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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/21/2010 5:58:35 PM

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My freedom and I got to know one another pretty quickly once we started talking on the phone. Within 2 weeks we had decided that we should definitely meet. I had just gotten back my income tax, she had been out of work for some time due to health issues. So I sent her a bus ticket -one way, with the promise of a return ticket when she got ready to go home. (the trust this woman put in me still amazes me!) She never requested that return ticket and this is home now.
That said, I believe that it's a case-by-case kind of thing. Each person's finances, role in the relationship, comfort level, etc have to be taken into consideration. Whatever works for you. I don't believe there is a right or wrong way.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/21/2010 6:26:58 PM

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hopefully, by any means possible.
by flying fish if I have to.
Wheels are nice too.
The kick in the pants is distance.

It would not feel right for her to pay. Then again. I have very little to begin with. Sporadic Employment is better than None.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 1:00:12 AM

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Whoever has the authority within the relationship decides who pays for relocation.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 3:10:43 AM

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Where I lived I had my offspring and my grandchildren near me. I didn't want to leave them. But my future, the rest of my life is with my Master and offspring are out of the nest. Master has no family but has the type of job that would be difficult to impossible to duplicate where I lived. We decided together that it was in the interest of our relationship for me to move to Him. I had limited financial resources but I used what I had and He used some of His and we made it work.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 4:11:44 AM

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HAH! Managed to sneak onto cm on the work computer. Still can't sneak the other sites through the firewall, apparently. Hrmph. Ah well, on-topic:

It'd depend on the couple in question. A couple of quick hypothetical scenarios:
If I were to relocate to a Domme and I had the cash... of course I'd pay for it. If I have the financial oomph needed, then it's my responsibility. If she were to relocate, and didn't have the financial stability for it, I'd still pay for it as that's what someone in a relationship does. You help the other with what they need/can't provide for themselves. If I was broke, and couldn't rustle up the money for relocation, and she offered... I'd take it, knowing that it's an offer given in order for us to get together and able to provide for eachother.

The person that's relocating should pay what they can, I feel. But only what they can. Just uprooting yourself in order to move to your significant other is a major step, and should be appreciated enough by the other one, that helping in any way conceivable shouldn't even be an issue.In the end, it's all about who can afford what, and how the couple feels financial matters should be resolved. There's no way to create a universally applicable answer to this.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 6:22:16 AM

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This was inspired by this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3167330/tm.htm

assuming one of you relocates.. who is responsible in yopr opinion for funding that relocation?

(forget the scammer mail, this is aimed at real relocations.) how did you do it?

The father of the bride pays.... dowry optional.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 7:30:18 AM

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I think the man should pay..

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 8:05:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: Phoenix73Sir

This was inspired by this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3167330/tm.htm

assuming one of you relocates.. who is responsible in yopr opinion for funding that relocation?

(forget the scammer mail, this is aimed at real relocations.) how did you do it?

The father of the bride pays.... dowry optional.

Does that mean you'll be giving me away at my wedding????

Seriously, that has to be decided between the two individuals and based upon many factors like who is able to afford the expenses or if one is able to assist in moving expenses. Where I to want my boy to move to me, I would help as much as I can but I would not pay all his moving expenses.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 9:16:25 AM

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Whoever is most able... or possibly some split? I dunno. I'm assuming both people want this relocation to happen. Unless I'm buying my slave from Slaves 'R Us, I don't pay shipping and handling.

i paid the shipping

he promised the handling

but, seriously, i dont see making a man pay for my moving costs. that way, if it doesnt work out, he cant toss it up later how much i owe him.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 3:56:30 PM

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I think the man should pay..

why?

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 6:14:26 PM

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We only live about 16 miles apart right now...but if we were going to move in together I am sure he would pay for the movers but I would ask to pay half or even more and see what he said and whatever the answer i would be fine with it but we are not at that point yet.

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RE: who should pay for relocation? - 4/22/2010 6:33:17 PM

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When I first flew out to Australia to see if a relationship had a chance to work, he paid. Probably one of the more expensive first dates out there but hey :P

After he proposed and the relocation was permanent it was mostly my parents and my inheritance that paid for it but he did help out a lot.

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