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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:15:20 PM   
LittleBroken


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I have a fairly volatile temper (no..really!) esp. when I'm over tired. 



I never would have guessed. Especially after the breeding/seeding thread. *lol*


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:26:27 PM   
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I have a fairly volatile temper (no..really!) esp. when I'm over tired. 



I never would have guessed. Especially after the breeding/seeding thread. *lol*


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The devil made me do it.



*shrugs* No biggie, just blame it on the ex like I do


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:27:50 PM   
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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:28:21 PM   
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oh!!! and WHY argue a point anyway.. ESPECIALLY in a D/s M/s relationship? i mean.. if it goes bad ( other than personal injury that is close to death or something like that!!!) it is on Master if it turns out right or wrong.. not me.. hahah i LIKE that part..



I have to disagree. Regardless of the labels worn in a relationship if it goes bad it is the responsibility of all those involved. Not just one person because they happen to wear the lable dom/master. When I take a collar I don't stop taking personal responsibility and I am responsible for the realtionships I choose to be in.


Maybe so, but sometimes it really is one person's fault.


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:29:33 PM   
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I was Sweetheart...I was.


Good girl!


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:30:27 PM   
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oh!!! and WHY argue a point anyway.. ESPECIALLY in a D/s M/s relationship? i mean.. if it goes bad ( other than personal injury that is close to death or something like that!!!) it is on Master if it turns out right or wrong.. not me.. hahah i LIKE that part..



I have to disagree. Regardless of the labels worn in a relationship if it goes bad it is the responsibility of all those involved. Not just one person because they happen to wear the lable dom/master. When I take a collar I don't stop taking personal responsibility and I am responsible for the realtionships I choose to be in.


Maybe so, but sometimes it really is one person's fault.




I have come to think that a relationship takes 2 people to make it work and takes 2 people to make it fail.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:33:02 PM   
willowspirit


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You were in a chatroom.
C-H-A-T-R-O-O-M, understand?
Treat it like a game --or if you simply MUST be all serious about it, maybe see it like a learning experience.

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maybe i should rephrase the later part of my question.  i was on a chat and the norm was to go somewhere when not serving and the person i was playing with left with a specific order to stay in that spot.  well i guess it wasn't in the norm and i got booted from the chat after a bit for not going back to my cage willfully and again when i came back with an attitude


In a post even further down on page one, you state that you are an "unowned slave".
Many of us see that as a contradiction in terms.
If you are a "slave" then you are owned. When you are released you revert back to a submissive... maybe a "submissive with slave tendencies"... or a "former slave".
Of course, you can call yourself whatever you want. That's what most of these MasterLordSirCyberDoms do.

It's not worth getting upset about.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 6:55:59 PM   
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Next point:
People are different. I don't have much of a temper, if any, for example... but I have a deeply submissive personality in relationships.
Slavery is more of a commitment to a Master AND to certain behaviors. I know some very 'dominant' (yes, really!) and aggressive slaves.

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i was just wondering if other subs and slaves out there have tempers .....?

How do you deal with it when you feel you are in the right..... but the norm is to do something else in everybody else's eyes?


Another point:
"everybody else's eyes".... ? Think about this. "E/everybody else" shouldn't be your concern. If you were SomeOne's slave in Real Life the ONLY thoughts that matter are those of your Master.


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 7:31:39 PM   
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I have to disagree. Regardless of the labels worn in a relationship if it goes bad it is the responsibility of all those involved. Not just one person because they happen to wear the lable dom/master. When I take a collar I don't stop taking personal responsibility and I am responsible for the realtionships I choose to be in.
It is, of course, your right to disagree. You're reality is just as valid as mine. I can guarantee you though that it is ME who is ultimately responsible in my relationship. If it goes bad, it is MY fault. Yes, the buck stops here. Responsibility is just one of the price tags of wielding real authority. Carol bears her own responsibility, yes. But the old leadership adage applies. Authority flows downhill. Responsibility flows uphill.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 7:47:26 PM   
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[I have come to think that a relationship takes 2 people to make it work and takes 2 people to make it fail.



My relationship with my Master is more of a driver/passenger relationship than a '2 people making it work' relationship. So if a car gets into a wreck, the fault ultimately lies with the driver... not the passenger, since they cannot control the direction the relationship takes.

~sgs

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 8:01:39 PM   
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[I have come to think that a relationship takes 2 people to make it work and takes 2 people to make it fail.



My relationship with my Master is more of a driver/passenger relationship than a '2 people making it work' relationship. So if a car gets into a wreck, the fault ultimately lies with the driver... not the passenger, since they cannot control the direction the relationship takes.

~sgs


so you make absolutely no contribution whatsoever - youre just 'there' - youre personality, feelings, thoughts, responses, reactions, or lack of them have absolutely no impact on anything to do with the relationship youre in.  i find that hard to believe.


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 8:15:55 PM   
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[I have come to think that a relationship takes 2 people to make it work and takes 2 people to make it fail.



My relationship with my Master is more of a driver/passenger relationship than a '2 people making it work' relationship. So if a car gets into a wreck, the fault ultimately lies with the driver... not the passenger, since they cannot control the direction the relationship takes.

~sgs


so you make absolutely no contribution whatsoever - youre just 'there' - youre personality, feelings, thoughts, responses, reactions, or lack of them have absolutely no impact on anything to do with the relationship youre in.  i find that hard to believe.



My personality, feelings, thoughts, responses, reactions or lack of them.... are just there. I do not 'work on them'. My Master gets me... complete with all of the things you mentioned. I am the passenger. How and where he drives the relationship is not something i work on. He is the driver. I am along for the ride.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 8:31:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find it hard to believe that you have no imput or control over where you go in your relationship with your owner or that you don't see that even as a submissive or slave you contribute to the well being or failure of your relaitonship. Again IMO I dont think we check personal responsibility at the door when we take a collar not even for the outcome of our lives or relationships.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 9:15:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		yet, i understand what sgs is saying completely. not all relationships work the way yours does. There range from men who want a switch in the bedroom, and vanilla outside, to men who want a total slave relationship that is micromanaged by the man.

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Again IMO I dont think we check personal responsibility at the door when we take a collar not even for the outcome of our lives or relationships.


You may be surprised at what some people want and expect out of a relationship.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 10:15:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		tazzy I complety agree not everyone looks at relationships the way I do or vice versa.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 10:21:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im not trying to be argumentative. And i do hope you take what i am about to say in a spirit of helping. When stating your opinion on topics this personal perhaps making the post about yourself instead of about everyone can make the difference in how well or badly it is received.

For example...

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Again IMO I dont think we check personal responsibility at the door when we take a collar not even for the outcome of our lives or relationships.


Might have been better posted as

"Its my opinion that i cannot check my personal responsibility at the door when i take a collar not even for the outcome of my relationships. I cannot understand how others could consider this either."

Can you see how the first can be taken as judgemental and the second is merely how your relationships run and how confusing this situation can be?

Then again, i could be wrong as well. Perhaps im just reading your statements wrong.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/30/2010 10:38:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well stating that it is my opinion pretty much clears that up in my eyes. Lol

I am not going to worry about who might be offended when I post because the reality is no matter how we write things someone is going to be offended, misread, or how someone might misinterpret it. That is one of the wonderful flaws of written word.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/31/2010 6:37:04 AM   
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i was just wondering if other subs and slaves out there have tempers and how do they deal with them?
How do you deal with it when you feel you are in the right and are trying to defend an order you were given but the norm is to do something else in everybody else's eyes?

I didn't read any of the responses, so forgive if i repeat.

Our BDSM orientation takes a backseat to the fact that we are all human, and as such we have a range of emotions. A temper is born of said emotions, most commonly anger.
To deny your temper is to deny/suppress your anger (and please note i said DENY your temper as opposed to expressing it. Big difference). Denying/suppressing anger is a very unhealthy thing to do irreguardless of who you are.
Deal with your temper and gain control. Then and only then is it possible and necessary to calmly discuss the situation.


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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/31/2010 7:05:05 AM   
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Well stating that it is my opinion pretty much clears that up in my eyes. Lol

I am not going to worry about who might be offended when I post because the reality is no matter how we write things someone is going to be offended, misread, or how someone might misinterpret it. That is one of the wonderful flaws of written word.


You started by saying its your opinion... then you added that pesky word... we... indicating your belief that it is this way for everyone.

But, please, do ignore advice. Its often the best policy.

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RE: Do slaves have tempers? - 5/31/2010 8:43:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut

Well stating that it is my opinion pretty much clears that up in my eyes. Lol

I am not going to worry about who might be offended when I post because the reality is no matter how we write things someone is going to be offended, misread, or how someone might misinterpret it. That is one of the wonderful flaws of written word.


You started by saying its your opinion... then you added that pesky word... we... indicating your belief that it is this way for everyone.

But, please, do ignore advice. Its often the best policy.



Perhaps the "we" ment me and the people in my life, such as my play partner, dom, ect?

But please contunue to make assumptions. It is often the best policy :)

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