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"Safe" CBT ? - 5/25/2010 9:22:04 PM

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My girlfriend, who acts as the domme when we play, enjoys to administer some CBT.
She says the thought of me wincing, whimpering in anticipation, etc., really does it for her.

Anyway, the pain is not usually unbearable but sometimes I take a hit and it crosses from exciting pain to like, "Okay stop, I hope I didn't disconnect something!"

I really enjoy the thrill of it, but I am wondering...is there a safe way to do it? Do people pretend, or do they actually go all out? I see some adult movies about it, where they show closeups, and the girls go ALL OUT, and it makes me wonder how somebody can keep their testicles after that kind of abuse.

I know there's risk in everything, but are there tips and tricks from mistresses into CBT about what works, what doesn't, and what you consider "safe" or whatnot. I want to continue but I don't want to end up in the ER with an embarrassing story to tell the doc!

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/25/2010 9:28:18 PM

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There is a fine book by Hardy Haberman called The Family Jewels, all about doing CBT and coming out with the parts still attached. I'm sure you can find it on Amazon. :)
The useful bits are fairly sturdy, but it's always good to learn the fine points of anatomy!
Have fun!

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/26/2010 10:53:14 PM

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OK, you have a wonderful girlfriend... You have to have a masocistic side to be able to enjoy this too. Even though it hurts like hell, you gotta put it out there for her to hit again...and again...and again. Don't worry, it gets better when you know what's coming next.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/27/2010 3:53:35 AM

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Not all CBT is about impact play. Personally I don't enjoy doing impact play much because I happen to like his cock and balls too much

There are lots of cbt toys about. There are pegs, vices, humblers, parachutes, weights, crushes, stretchers, sounds, wax and a array of little gadgets that could keep you happy for days!

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/27/2010 4:16:18 AM

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I have a question: did you ask her if she knew what she was doing? She might. And if she says no, you might want to buy her the book LadyHib mentioned and somehow get across to her that you would feel safer if she did things that she knew what she was doing. I realise that this goes sort of counter-intuitive to the D/s model but at the same time, relationships tend to come and go. Your balls are forever hopefully ;-)

Once you get passed that, Maria (allthatjaz) has great advice. Not everything needs to be impact play and in fact, I tend to prefer administering things that pinch and pull to thing that just thud. She may find that she enjoys this too. Then again, she might just find that she likes hitting you hard in the balls! To each her own ;-)

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/27/2010 4:46:13 AM

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Other variations one can use is the application of very warm cloths or ice cubes, using different textured items to massage or brush across the testes. Not all cbt is slapping or hitting the scrotum but it also includes using different sensations from fine sandpaper to a cheese grater or even one of those icy/hot paks.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/27/2010 12:08:39 PM

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Then we can move on to oils! Watch out for that wintergreen stuff!!

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 5/27/2010 12:38:34 PM

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I would agree completely with Lady Hib. Please go out and get yourself the book. Not only is it a wonderful read but it is chocked full of more information than could ever be present on a message board.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/15/2010 11:18:19 PM

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Be sure to read up about "testicular torsion" ! So should all the ladies who like this stuff. Take care out there.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/16/2010 12:04:31 AM

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/16/2010 9:04:22 PM

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Stay away from knives, lit cigars, ball-pin hammers, pliers, razor wire, clubs, and blow torches.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/17/2010 5:50:16 PM

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Now, I have lovely fun running the edge of a dull knife across his bits. It doesn't need to be sharp to get both his adrenaline and mine rolling. (grin)

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/17/2010 7:26:38 PM

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Yup, dull knives are fun. Actually, right after ejaculation, it tends to be so sensitive that the even a light touch is nearly unbearable. It's fun to play with right then, since you get a very big reaction with almost no risk of doing any damage.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/17/2010 11:10:08 PM

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I bought that book for the safety information, expecting something about how hard you can hit, where, when the pain is just that, pain, and when it's actually damage, how long should post-discomfort last before it's a concern, etc. I was very dissapointed. It seems to be a primer of ideas and 'these are the various injuries possible.' I found that much here, and more. If it's just going to say 'you could do this, this might happen, and YMMV' then it really doesn't help me much.
Where do I go for more specific information beyond just 'try with caution and hope for the best'?

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/19/2010 4:34:16 PM

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Hello A/all,

'Allthatjaz'had a pretty good list; but, has any body ever heard of a 'CBT Board?' I've seen photos of one in use. It looks like it would pe pretty useful for rope (string?) play and bondage. Any way, I'd never heard of one untill recently.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/19/2010 7:34:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: angeldmort

I bought that book for the safety information, expecting something about how hard you can hit, where, when the pain is just that, pain, and when it's actually damage, how long should post-discomfort last before it's a concern, etc. I was very dissapointed. It seems to be a primer of ideas and 'these are the various injuries possible.' I found that much here, and more. If it's just going to say 'you could do this, this might happen, and YMMV' then it really doesn't help me much.
Where do I go for more specific information beyond just 'try with caution and hope for the best'?

Make friends with REAL PEOPLE who know what they are doing. Get an anatomy book and STUDY IT. Or, just cruise the internets for anatomy info, it's on wikipedia.

Each person reacts to pain differently, and you have to get to know your playmate and his reactions. What are you planning on that will be THAT dangerous?

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/27/2010 7:09:57 PM

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quote:

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Stay away from knives, lit cigars, ball-pin hammers, pliers, razor wire, clubs, and blow torches.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/27/2010 7:42:11 PM

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a couple things....

SAFE Torture. Say it a few times? No matter how many times it rolls off my tongue I find little about it being "SAFE".

Now am I aware of the risk? Yeah and hopefully your partner and you are both aware.

When I see CBT I always cringe and have actually tried to convince one of them to let me drive them to Mexico, I could get them away from all this, I woud help if they just let me make it all stop.... somehow they were less that willing to do so.

Anyway.

When it comes to CBT, i can tell you what a Uriologist would say.

"If it hurts, then something bad is happeneing, eventually something irreversible can be done if it is done repetedly"

That being said to the person who wants a one size fits all safety answer..... sorry they don't exist.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/27/2010 7:44:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

a couple things....

SAFE Torture. Say it a few times? No matter how many times it rolls off my tongue I find little about it being "SAFE".

Now am I aware of the risk? Yeah and hopefully your partner and you are both aware.

When I see CBT I always cringe and have actually tried to convince one of them to let me drive them to Mexico, I could get them away from all this, I woud help if they just let me make it all stop.... somehow they were less that willing to do so.

Anyway.

When it comes to CBT, i can tell you what a Uriologist would say.

"If it hurts, then something bad is happeneing, eventually something irreversible can be done if it is done repetedly" That being said to the person who wants a one size fits all safety answer..... sorry they don't exist.

QSM

Now, QSM. What sadistic activity is this NOT true of? Tickling? I'll give you that!!

But, not all CBT is painful. LOTS Of it shouldn't be painful at all, like sounds. Some of it... well, some of you kiddies just should NOT try those things at home.

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RE: "Safe" CBT ? - 6/28/2010 9:06:33 AM

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I would have to agree with many here, your mate should read up and study on this subject, safe means safe. She very well might do some damage if she does not know what she is dong. And yes all play is not hitting ones nuts and cock . Teasing can drive one crazy, or ice is interesting.
But the key is safety.

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