doubleLeo
Posts: 50
Joined: 11/26/2004 Status: offline
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Hello! I would identify with pretty much of what has been said....different with different people-like what "they bring out" in you...and I have experienced small "role" reversals in a one-on-one ltr...but that switch was more like a novelty on His end of things.. But also, regardless of what others bring out, I also have an inner relationship to my own self (as a switch).. and how I am choosing to relate to me. There is most definitely a choice to pursue one or the other. Its not like I look to dom someone, and then "run into " another dominant who changes my inner desire for the same.The need to dominate would still be there. Ha- it would be hard pressed to say if my submissive side lives vicariously through my Dominant parts, or vice versa..especially since I enjoy denial so very much. After all, the "Dom in your head" as a submissive might be the "Dom in your bed" with someone else.... I have an empathetic connection to both perspectives in a scene, but still keeping in mind, that this is a self oriented process..having very little to do with the others involved. Its not like I am submissive with a certain someone, and then while in play, I am having dominant thoughts to the contrary. The "halves" both need full expression ( at least for me), and in order to do that, will utilize consistency over an elapsed time. In other words, if I am submissive with a person, then I usually am always submissive with them in the play...etc.. While some would say that the parts "take turns"..it kind of depends on how you relate to sexuality..I am not pleasure driven through my sexuality alone..I am quite content to have one partner, and be mentally stimulated ( and happy) with the dynamics being a certain way permanently. Some switches I know are quite miserable without both a Dom and a sub in their life...I personally can barely make ltrs work with one, let alone two..haha... hard to say..good question. With that said, I have had, once, a dynamic where there was a simultaneous constant switching and that was shown to me..this person saw the potential for that kind of play and brought it out of me. it was very fast paced, very non verbal and kind of left me with a headache! Haha it was very fast paced...leaving me feeling uncertain of the power dynmaics of what took place..refreshing in one way, frustrating in another... dL
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