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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 9:48:48 AM

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OH, and choose a different pic.... That one is way too submissive. See what LadyPact and I use? Compare and contrast. Just sayin'

ETA: Face shot a concern? Lady Angelika is a good example.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 9:51:45 AM

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I heart Lance!

I am not a fan of "creating" submissives, but then I am an ubersadist. and masos don't magically discover themselves in middle age (USUALLY!). It's very true though, demeanor is very important. Avoid lawyers though. I'm not saying all lawyers are evil, but Shakespeare had a good point, yanno?

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 9:57:02 AM

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There are Do Me subs and then there are real ones. We're talking about the former. A Do Me sub with the traits mentioned probably wouldn't waste any effort on "humoring" a domme as there are a good number of Do Me and Minimally Serve Me Dommes. Projecting perhaps?

Actually, the fake-ry is exactly why I wouldn't even give a dom a double take. On the fence with switches. I'm well aware that I can get a dom on his knees, but I don't want someone who isn't there for My pleasure.

I'm not against men who become sexually dominant in the heat of the moment. The animalistic passion in the heat of the moment is sexy. I've come across a few in the ol vanilla love life who bite or underestimate their strength especially during the mid to late stages of sex. I don't let on at all about being a Domme if it's short-term. I love German chocolate ice cream. Once in a blue moon, I'll have Rocky Road. It may not be my favorite flavor, but dammit, it's better than vanilla.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 9:57:34 AM

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Have to agree with Lance here. There was a thread not too long back about how hard it is to take someone seriously when they post a pic of themselves in their underwear.

ETA - Actually, in reading this thread, I'm getting the impression that you have some matters to settle (location, job, etc) that might be a little higher on the priority list before bringing a sub into your life.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:06:58 AM

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quote:

P.S. to MistressRoux: MAKE YOUR OWN COMMUNITY. CARRY YOURSELF PROPERLY AND THEY WILL FIND YOU! A CHANGE OF LOCATION WILL NOT "SOLVE" ANYTHING.

First, I like wandering the world. This isn't home and I'm a bit of a vagabond, I guess. I'm not running away. It was never my intention to stay here for more than 2 years and the countdown to months has begun. Also, the very close-minded, male-centric and xenophobic attitudes here make it difficult. There is a small community of expats who are in the scene, but it limits options, doesn't it? I've yet to come across a single compatible local sub with whom I'd want a relationship here.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:08:46 AM

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It's as ass worship thing. Are full nudes allowed for main pictures?

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:11:16 AM

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There are Do Me subs and then there are real ones. We're talking about the former. <snipped>

No, we're not! We are talking about YOU and how YOU are going about finding your desired sub.

Geeze - a clear example of an OP trying to thread jack.... My current tag line is copied in here, so that if I ever decide to change it, readers in the future won't get confused:

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." - Erica Jong

You know that you are not projecting your dominance well enough. Some of the boards leading Dom/mes are giving you advice - change your pic, carry yourself well, do NOT change location, figure out why you are "feeling suffocated," etc. and all you come back with is an attempted thread-jack.

I'll not be back until you change that pic.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:15:03 AM

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I have a place and a job. I have tired of both. It's time to move on.

The plan was to move to Europe. I'm still on that path, looking for NGO and GS jobs, but also exploring other options as the chances of getting those jobs seem slim. Living in a place where I haven't been able to live as I like has made these thoughts almost all-consuming. I think about it all the time because I'm not living it. That's why I'm hoping that the next stop finds me in a place where I can live. I will probably go on a binge during the first few months.

This isn't a discussion necessarily for right now. I'm thinking long term.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:18:57 AM

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It's [an] ass worship thing. Are full nudes allowed for main pictures?

That is not clear at all. Looks like "beat my ass," to me. Please stop ignoring the advice we're giving you. Lady Pact, Lady Angelika, and I are all fully clothed. Our demenaor, poses, and clothing all SHOUT "dominant personality ahead!"

Why would you want to put you a full nude shot? Why even ask?

Get with the program, Sister. No wonder you're having trouble "finding" subs......

Oh, yes, I posted after making a promise. Why? Because you hit the "send" button about the same time I did.

Bye-bye. (Until you change that pic into something more indicative of your dominant personality.... oh, wait.... I get it. You have no such pics 'cause you aren't a Domme.)

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:23:42 AM

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Hey, I'm all dressed and stuff, Lance~

And while I would not toss out any "not real" comments, I also have to agree that underwear pics are not the kind of thing that are taken seriously, they are only taken SEXUALLY. If you want an ass worship pic, how about a back shot in tight jeans, leather jacket over your shoulder?

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:26:57 AM

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I like her pic! Of course, I've got the black-ass-yum thing going on, and my impression from her photo and username is that she's a femdom who switches in bed. So that's a double-yum.

"No explicit main profile photo" to me means that the main photo can't show anus or pussylips, but pretty much anything goes for secondary photos. Heh. If she changes her main photo to herself in a thong, I might even view her profile.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:37:57 AM

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quote:

o, we're not! We are talking about YOU and how YOU are going about finding your desired sub.

Geeze - a clear example of an OP trying to thread jack....

Actually, the post IS about such men, not Me. It got off-topic and I'm responsible for that. It's 2:30 in the morning. I should be asleep. I do want to respond to people when appropriate and that's precisely what I'm doing. If that is a bad thing, I wasn't aware and as some know, I've previously broken generally accepted forum etiquette before as I only very recently started using forums. As all who have messaged me before know about said faux-pas, I apologize if I'm in the wrong and will make a mental note BUT from what I've seen, it is acceptable to regularly respond to posters.

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You know that you are not projecting your dominance well enough. Some of the boards leading Dom/mes are giving you advice - change your pic, carry yourself well, do NOT change location, figure out why you are "feeling suffocated," etc. and all you come back with is an attempted thread-jack.

With that attitutde, don't come back. While I certainly value some of the input of non-Dommes, I don't care for the B.S. coming from someone whose opinion I never asked for. Did you see whose post that was in response to? Clearly you didn't. It was in response to someone claiming that a Domme would need to be some supermodel bombshell with a model life for the sort of sub we're discussing to consider a relationship as said sub would simply feign interest for the sole purpose of kinky sex.

you are the one who suggested not moving. As I've stated before, I'm an expat in a foreign land that I never intended to call home in the long term. Feeling suffocated has a lot to do with the conservative culture with a liberal facade.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:41:14 AM

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Let's NOT thread-jack, folks! This is NOT about her pic. It's about (and is titled) "Powerful Subs."

Powerful subs are everywhere. The best way to find them is to present yourself as a Dom/me. If you want to move to a different job or location, fine. But get with the program. As far as I can tell, you haven't had much success in finding your desired powerful sub. I think there's some obvious changes that you can make to help you.

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Hey, I'm all dressed and stuff, Lance~

And while I would not toss out any "not real" comments, I also have to agree that underwear pics are not the kind of thing that are taken seriously, they are only taken SEXUALLY. If you want an ass worship pic, how about a back shot in tight jeans, leather jacket over your shoulder?

Yes, I almost typed "twue Domme" but you saw it anyway. Do you like the paragraph above better?

I almost suggest the same kinda ass-worship shot, but was going to go one step further. One hand should say "get over here." Index finger of other points to ass. So half-side pose.

Hibbie: I know you have helped with profiles as have I. Maybe there's a business opportunity in writing and shooting pics to help people! LOL!

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:47:50 AM

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OP: Yes - please continue the dialog even tho late (or early) in your zone. If you have to "crash" please say so. Most people will continue when you (as the OP) are ready.

My comment was NOT in "reply to" that rude comment by Domiguy. (It's his usual thing. You'll soon learn to ignore him, but there's usually a grain-of-salt in there somewhere.) Yes, the system "shows" that I was replying to Domiguy, but it's kinda, sorta of a weird thing in the system. Some long-term posters are advocating that the "In reply to" field just have OP's name, and no other. This is a good example of why.

Back to our regularly scheduled posting on the subject of "Powerful Subs." (Lance ignores the small flames - but flames nonetheless.)

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:51:05 AM

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Thanks for the suggestion @LadyHibiscus. Jeans are a better idea. Will get on that.

Also thanks to @LadyPact. This is actually the first time I've actively used this sort of thing to meet people. When stateside, it was pretty much word of mouth via college roommate who attended some parties and then later, talking with people at some stores. I'm happy that those who know this sort of thing better are here to help!

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:53:08 AM

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Her pic is better than some fat twat in black leather or boots.

I think you are frustrated because it seems that the majority of the male subs I see out here are such complete tools. Who "in their right mind" would want to spend any amount of time with these fuckers?

It has to do with the average profile of the domme that is floating around this thang....Most of them are pros and are horribly written as well as damn near psychotic in their approach as well as their expectations. The two deserve each other.

It sucks being a domme. You guys really do deserve exactly what you get.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 10:59:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I have found that it is far to easy to misrepresent oneself online.

NOOOOO!!!!! There are un-twue people around who aren't what they say on the computer???

*Hibbie lies!!!*

*sniffle*

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 11:02:09 AM

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Thanks for the suggestion @LadyHibiscus. Jeans are a better idea. Will get on that.

Also thanks to @LadyPact. This is actually the first time I've actively used this sort of thing to meet people. When stateside, it was pretty much word of mouth via college roommate who attended some parties and then later, talking with people at some stores. I'm happy that those who know this sort of thing better are here to help!

No problem at all.

On the feeling stifled part, I completely understand.

When My husband first told Me of the possibility of him being deployed to Korea, he mentioned two possibilities. One, him going on his own for one year and the other was him pulling a spot where I could come with him and it would be for two years.

At that point, My jaw hit the floor and My response was something to the tone of, "Two years? Two freaking years????? No clear potential of participating in BDSM for two years? No munches, no clubs, no bottoms to beat for possibly two entire years??????"

I can completely see your issue.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 11:17:47 AM

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Google is your friend.....

https://www.bondage.com/topic_id/290638/forums/topic.html

Why people whine about not being able to "find" links for such things is beyond me, but whine they do. NO "immediate" answers, but a good start to finding the BDSM scene in Seoul. Had to LOL since one of the suggested links is: www.collarme.com Plenty of other good info, tho. DIG for it!

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 11:33:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressRoux

It's [an] ass worship thing. Are full nudes allowed for main pictures?

That is not clear at all. Looks like "beat my ass," to me. Please stop ignoring the advice we're giving you. Lady Pact, Lady Angelika, and I are all fully clothed. Our demenaor, poses, and clothing all SHOUT "dominant personality ahead!"

Exactly. I like pussy worship but I'm not going to post an up-skirt shot (a gash shot as the Chicago boys call it).

Your picture shows an awful lot of vulnerability and really strong submissive men are not attracted to a Domme that comes off as vulnerable. As they get to know us, they understand that we are human and accept our vulnerable moments. But vulnerable is not a good bait.

For the second time in an hour, I'm going to agree with Domiguy and this scares me deeply:

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I would think that for this powerful, intelligent and handsome dude to actually want a "full relationship" with a domme she better be dynamite looking and really have her shit together and her ducks in a row.

Otherwise he is probably just humoring her to get what he wants from "the relationship."

There are rumours of 500 subs for every Domme. But the reality is, when you are thinking about the strong, confident, intelligent, handsome, successful sub, there are only a handful. They are not going to go after a Domme with a vulnerable profile shot. They are going to look for like-minded women who have their shit together as Domi says. As for the dynamite looking, I've managed to get by with pretty darn cute ;-)

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