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RE: "Dom" Frenzy? - 5/10/2010 8:52:34 AM

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As one who detests the term "sub frenzy," I don't see "dom frenzy" as being any more valid. I'm not saying that "frenzied" type behavior doesn't happen, I just don't think it should get a nice, clinical term. I think it should be called what it really is: grown people using poor judgment and making stupid choices without concern for the consequences. It happens with subs, doms, vanilla-types and every sort of human being. Being kinky and full of endorphins doesn't excuse moronic behavior. Never has, never will..........luci

I agree with this, although, I recognize that not everyone in life is equipped for relationships when going out in the world. All grown ups exercise poor judgment at some point in their lives - some apply it toward relationships, others toward business transactions, others toward their health, and so on. I think the term "frenzy" regarding relationships comes in when someone is so excited about a fun new relationship that they don't see or think straight. I've seen this in any kind of relationship, though, not just D/s. The BDSM activities, and the feelings that come with submitting for the first time (or, perhaps, dominating for the first time), may bring someone to a new level of poor judgment because they're so focused on these new feelings that they miss everything else. I've been guilty of that myself, in the past.

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RE: "Dom" Frenzy? - 5/11/2010 2:47:08 AM

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Dom Frenzy = Bob Rusk taking breath play too far.

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RE: "Dom" Frenzy? - 5/11/2010 6:07:57 AM

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....Seen it in Dominant's too?

I think any is at risk of putting their brains in neutral.. so yes I seen in Dominants too.

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RE: "Dom" Frenzy? - 5/11/2010 6:54:08 AM

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Call me cyncical or in it long enough to be over all that first blush. I have even taking a pause from the BDSM til I got my life and emotions on straight during an emotionally hard year. I find myself laughing at some.

But when someone I am attracted to but have been questioning his motives(and hes a newbie) says"Once you have me, you will be controlled by my dick". I said,"That shit works with the newbies,LOL"?

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RE: "Dom" Frenzy? - 5/12/2010 3:18:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

after reading more replies, and thinking on this, i believe i may have a different definition of my frenzy than others have of what they consider being in a frenzy.

for me, it was all an internal frenzy, kept in check by me. it never caused me to run out and do things i regretted, it just kept me attuned to him every moment.

i could never get in that state and just go out looking for anyone and everyone to fulfill my needs. but then again, i was well into my 40's when i discovered what i was. had i found this in my 20's, who the hell knows!

Ditto. Whenever I've been away from power exchange for a while, when I get even a small taste of my fix, part of my mind goes into shark mode...a shark that smells blood in the water, lol. In the past few months I've been in it several times, and I turned to a friend to help anchor me through the rush. For those Star Trek nerds out there, all I can do to describe the sensation is...that it's like Vulcan Pon Farr or Klingon mating instinct, lol, only vanilla sex had nothing to do with it. If I'd had my needs met, then I wouldn't have to go through "going without."

I believe others have also gone through this too, between partners. It's not only a newbie lemming thing, and doesn't have to be acted upon.

I like the words "dom/me frenzy" because it describes the feeling well, for me. I also know when to keep my internal beast in chains.

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