla, and naturally, since it encompasses so much of our daily aspect, it more or less, takes over. The interest has always been there, at least for me I think, just not the time to take it and apply it practically in the midst of everything on a day to day basis. If only the day was....6 hours longer, the things I could accomplish *dreams of such things*

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/11/2010 10:37:54 AM

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Like everyone else has already said above me, this is life. We come in and out all the time, especially those of us with ADD complex (ooohhhh, shiny thing....never mind).

The thing is, that most of us always comeback, and that is how you know if it is important to you. It's like toys when we were little. You would play with one until some new one came along, but if you had a really favorite toy you would always come back to it after the shine and luster of the new toy wore off.

Same thing with the lifestyle, new stuff happens in life all the time (good or bad), but we come back to the lifestyle time after time because it is an important part of who we are.

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/12/2010 5:26:52 AM

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Out of curiosity ,have any of you Master's ever lost interest in the lifestyle or just seemingly got distracted by non lifestyle things enough that the lifestyle takes a back seat for awhile?

How did you get yourselves back on track or back into the life fully?

That happened for me a couple of times where BDSM took a back-seat for a while. Priorities and distractions occur at times when there are some pressing things in the works. Sometimes mood-swings, stress, or depression can inhibit some people's BDSM interests. Self-image or a type of jading may also curb the kink.

I actually walked away from BDSM for a few years completely a couple of times. Consciously decided to not pursue the lifestyle and deny myself any participation. For whatever the reason, I at one time began to feel the stirrings or hunger that I found like an itch that couldn't be scratched and satisfied really. One day, I had enough and decided to live again. Live again. I felt a loss without BDSM being included into my life. I had tried to keep my BDSM life separate and compartmentalized to the point of it being a double-life, when I should have embraced BDSM as an inclusion into my life. It ceased being a conflict when I got that concept.

When I was having problems before, there were many conflicts in me as well as the external pressures and distractions. Some of the internal issues were that I wasn't feeling comfortable with my situation at the time completely. For example, I was told how well and natural I do in handling myself and others BDSM wise, but didn't actually feel it in me and it was hard to accept. I didn't feel deserving of such praise at the time. I also had a conflict concerning the concept of hurting people. I had a morbid fear of hurting anyone physically for many years and partly due to a complicated combination of circumstances and perspectives that help build an awfully good wall of introvert-behavior in me that was deeply ingrained and nearly solid. Tearing that wall down (I can hear Reagan's voice now asking Mr. Gorbachev to do the same...) had a few factors involved...but that is a whole different story, though BDSM has a good part in it.

Once I overcame the issues, embraced what and where I was in my life and accepted the fact that I DO like to give pain and that it's ok; then I felt positively about returning to including BDSM in my life. I sincerely believe that I will not ever walk away from it again willingly. I hope to be an old dominant with two canes in my hand: one to hit with and one to walk with...the cruelty will be that I can't remember which is which...now that would be sad.

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/13/2010 5:26:53 AM

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since its not something we play at but who we are there's no loss of interest. no matter what's going on i belong to Him. its not always leather and ropes . sometimes a look is enough to show i'm His. its hard to explain i guess. its not a lifestyle but our lives .

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/13/2010 6:38:19 PM

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Have I ever not been myself? ... NO!

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/13/2010 11:45:06 PM

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To answer the question as written...smirks...yes, I have loosed my intrest all over the place. Examples of targets include her face, her ass, the floor for her lick it up and many others. Damn, It's late, I am feeling the urge to loose some interest now.

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/14/2010 9:04:40 PM

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The personality is something that's you, but as far as the acts and play...I wouldn't say it gets put on hold or put aside, you just get occupied with other things and still do the acts and play when you can or want to.

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/15/2010 9:08:32 AM

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What makes you think/believe "the lifestyle" is the forefront of life itself?

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RE: Do Master's loose intrest? - 4/27/2010 1:16:43 PM

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I never tire of BDSM activities. I stopped only because my slave got cancer and was in poor shape.

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