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Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/10/2006 1:39:21 PM

Laura

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Do they exist? Why do they exist?

Are Doms and Tops really just frustrated Switches who got tired of looking for another Switch? Or are they really just bossy people who can't let go and unwind? Are they all neat freaks, control freaks and really totally unable to bend at all? I won't say anal.

Are subs and bottoms really just timid people who want to find someone else to take care of them, help them through life, make sure they don't get lost? Or are they people who don't have the courage to go out and date and they thought they'd just wait for someone to find them? Are they all people with really bad spelling and punctuation?

What do you think? Let's sort this out once and for all. As a Switch I really want to know.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/10/2006 1:42:20 PM

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Maybe we should post this in each of the Dom/ sub/ Dommie forums. I just thought I'd start here first.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 2:14:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laura

Do they exist? Why do they exist?

Are Doms and Tops really just frustrated Switches who got tired of looking for another Switch? Or are they really just bossy people who can't let go and unwind? Are they all neat freaks, control freaks and really totally unable to bend at all? I won't say anal.

Are subs and bottoms really just timid people who want to find someone else to take care of them, help them through life, make sure they don't get lost? Or are they people who don't have the courage to go out and date and they thought they'd just wait for someone to find them? Are they all people with really bad spelling and punctuation?

What do you think? Let's sort this out once and for all. As a Switch I really want to know.

ROTFLHAO That is way too funny.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 6:28:35 PM

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Hayyyyyy I have punction...seeee (*&%^*&*((_)(*&$$#
ROFL

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 6:54:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laura

Are Doms and Tops really just frustrated Switches who got tired of looking for another Switch? Or are they really just bossy people who can't let go and unwind? Are they all neat freaks, control freaks and really totally unable to bend at all? I won't say anal.

        I've been doing some reading on Feminine Superiority and I've come to a startling conclusion.

      In a previous vanilla relationship where I paid the bills, raising the subject of kinky sex would get me told I was disgusting and cut off from any sex for two weeks. I took care of the yard, fixed her car, let her rant without calling her on the constant hypocrisy and made her needs a priority. I thought I was just walking out on a complete b**** when I left but now I see how wrong I was.

      So when I'm asked about my experience, should I include 3 years servitude to a 24/7 Lifestyle Domina???

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 8:39:30 PM

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You're alright Rich, I don't care WAHT she said about you ;)

We MUST'VE been married to the same woman.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 8:54:52 PM

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Okay, I am close to 501 posts, and my first paddle,

so I figured I would do it here and share it with you lot :)

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 8:58:13 PM

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Hurray!

Post 501. In paddle land now.

*does happy dance*

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 9:03:45 PM

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congrats fergus

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 9:13:35 PM

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i've been wondering if BDSM really exists other than online or is it just some online fantasy thing going around.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/11/2006 9:25:39 PM

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All I have to say about this is that Tops do indeed exist and many of them think they are Dom/Masters. Of course that is the subject of an entirely different thread. It will start with the words: "My Huge Peeve...."

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/12/2006 5:30:51 AM

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Congratulations, Fergus....wooohooo, that's some dance ya got going there.

MichaelGA. It's an online fantasy.... I didn't do all those things I really did do the last 20 plus years that I did do them. LOL

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 4/12/2006 6:18:19 AM

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Paddle looks good up there Fergus...

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/8/2006 3:19:18 PM

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Make use of that paddle Fergus. Don't just let it sit there looking pretty.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/8/2006 3:30:12 PM

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Well I'm a total bottom with men. All I want for them is to use me like a slut should be used, filling my holes over and over again. I could be a switch with women, but I would prefer to worship them and be their sub bottom. I don't have a problem being a bottom and I'm proud of it.

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/8/2006 3:41:11 PM

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Dear Laura;

By existing yourself -- you have confirmed such exists.

However, I am of the thought that some have asked the questions to decide what defines them.

One should ask what you are not. What you are. What you cannot explain would be the focus of great thought and searching of self.

People will submit and or dominate given certain situations. How they do so is influenced by the enviorment.

It is a matter of choice of an individual to decide to straddle the line as a SWITCH or tilt to total dominant and or total submission; with all the degrees in between.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/9/2006 1:37:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: WyrdRich
In a previous vanilla relationship where I paid the bills, raising the subject of kinky sex would get me told I was disgusting and cut off from any sex for two weeks. I took care of the yard, fixed her car, let her rant without calling her on the constant hypocrisy and made her needs a priority. I thought I was just walking out on a complete b**** when I left but now I see how wrong I was.

So when I'm asked about my experience, should I include 3 years servitude to a 24/7 Lifestyle Domina???

ROTFLMAO

That is completely wrong/plasphemous for most of us! You would be surprised however at how many boys want the bitch domme. M

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/9/2006 3:32:51 PM

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ROTFLMAO
That is completely wrong/plasphemous for most of us! You would be surprised however at how many boys want the bitch domme. M

What part is blasphemous??? That school of thought within the community (and it's not hard to find adherents of it in the "ask a Mistress" section), or that I dared to suggest such an awful thing?

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/9/2006 4:50:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: Laura

Do they exist? Why do they exist?

Are Doms and Tops really just frustrated Switches who got tired of looking for another Switch? Or are they really just bossy people who can't let go and unwind? Are they all neat freaks, control freaks and really totally unable to bend at all? I won't say anal.

Are subs and bottoms really just timid people who want to find someone else to take care of them, help them through life, make sure they don't get lost? Or are they people who don't have the courage to go out and date and they thought they'd just wait for someone to find them? Are they all people with really bad spelling and punctuation?

What do you think? Let's sort this out once and for all. As a Switch I really want to know.

"Do they exist?"

Well, of course they exist. Personalities don't exist until people profess to being one, or are diagnosed as being such.

"Why do they exist?"

Considering it is just a way of expressing one's self to the rest of the world, they exist because people say they, themselves, exist.

As to the rest of it, it's a case by case basis. Some people enjoy having the control a submissive will give them. Me, personally... I am considering giving up the entire lifestyle, but that is a private matter, best not aired here.

People are how they present themselves and the opinions that you form about them, at least to you. Whether it is the truth or not is for both parties to decide, but most of the time, people will cling to their first impression like a starving pitbull on a steak. LOL

Just my take on the whole thing, so take it as you will. *shrug*

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RE: Doms/subs/Tops/bottoms Do They Exist? - 5/10/2006 1:26:43 AM

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What part is blasphemous??? That school of thought within the community (and it's not hard to find adherents of it in the "ask a Mistress" section), or that I dared to suggest such an awful thing?

I'm saying that just because YOU fell in love with/married a BITCHgoddess, you shouldn't go spreading that as the way of the lifestyle domina.
I mean I still would have made you do all those things, but would have loved the kinky sex ideas too.

M

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