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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/9/2006 5:14:48 PM   
MstrssPassion


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acctonthelook & SirKenin

Like did either of you ever like watch Scooby-Doo?

As to reading the post... just let your eyes skim past the word that troubles you & the rest reads fairly straight forward.

zenditz...
If your new to online & finding problems with folks it is most likely just the trolls & jerks that travel the net under the premise of being a master or a dominant.

Trust your instincts & don't play into the online lifestyle BS.

I see you are picking up on that whole slashy capital crap... that H/he, S/she, I/i thing is what makes my eyes cross... I'll take like 100 like repeated uses of like the word like over like having to weed out all of this like slashy things like gumming up the passage.

You have most likely noticed that when you first opened your CM account that you were immediately flooded with all types of happy campers jockeying for your attention... new accounts get dropped right into the shark pool with your friendly neighborhood wankers, trolls, SirLordMasterDomlyDom, King-Shit-Wannabe & players being the most likely first few to hit you up for action. These guys don't even really check to see if a person is a dominant, submissive or even remotely local before they pounce.

Good luck with the site... just be patient & don't put up with the BS.

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/9/2006 5:30:21 PM   
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Umm, do you think we are, like, being had?

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/9/2006 7:41:23 PM   
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This is just like to like hard to like read. Too bad my like daughter is to like young to share this with, because I've like had to break her of the like like habit like more then like once now.

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/9/2006 8:03:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LegoDom

This is just like to like hard to like read. Too bad my like daughter is to like young to share this with, because I've like had to break her of the like like habit like more then like once now.



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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/9/2006 9:37:06 PM   
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What Jali said...you can be whatever you want to be...the question is will you find somebody to be that with. And that, only time will tell.

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/11/2006 5:44:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion
If your new to online & finding problems with folks it is most likely just the trolls & jerks that travel the net under the premise of being a master or a dominant.

Trust your instincts & don't play into the online lifestyle BS.

I see you are picking up on that whole slashy capital crap... that H/he, S/she, I/i thing is what makes my eyes cross... I'll take like 100 like repeated uses of like the word like over like having to weed out all of this like slashy things like gumming up the passage.


Thank You MstrssPassion,

I personally agree with you on the whole slashy capital crappy stuff... it's just like what seemed to be like proper netiquette for message boards and chat rooms in like our community... and in like more than a few rooms I've been in I've been like almost yelled at for like not doing it right.  Of course that was just cause like I didn't know yet.  I guess every community has it's own kinda vibes.  I no longer go to IRC for those reasons you mentioned.  It was just like insanely nerve wracking.

As for like the one who pounce, I so totally got pounced on when I first activated my account.. it was like OMG?  I mean my profile hadn't even been like approved yet, or any of my pictures and i had something like 30 messages... it was just like totally overwhelming.  Especially with like how vulgar and just plain nasty many were.  Like treating me like I was already like their's or whatever... it was kinda like IRC all over, and it kinda kept up for several days, and that's actually what like prompted me to post this.  I mean it's like gotten better, or slower I guess, but I was just surprised at how many like... and I hate to use this word... predators there seemed to be here.

Like, finally... I seriously like had no problem reading like any part of your lil like sentence... I mean it's like okay I got the point and like whatever... but sorry everyone it's just like how my brain works.  I'm serious, internal dialog, talking, even like when I was computer programming.  Like I get poked at here, you like can't even imagine like 20 geeks trying to make fun of function names just cause they like actually like make sense, or might have like in them or whatever... it's just how I think... and I'm not like obsessed with like changing like my internal dialog and like all that... I mean come on.  But I know you meant it all in good fun, and I like totally got you joke... I should like put that on like a bumper sticker or something and put it on my wheel chair LOL.

Take care,
       Katie

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/12/2006 12:31:17 PM   
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i cannot possibly believe that anyone speaks that poorly...especially in a written forum
i tried deciphering it all but my brain hurts now

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/12/2006 8:56:10 PM   
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Katie & MistressPassion,
 
I am far from being shallow or disinterested in offering help to someone.  I do resent being put in that catagory.  I simply asked for an edit, but Katie you are not interested in finding compromise. 
 
Good Luck to you.

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/12/2006 9:49:55 PM   
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Bottoms are pretty independent.....
So are SAMmies !!!

Ok, ok.... you asked about "submissives". 
Some Dominants I know actually work at helping their submissives become more independent  -- in certain ways. But I need to be careful with that word. Not independent in ALL things!  He may prefer she depend on Him deeply for some things. Maybe He enjoys emotional dependence ? Commonly required is sexual dependence -- lol. (Odd, Who'da thunk it, huh?)

Think of some other adjectives ---                                                 And  other categories ---

Self-motivated?   Self-inspired?  Creative?                                        Financially independent?
Intuitive pleaser?                                                                               Psychologically independent.
Challenging ?                                                                                    Socially independent ?  
Spunky?                                                                                                 maybe even (gasp!)
Bull- headed?                                                                                    Politically Independent !!!

< Message edited by willowheart -- 4/12/2006 9:58:17 PM >

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RE: can i be an indepent submissive? - 4/13/2006 3:39:05 AM   
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Like Here is a suggestion, every time you like  start to type LIKE - Don't! 

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RE: can i be an independent submissive? - 4/13/2006 5:26:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: zenditz

quote:

ORIGINAL: ladychatterley
I think, however, you can be more effective in your search.  I'm sorry to be blunt, but you have chosen a very distracting mannerism and it makes you come across as if you are 12.  You are clearly smart, but we judge people on the way they use language.  The way you are choosing to use language will turn off many intelligent people.


your like opinions are noted,

and like ignored.  i'm not stupid, nor naive, so like i'm not going to just like let any like wanna be Dom control me.  i've like worked hard on being proud of like who i am in all aspects of who i am.  i talk like, how i talk, cause of like how i've lived, my friends, and like everything.  So like one of my hard limits is personality modifications... and so like i'm like so totally not going to not be just like exactly whoever i am just to like 'entice' Doms to like contact me... cause i'm like still gonna be me, and i like actually like who i am.  and like if like how i talk turns of intelligent people, than not only are they not like as intelligent as they seem to like think they are, they're being like totally shallow, and judgemental, and than i like wouldn't want that kinda Dom any way.  i am like smart, despite how you like may have liked judged me.  i can talk about just about as much geeky like whatever You want, like physics, politics, philosophy, or like millions of other stuff.  So if like just cause like how i talk makes someone think i'm stupid, well than that would just like totally show which one of us was like being judgemental and shallow, and like more than a lil.... dump.

So, like no i have like no plans on changing who i am, i'm like looking for someone to love me... and that's like all of me.  even ditzy cheerleader part, and geeky web designer, and m theory physics geek.  So like OMG i'm like not exactly just two dimensional and shallow... but like if that's where someone like wants to like put me cause i'm like blond, with blue eyes, and kinda like talk valley, than that's T/their lose, cause like that means T/they've at least like lost a chance to having like a way fun friend.

Like buh-bye grammar teacher,
    Kate


Definitely have to agree with ladychatterly...I like have no clue how you have succeeded in the business world like speaking like Moon Unit Zappa.......Valley has been dead for 20+ years......her advice was sound, unless you are looking for a daddydom, not sure many Doms would care to hear the word "like" every 5 seconds.......but again just mho, so bash and ignore me as well..........but you you definitely sound like a kid with that kind of talk

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RE: can i be an independent submissive? - 4/13/2006 5:43:27 AM   
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From a personal perspective, and slave who contacted me and wrote "like"  all the time, or used it conversation, would be either not be considered or would be permanantly gagged unless her mouth was being put to good use in other ways...... Grizzlies have delicate ears.... 

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RE: can i be an independent submissive? - 4/13/2006 6:53:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

From a personal perspective, and slave who contacted me and wrote "like"  all the time, or used it conversation, would be either not be considered or would be permanantly gagged unless her mouth was being put to good use in other ways...... Grizzlies have delicate ears.... 


i'm grinning at the visual

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RE: can i be an independent submissive? - 4/13/2006 7:33:20 PM   
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I realize I am late in this conversation, but I need to address the issue,
Since when did submissive and dependent ever become one word,
All I have to say is, the real worth of a sub lies in her streangth, not weakness.
Any master with weak subs seems to be showing his own weakness, the respect I have for the Masters I know in real time comes from the power thier subs radiate, the confidence and independence they have is astounding, and the joy of a strong sub that serves is worth more then a houndred dependent subs.
Weak sub=Weak Master
and there is my rant for the day

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RE: can i be an independent submissive? - 4/13/2006 9:47:45 PM   
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One thing I am surprised nobody seemed to address is the fact that while the Dom is in charge the sub is the one with equal and/or greater power.  Subs CHOOSE to give control to the Dom of there choosing.  If a Dom does not meet your wants/needs/desires then dont CHOOSE them.  I dont think it is a matter of you bein too independent, I think it is a matter of the Doms in question not meetin your wants/needs/desires.  Personally I would tell them thanks but no thanks and keep lookin.  If they continue to pursue you, the block option is a wonderful thing especially for the nasty ones.  Best of luck in your search.

subKestral

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