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Muirren -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 10:05:24 AM)
We weren't exactly on a public sidewalk, and it was done in a tasteful way. If others don't like it, they don't have to look. I'm not going to hide who I am just to be PC.

DesFIP -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 10:07:51 AM)
I can't wear tight things around my neck. I can't even tolerate a turtleneck. So I did say this to him, and why. He solved the problem and gave me a necklace to wear instead. I would hope that two intelligent people would have the sense to explain why or ask why, as the case may be. And then make modifications to solve the problem. Collaring someone and demanding they wear a collar and lose their job by violating the dress code is ridiculous. Some people work in construction and can't wear wedding rings, the risk of it catching on machinery and ripping off the finger is too great. I would expect the partner to understand.

VirginPotty -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 10:08:09 AM)
Nothing wrong w/that, Muirren. Being able to perform your duties in public w/discretion & being able to satisfy your master is wonderful![:D]

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 10:10:54 AM)
I CAN wear things around my neck but I prefer not to since it's sets off my anxiety and I don't like turtlenecks either, necklaces bother my neck too lol. quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP I can't wear tight things around my neck. I can't even tolerate a turtleneck.

littlewonder -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:04:15 PM)
I think Master would have looked at me like I just grew two heads and he'd say "you can either wear it or leave. Who are you to tell me what I can and can't do to you??". I can't ever imagine even saying that to him since for me I do whatever he wishes of me and if that means he wants me to wear a collar in public then so be it. Imo this is the difference between being a slave and being a sub.

MonPetitChaton -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:32:28 PM)
I recently had this situation. I've wanted to be collared for some time and Master surprised me one night with his acceptance. Such a beautiful, perfect, highly emotional moment....until he showed me the collar (on the net) he had chosen for me. My perfect moment destroyed because the collar he chose was silver which I'm highly allergic to. I tried to recapture my bliss by reminding myself he offered me the commitment and that was what mattered. Still, it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do to tell him, gently and meekly and with tears in my eyes of my allergy. It destroyed me to have to put a dampener on our moment but it needed to be done. As it was Master thanked me for speaking up. Having his property damaged reflects badly upon himself.

Elsinoresub -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:33:31 PM)
Aw. That really sucks. I feel bad for you. Did he get you a new collar? ~C

MonPetitChaton -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:39:40 PM)
We have yet to have our collaring ceremony and he will gift me with his collar that fits within my limitations.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:45:03 PM)
I find it strange that collaring is something people think requires an actual collar. If this were to happen to me. I'd simply solve the problem by finding out what option worked better for her a necklace a ring a tattoo or no symbol needed at all. See the collar I give exists in the mind which is where I want it to be seen. QSM

MonPetitChaton -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:54:57 PM)
I consider myself owned even though we haven't had our ceremony. Mentally I am collared even if the physical hasn't happened yet. I still feel bad about the spoiled moment.

winterlight -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/16/2010 4:58:05 PM)
Agrees with DS.. For me something dainty around my neck would work. But that isn't ever gonna happen!

GinoVega -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 12:02:59 AM)
Even though collars are a kink for me as well as deep symbolism, when it comes to the actual "collaring" I have found that mental collaring, if done right, becomes more permanent and rather effective. With a physical "collar" the reminder that one is owned can be removed and slowly forgotten if one wishes; especially in cases where one is abandoned. Mental collaring, though, is something very hard to break one's self from. They know in their mind and heart that they belong to you and even if they try to move on or are abandoned, they will always feel that twinge of connection to you and internal mark that no matter what, part of your heart and soul is always theirs.

reynardfox -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 1:42:57 AM)
I would respect thier views entirely, especially if it involved them displaying the relationship in public, which if I were to request that,would mean that their integrity and dignity meant nothing to me. If you have had someone submit completely to you, then what would you be missing if they declined the honour to display that submission in public? I would never expect a sexual partner to confirm in public that I had enjoyed their favours, why would BDSM be any different? I have had many long term sexual relationships and more than a few slaves who were married or in other relationships and was quite happy just to enjoy the pleasure of them without seeking to attempt to formalise or publicise the fact. I have always bought them collars, where they choose to keep or wear them is their business, as long as they wear them for me when we are together. Just old fashioned, I suppose.

Andalusite -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 3:34:47 PM)
My Master hasn't formally collared me, or given me a relationship physical symbol yet. I wear his collar when we are in private together, but he doesn't want me to wear it in public places. If he chooses to collar me, he'll probably pick something that I can wear all of the time, even to work or to see my Grandma, without getting asked a lot of nosey questions. If he did choose to have me wear a Petco special and wanted me to wear it all the time, it might be an issue, but that isn't his style. If he didn't care about me getting reprimanded at work or causing conflict with my family, we probably wouldn't have been compatible in the first place. There are a lot of options I would be proud and happy to wear all the time.

sunshinemiss -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 4:03:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VirginPotty Your slave has said "No thank you. I want to be your property but I have no desire to wear a collar especially in public". What would you do? The real question, though, Pots, is how YOUR dude feels about it...

domiguy -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 4:23:25 PM)
anyone that has ever spent any time with me knows that the word "collar" would never come out of my mouth in describing the commitment that we share. Might give her a necklace or a new pair of chuck taylors.

Missokyst -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 4:28:45 PM)
This is similar to my thought as well. Since people often say they consider a collar as more of a committment than marriage I am confused by the need of a symbol to signify their bond. I mean.. if a woman puts her wedding ring down to wash the dishes and it falls into the sink does that mean she is no longer married? Why are so many people in need of a symbol that should not be the focus of how they feel about one another? quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan I find it strange that collaring is something people think requires an actual collar. If this were to happen to me. I'd simply solve the problem by finding out what option worked better for her a necklace a ring a tattoo or no symbol needed at all. See the collar I give exists in the mind which is where I want it to be seen. QSM

leadership527 -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/17/2010 8:22:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VirginPotty Your slave has said "No thank you. I want to be your property but I have no desire to wear a collar especially in public". I would tell the person they are not a slave, but a sub instead and deal with them accordingly.

kadine -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/18/2010 3:12:39 AM)
quote: I have seen quite a few girls tell stories of how a collar was briefly or accidentally removed, and the emotional panic reaction they experienced, logical or not. And many girls love to touch their collars, to feel its weight, and the sense of connection it gives them. Thank you for this. You took the words right out of my mouth. For some, like me, it represents a lot more than just that of a symbol, especially when I'm apart from him. It's a "tangible" link to him because for me, the world is a very scary place with intimidating people and that collar was like a security blanket. When I was owned, I needed that collar, at all times, the only time it was removed was when I was released. :(

Aylee -> RE: You want to collar your slave but...................... (4/18/2010 3:47:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VirginPotty Your slave has said "No thank you. I want to be your property but I have no desire to wear a collar especially in public". What would you do? Brand them. [:)]

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