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BoiJen -> RE: ProDommes- what do you find as a reasonable rate? (4/21/2010 4:57:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
Yes, it seems that way to me, too. I see no reason why a pro-domme and her client shouldn't become as friendly with one another over time as, say, a regular plumber and his client. (Or, perhaps a lot more aptly, a therapist and his/her client.) Both sides will be scrupulously polite - and businesslike - about the exchange of money and that'll be the bedrock of their relationship. But, maybe later, there'll be give-and-take. However, I wouldn't mind betting that for every pro-domme-client who complains about what he's paying, there's another who'll refuse to pay less and won't hear of a fee ever being 'waived'. (I recall the film of Cynthia Payne's life - Personal Services - fascinating in that respect. Apparently the first time a prostitute's clients had turned up to defend her in court. That was the epitomy of 'white knight' . . . .)
I can give you a great reason that Pros shouldn't become friends with their clients....stalkers. Here's another: when the client sees a blurred difference between client and friend, they often start believing they're entitled to the Pro's personal time, as a friend might. These just start describing the complications from not keeping a clear client/friend boundary.
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But, hell, the distinction between business and friendship has to be clear from the outset. For every Kevin I've seen at CM complaining of high pro-domme fees, there has been at least one pro-domme using one or another rationale that tries to convince that the pro-domme/client relationship isn't one of 'service for a fee', but something much exalted. For example, it's not playing a role for a price, it's a 'tribute to a Goddess', and a 'tribute that every Goddess deserves from an inferior male' - or some such inanity. Fine, I say, if that's how pro-domme and client want to see their relationship - but it's counter-productive, I think, if purveyed to people who aren't used to D/s as primarily a business institution and culture.
I wanted to comment on this as a boi who sees the rare exception to this. MsKitty doesn't take on clients that don't interest Her. She sees the work as being paid to dominate or top someone the way She likes to that She wouldn't normally engage in such activity with for whatever reason. Either because She feels no chemistry or they're unattractive to Her or whatever. But She's not gonna agree to a sessions that doesn't stimulate Her as a sadist or Dominant.
These are just my observations of one Pro at work.
boi
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