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And she was not at all dominant, just really cute.

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I've become fascinated by the natural power that women have over men, often unknowingly, and how it has everything to do with sex and desire. 

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I'm sure it isn't always so unknowingly, and that women are often aware of their subtle power.

I think that maybe, at least for me, a woman's natural dominance is sexual in an immediate way. 

For you, yes.  For others, maybe not.  Funny how that "individual" thing works.

You can control a man because you are a woman, and there is this desire. 

What about a man who isn't sexually attracted to me who feels no desire and yet is willing to do something for me simply because I ask?  Is that control?  Is that manipulation?  Or, is that just one person doing for another?

As you said, just being pleasant, it feels good to be around a woman, if a woman smiles at me in passing it can make my whole day.  But it is a kind of sexual desire, maybe. 

Maybe...maybe not.  Maybe it's you who has confused feeling a sense of pleasure from being helpful or being show kindness by a woman with sexual desire.  Do you feel this way when a not-so-pretty-and-very-plain woman smiles at you in passing?

And there is a kind of inward desire as well.  That maybe a man will naturally want to make a woman happy, because of how it makes him feel about himself, pleasing her to please himself.  But now I'm thinking in riddles... 

Ohhhh, that's a riddle I'd love to solve!  But, is that inward desire sexually based or does it come from somewhere else?   Is it the same for everyone?

I think that there is another, deeper kind of dominance that has to do with personality, but I think it never seizes to be based on a natural sexual desire.

Again, it would depend on what turns on your submissive switch, in my opinion.  Some men are very attracted to a dominant personality that kicks in their sexual desire and some men are sexually/visually driven in their desire to show submission. 
 

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I've become fascinated by the natural power that women have over men, often unknowingly, and how it has everything to do with sex and desire.  I once had a coworker, who was really cute, and she ordered a pizza.  And when the guy came to deliver it, she asked him if it came with a soda?  He said no of course.  But then he came back like 5 minutes later with a soda for her.  I'm sure he went to the little market down the street and bought it himself.  And she was not at all dominant, just really cute.  But I wonder, if dominant women find themselves subtly controlling or dominating men out in the world, not in an explicitly D/s situation, but just as a woman who is dominant, and is engaging socially with a man.  I wonder if a woman who is aware of her dominance over men, this sexual power really, if anyone has ever tested it and tried to push a man to do something for you.  And I mean not a sub, offering himself, but just a man.

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Some of the most dominant women I have known with a long term relationship with very handsome men, were not even on a pretty scale. It was how they conducted themselves, the mental and emotional triggers that they caused in men

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Through my eyes, most men are very easy to control. Even most of the men that consider themselves dominant. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

This statement will be true for any woman who has authentic charm. But I'd say persuade or influence rather than control, but that's me.

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