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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 9:01:49 AM

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when your Dominant is acting like a dick?

Usually I go "Sir, with all due respect, you acting like a fucking dick and a douche." He considers it and admits to his dickery if I'm right and apologizes.

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I suspect that you communicate like this with him, in which case he either is agreeing to one thing while you think he's agreeing with another, or that he has no clue what you're saying and is simply agreeing with you to end the conversation.

Steven is a very smart man. If I were you, I'd take this to heart.

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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 9:02:34 AM

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I'm so confused!

*ah vinnie barbarino always knew what to say*

I'm confused too...

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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 1:53:02 PM

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I just think there is more here than is being said. The OP seems unclear at whats actualy wrong besides she feels her Dominant is acting like a "dick". Each post offering advise is met with a new scenerio. I strongly suspect she is upset at his being interested in other females regardless of her claim of being in a polly relationship. Also, calling the person your in a relationship with a dick in public like this is just awful! It's no wonder there are issues in the relationhship.

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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 2:10:22 PM

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I just think there is more here than is being said. The OP seems unclear at whats actualy wrong besides she feels her Dominant is acting like a "dick". Each post offering advise is met with a new scenerio. I strongly suspect she is upset at his being interested in other females regardless of her claim of being in a polly relationship. Also, calling the person your in a relationship with a dick in public like this is just awful! It's no wonder there are issues in the relationhship.

I strongly agree, with your last 2 sentences especially. It's something I might say jokingly...but not like this. Her inability to communicate the nature of the problem, makes this sound more like the temper tantrum of a spoiled child then an honest request for advice.

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RE: What to do... - 4/15/2010 6:27:41 PM

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Aquatic and Steven,

I certainly will take that under consideration.

To everyone else, yes, you're right I was very upset with him at the time that I posted and yet at the same time had no desire to air all of my dirt laundry on a public forum.

To be succinct, the problem isn't with other girls or his interest in them but rather that there is a lot of "telling people what they want to hear" going around and it is both confusing and hurtful to me. Attempts to discuss my concerns have turned into heated arguments which turn into promises of more effort and better behavior on both sides that are then summarily tossed out the window when it seems that the effort is in direct conflict with "having fun".

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RE: What to do... - 4/16/2010 6:40:09 AM

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Since I really have no idea what's truely going on in this relationship, there are several answers:

- acting like a "dick"- ignore him until he acts not like a dick, if he fades away, so be it

- looking at other girls- I veiw this the same way I would view it if nilla man wanted to stray away, if he thinks he find a better deal, he knows where the door is, he shouldn't let it him him onthe way out

- lousy communication and pretty much making promises to you he doesn't plan to keep- find the door myself

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RE: What to do... - 4/16/2010 5:51:34 PM

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Aquatic and Steven,

I certainly will take that under consideration.

To everyone else, yes, you're right I was very upset with him at the time that I posted and yet at the same time had no desire to air all of my dirt laundry on a public forum.

To be succinct, the problem isn't with other girls or his interest in them but rather that there is a lot of "telling people what they want to hear" going around and it is both confusing and hurtful to me. Attempts to discuss my concerns have turned into heated arguments which turn into promises of more effort and better behavior on both sides that are then summarily tossed out the window when it seems that the effort is in direct conflict with "having fun".

Perhaps you feel he is not as serious about the relationship as you are? Or, his behaviour is insincere? If so I better understand your problem. Perhaps he is not so much exhibiting proper Dominant/Poly behaviour as he is exhibiting, "I'm a man, I have a woman and I can bed any other woman I can lay hands on. Damn, my life is great", behaviour?

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RE: What to do... - 4/16/2010 7:44:03 PM

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I can understand the desire not to air ones dirty laundry, but to get good advice or just some commiseration I'm afraid you're going to have to be a little less vague. I don't know about anyone else in this thread but i still have no clue what's actually the problem let alone what i might have to say about it

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Aquatic and Steven,

I certainly will take that under consideration.

To everyone else, yes, you're right I was very upset with him at the time that I posted and yet at the same time had no desire to air all of my dirt laundry on a public forum.

To be succinct, the problem isn't with other girls or his interest in them but rather that there is a lot of "telling people what they want to hear" going around and it is both confusing and hurtful to me. Attempts to discuss my concerns have turned into heated arguments which turn into promises of more effort and better behavior on both sides that are then summarily tossed out the window when it seems that the effort is in direct conflict with "having fun".

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RE: What to do... - 4/17/2010 12:07:17 AM

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This conversation may be best had with one person instead of a whole forum. If there are things about this you really don't feel comfortable going into with everyone, that is.

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I can understand the desire not to air ones dirty laundry, but to get good advice or just some commiseration I'm afraid you're going to have to be a little less vague. I don't know about anyone else in this thread but i still have no clue what's actually the problem let alone what i might have to say about it

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Aquatic and Steven,

I certainly will take that under consideration.

To everyone else, yes, you're right I was very upset with him at the time that I posted and yet at the same time had no desire to air all of my dirt laundry on a public forum.

To be succinct, the problem isn't with other girls or his interest in them but rather that there is a lot of "telling people what they want to hear" going around and it is both confusing and hurtful to me. Attempts to discuss my concerns have turned into heated arguments which turn into promises of more effort and better behavior on both sides that are then summarily tossed out the window when it seems that the effort is in direct conflict with "having fun".

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RE: What to do... - 4/17/2010 1:19:49 AM

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Move on.
Have you seen how many Masters are out there?
The moment one stops measuring up to what you need, walk.
You'll be doing him a favour.
Some Masters pass their prime quickly, some never reach it.
Good hunting!

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RE: What to do... - 4/17/2010 5:19:37 AM

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So he's promising stuff just to shut you up and then not doing it? When words and actions disagree, believe actions.

He isn't someone who you can trust or believe because he's left a trail of broken promises behind.

Next time make sure the person can be trusted, is rock solid honest and has integrity before you get into a relationship.

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RE: What to do... - 4/17/2010 5:27:45 AM

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Aquatic and Steven,

I certainly will take that under consideration.

To everyone else, yes, you're right I was very upset with him at the time that I posted and yet at the same time had no desire to air all of my dirt laundry on a public forum.

To be succinct, the problem isn't with other girls or his interest in them but rather that there is a lot of "telling people what they want to hear" going around and it is both confusing and hurtful to me. Attempts to discuss my concerns have turned into heated arguments which turn into promises of more effort and better behavior on both sides that are then summarily tossed out the window when it seems that the effort is in direct conflict with "having fun".

maybe i havent woken up yet, but i still cant work out what this is about -

i think in the end its a case of youre both getting on each others tits a bit and if you cant agree on this or even agree to disagree then you should maybe take a break from each other for a bit and work out what you guys wants here.

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RE: What to do... - 4/17/2010 5:13:01 PM

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suck....

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