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how was it? - 3/20/2004 7:50:14 AM   
CoolScentDomme


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Status: offline 		I have been a Domme for awhile now{many many years} and one question I would like to ask is this...

when a submissive is involved with his/her ....Dom/Domme Is the sceen much better? When it is just a play thing and no emotions are involved is that just as good?
What was the best sceen and how important is it to you now?
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RE: how was it? - 3/20/2004 8:21:44 AM   
seattleminx


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ORIGINAL: CoolScentDomme

I have been a Domme for awhile now{many many years} and one question I would like to ask is this...

when a submissive is involved with his/her ....Dom/Domme Is the sceen much better? When it is just a play thing and no emotions are involved is that just as good?
What was the best sceen and how important is it to you now?


There's an old joke... sex is like Pizza...even when it's bad, it's still pretty good.

Better? Better is subjective. Some people simply like the individual scenes without getting emotionally involved. In fact, I know of one switch in DC who,when in a scene, likes to be degraded so much, that if any amount of compassion or emotion is shown, it destroys the scene for her.

However, there are many folks who desire the emotional bond between their Dom and themselves. It helps facilitate the idea of "I've let my Dom down", which is a very effective punishment tool for those of us into mental torture.

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RE: how was it? - 3/20/2004 1:15:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		It will vary a lot from person to person, but an emotional attachment helps for me. (I agree with seattleminx's comment about sex being like pizza though.:))

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RE: how was it? - 3/20/2004 3:30:56 PM   
MistressIvory


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Status: offline 		I have been a Domme for many, many years also. I personally find that the scenes where there isn't an emotional involvement are best. I think the fact that my favorite scenes are sadistic has something to do with that though. If there is an emotional involvement the need to protect would get in the way of the desire to inflict pain.

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RE: how was it? - 3/22/2004 1:45:38 PM   
iwillserveu


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Status: offline 		If a Domme are going to seriously hurt me then I have to love you to submit to that. Whether you love the sub or not may be irrelevant to the sub at that point. (I know it would be for me.)

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RE: how was it? - 3/22/2004 3:24:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CoolScentDomme

I have been a Domme for awhile now{many many years} and one question I would like to ask is this...

when a submissive is involved with his/her ....Dom/Domme Is the sceen much better? When it is just a play thing and no emotions are involved is that just as good?
What was the best sceen and how important is it to you now?


For me and my Dom, I feel an emotional attachement is absolutely necessary.
He knows the way I move. The looks on my face. If I needed to safeword I would'nt even need to he would already know.
What happens to a submissive playing with someone with no involvement whatsoever? Say they are gagged. Its a relatively new Dominant and they have'nt learned of the egg trick or anything else. How do they then know?

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RE: how was it? - 3/23/2004 12:10:33 AM   
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Say they are gagged. Its a relatively new Dominant and they have'nt learned of the egg trick or anything else. How do they then know?


What is the "egg trick"?

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RE: how was it? - 3/23/2004 9:41:53 AM   
EStrict


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What is the "egg trick"?


Well, Easter is in a few weeks.... could it be like *hide the colored egg*? Have to admit I have never heard of any other *egg* tricks either. The serious one that came to mine was always done with a scarf. Giving it to the person bound and gagged so they could *drop it* as a *red* sign. Much easier to clean up :)

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RE: how was it? - 3/23/2004 12:14:02 PM   
sub4hire


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What is the "egg trick"?


More or less what Sandy referred to. The Dom would get a hard boiled egg..put it in the subs hand. If it wavered..or dropped it was time to stop. They used to do that, in, should I say the old guard days. My Dom and I were invited to a gay party back in 86. Organized lifestyle was around then..just not as prevalant.
Anyway, thats the one thing we took from that party. Our learning process for the day. The egg trick.
Although as Sandy said you could pretty much use anything.

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RE: how was it? - 3/23/2004 2:54:08 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		Gloria, I would think that at a gay party, there may have been another kind of egg trick.
Nothing up my............ sleeve?

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RE: how was it? - 3/23/2004 3:40:43 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the reply Gloria, sound like a good idea if you are gagged.

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