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HEavy Discipline - 3/19/2004 7:15:19 PM

TVslutNJ

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Why is it that many Mistresses promise heavy discipline but never deliver. I am very into heavy pain thru whipping and needles plus enema training but the more I require they just don't deliver

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RE: HEavy Discipline - 3/19/2004 9:28:32 PM

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probably because you not being specific about exactly what sort of kink your into.. I do whips.. I dont do needles.. further Im not into blood play.. you need to find someone whos level of play matches your own..

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RE: HEavy Discipline - 3/20/2004 6:33:24 AM

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Heavy Pain does not come from Master/Mistress per say but Dominants whom are Sadists and this may be where { you } are failing in your search. Have you asked those whom you ingaged with if They are Sadists?? If not then..........come to Florida Ill show you pain............~smiles~ wickedly

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RE: HEavy Discipline - 3/20/2004 2:52:46 PM

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This is just my humble opinion based on something I have experienced...

It may also be that the Dominant cares too much about you to give you heavy pain. I know that when I am operating in my submissive space, I can be worked up to a pretty heavy pain level, but have found that the Dominants that I have played with that I had a romantic, caring relationship with could not go beyond a certain point. I think that perhaps in the Dom space, there might be a fleeting thought of "wait a minute, I LOVE this person" or "I care about this person" and they stop short of really meeting the submissive's needs.

Also remember, it's the Dominant making the decisions. Maybe her arms got tired. It's hard work giving a heavy pain paddling or beating or whatever.

Paddling is one of my favorite activities and there was a time when I was not getting it hard enough from the ex. I literally burst into tears and explained to him how much I needed him to be more aggressive with me in that area. Once he understood clearly that it was not a "want", but a "need", he was much more capable of accomodating it.

Standard disclaimer: this is only an opinion from my personal experience.

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RE: HEavy Discipline - 3/31/2004 12:39:54 PM

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Ms. Sylverdawn i agree 100%

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RE: HEavy Discipline - 3/31/2004 6:22:51 PM

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Why is it that many Mistresses promise heavy discipline but never deliver. I am very into heavy pain thru whipping and needles plus enema training but the more I require they just don't deliver

You require?

See a pro, my man. If you're smart (and know yourself well enough) you'll do your research and pick the right pro.

I'm thinking the problem is that you aren't looking in the right places. Are you one of those boys who'll play with anybody and then complain when it doesn't live up to your expectations? Do you tell the people you play with that you can't be marked? Do you ask her what her limits are before you agree to play? Do you check her references? Do you ask around about her and see if she's known and if so what for?

I've been told, on occasion, that I'm a fairly severe player. I feel pretty confident that I would know severe when I saw it and I know a number of women who, individually, could make ANYBODY scream "YA'LL quit."

I'm of the opinion that any woman who would accept your 'requirements' is probably not going to have the spine you seek; or will be willing to enter into a business arrangement regarding your 'requirements.' Sounds like a catch 22 created in the mind, to me.

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