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cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 12:43:16 PM

slo18

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hi all, ok I am new at this I am a submissive female who is haveing a cyber fling witha switch , ok fine we hope to go RT at some point, but the thing is he wants me to be able to dominate him as well as be submisive to him and I want to do that. while I seem to be able to do it I have actualy run out of tasks for him and was wondering if anyone here had any sugestions there is still week and half left till we agreed to switch roles again. I did a surch but it turned up sooo much that I just couldent wade though it all sigh he enjoyes being humilated and forced feminization
thank u

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 12:46:07 PM

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If you have run out of ideas, then, speaking as a dominant, perhaps it is not the wisest idea for you to "top" this gentleman on a regular basis, or at least not until you have had more experience with it.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 1:02:19 PM

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Find tasks that can be repeated, such as an essay on a specific word...or a book report...or finding a picture that breeds a fantasy (and write the fantasy). Or, is that not the kind of thing you had in mind? Are you looking for play ideas?

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 1:18:19 PM

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But how does a person get experience?

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 2:20:33 PM

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Munches, play parties, discussions with dominants about the topic. Then, personally, I would suggest writing assignments on a wide variety of topics, such as "Why do you want to be a submissive?" and "Why should you submit to me?"

Just a suggestion.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/5/2006 9:17:10 PM

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No matter what you believe, you don't get experience in cyber or virtual Domination and submission. There's a reason it's called cyber, virtual and "the safest sex".

In cyber you may think a particular fetish is the greatest thing. In reality it could turn you right off. Whether you sub, Dom or Switch you do not have experience until you have real experience.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/6/2006 2:08:55 AM

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I agree that munches and brunches and on and on are a great way to get experince but one problem I live in rural kansas. I am an hour from the nearest wall mart anyone want to take a guess how far from the nearest group that does thease things? try two and half hours. I work nights the mucnhes are held on wednesday morning. I have run out of ideas, because I am new to this, if it were a woman I would have no problem I dont know what to do with a male in sub mode. and I am more comfortable right now asking for advice from other switches since thats what he is. I also relize that fantisy and reality are diffrent things and that cyber feeds into the fantisy and the reality often does not live up. I also know that its not real expernce. I how ever have found for myself that doing things on line makes the transition to doing them IRL a little s moother atleast it does for me. he dosent find wrighting assignments at all fun so lol I think i will asign him one. I do thank u both for that sugestion.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/6/2006 7:54:36 AM

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I live in a small town where everything is about an hour drive away. In your case when it's more than an hour could you start your own local group? Have you met a couple of other people into BDSM in your area?

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/6/2006 12:50:21 PM

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sadly no I have never met anyone who lived with in say a half hour of my small area. but u have to remeber bible belt kansas if u are kinky u tend to hid it so i wouldent hear much. how would a person go about starting a group?

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/6/2006 1:29:26 PM

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An easy way would be to start out talking with your close friends, and see if any of them identify with the things you enjoy, whether on a grand scale or smaller one. Common interests is frequently what starts munches. From there, you can branch out by talking to people you know at work, or school. First time I was ever invited to a munch was because of a bumper sticker, amusingly enough.

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me."

Spent about a week chatting with the guy that came over and started talking to me about that reaction, then went to his local group as a spectator and drove people nearly insane with an endless list of questions. Things just progressed from there.

Beyond that, I don't really have any other advice to give you, slo18. I do wish you the best of luck, though. Like you said, Kansas tends to be slightly reserved in terms of sexuality, especially in the smaller towns. Anything under the size of Lawrence will quite possibly be very conservative when it comes to sex and/or relationships.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/7/2006 1:51:21 AM

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everyone with the exception of my family knows my intrests. I am a very open person wheni t comes to me lol anyways back to the oringian all topic, been thinking alot and the big problem is I keep comeing up for things that are RT he has a cam so I have had him do some tasks and send pictures proving it. for example shave his legs. right now he is asking about going out in public in his sissy clothing, and while this sounds fun, I dont want him toping from the bottom, and I want him to be safe about it. last thing i want is some ignorant red neack hurtting my boy.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/7/2006 7:29:10 AM

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have him research and then write a story on sounds. If it makes his blood boil, and yours, make him purchase them and then when he's been a good boytoy, make him show you on cam what he has learned.

Ahhhh I see sounds

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/7/2006 9:04:06 AM

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how would a person go about starting a group?

Same way I started mine. You decide what you want to do with the group, decide where you want to meet and when, make several announcements letting people know where you'll be and when, and how to recognize you, and then make sure you get there early.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/7/2006 12:53:58 PM

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why thank u Evanesce, I think that would work well in my area.

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RE: cyber tasks for a switch - 4/7/2006 1:33:29 PM

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I think that Evenesce's idea is loads better than my suggestion. Then again, I'm also a bit more lackidaisical than most people when it comes to muches and talk-a-rounds and what not like that. Figure people know where it will be and if they feel like putting in an appearance, that's up to them.

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