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aphrodite5 -> Balancing Act (6/3/2010 6:27:22 PM)
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I posted this on another site as well.
For some background, I live with Master. We are polyamorous. I see my boy about 2 days a week, usually as an overnight stay. For part of that time, all three of us are hanging out together. I'm pretty new at this switching thing. Up until about a year ago, I considered myself strictly submissive. I'm still learning what it means for me to have control, and what I want to do with it.
My problem: I am having trouble balancing my dominance and submission. I find that I get so far into one head-space that the other gets neglected. Either I get so far into taking control of my boy and give orders to Master (oops!), or I am so focused on pleasing Master that the boy is running free and feels totally lost.
Some of the problem I'm having, I'm sure, is the newness of it all. Hopefully as the new relationship(s) get more settled, I won't see-saw so much with my different roles. In the mean time... How do you find the balance? Especially when the three of us are spending time as a group, I struggle to find my place. What did you do to resolve this for yourself?
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