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commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 1:36:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You might wnat to check the exposure. I am not sure pussy should be that color?


i think i have sorted it out now




commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 1:37:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You might wnat to check the exposure. I am not sure pussy should be that color?


I don't know about that...Grey is to submission like Mandals are to domination.

I have had a grey cunt before....The rarest and most sought after of the cunts.

To this day whenever I see a cadaver I often find myself wondering where ol' grey cunt might be today?

Come back to me grey cunt...Please, come back.


i think what it is, is my lips can go so dark, and the guy wanted a very close shot. see if the one i put up is better




commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 1:40:51 PM)

i changed it. but if it kept you amused then glad i could be of service.lol




domiguy -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 1:48:36 PM)

The new one is sweet...But I really like the grey cunt.




commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:00:08 PM)

ok grey one back on. i do try and please sometimes.lol




Jeffff -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:08:21 PM)

You, are a good sport!


Welcome to the forums




commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:13:26 PM)

well thank you for the welcome.

its nice to meet you all.




Jeffff -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:22:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: commercialbody

well thank you for the welcome.

its nice to meet you all.




I don't know that I would go that far...............




commercialbody -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:24:25 PM)

why are some of you not nice?




laurell3 -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:28:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ranja

ORIGINAL: laurell3

Your relationship advice is to manipulate him? And if that doesn't work she should go the honest route? haha, how about skipping the bullshit and actually talking to the guy she's fucking?

You misunderstood laurell... If she has an open and honest conversation with the guy to try and get him to fuck her with more umpf, so she gets off nicer... well...she is still manipulating him... and if that works for her, great!
Some people get their partners attention by actions rather than words however... which is handy if you feel shy or embarrassed to talk about stuff... also as mentioned by others any talk about sex in order to try and make things more exiting can be taken as severe criticism and have the total opposite effect of what you might be trying to achieve... many men are very very sensitive about their love making skills... in my opinion more so than females, but i might be wrong.

Then again, I guess I can't understand the OP at all, because in my mind, coming on a public forum and denouncing the guy as being boring in bed without talking to him in person first would never cross my mind as acceptable adult behaviour. Clearly, you disagree and find the approach honorable.

i never said the OP was 'honourable' but i see nothing wrong with coming to a public forum to try and get some advice on how to make things better for her... it is a pity though that some of these people looking for advice might get across a bit rude about their malfunctioning partner and get slated for being disrespectful selfish bitches by 'model' subs roaming these boards...
 
she has been with the guy 3 years, she/they have hit a blip in the excitement department, she is fed up with him being boring... i hope she finds some means to get her selfish way and spice things up a bit... seems to me nicer for him too.



I misunderstood? You said "manipulate him". It's hard to misunderstand that. Not only that, you teed off on another poster for having a different opinion. There is no misunderstanding.

How is having an honest conversation with him manipulation? I agree, men CAN be sensitive, so can women. However, I'm not suggesting she say "hey you suck ass in bed buddy" of course. But saying I would like to try these things or have you ever thought about this, instead of just biting the dude and hoping he's a mind reader, which ain't likely, isn't manipulation.

No one here is claiming to be the "model" sub, unknot your panties. Do I find it classless to come here first before she honestly talks to him? Yes, but I'm not her and I personally wouldn't be griping about my partner on a public forum to begin with. To me the risk of it coming to light she made this post and hurting him by her public display is SO much greater than any risk of him having hurt feelings by an honest conversation.




VideoAdminZeta -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 2:56:00 PM)

The topic of this thread is how to encourage your partner to be more dominant / less boring in bed.  Please relate your posts to that topic.

Thank you.




Missokyst -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/8/2010 3:00:27 PM)

:) Ok.. is it just me or did anyone else think the "hey you suck ass in bed buddy" was a great suggestion? She might want to add that to the subtle ways of getting him to do what she wants.


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ORIGINAL: laurell3
However, I'm not suggesting she say "hey you suck ass in bed buddy" of course. But saying I would like to try these things or have you ever thought about this, instead of just biting the dude and hoping he's a mind reader, which ain't likely, isn't manipulation.






ranja -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/9/2010 2:29:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I misunderstood? You said "manipulate him". It's hard to misunderstand that. Not only that, you teed off on another poster for having a different opinion. There is no misunderstanding.

How is having an honest conversation with him manipulation? I agree, men CAN be sensitive, so can women. However, I'm not suggesting she say "hey you suck ass in bed buddy" of course. But saying I would like to try these things or have you ever thought about this, instead of just biting the dude and hoping he's a mind reader, which ain't likely, isn't manipulation.

No one here is claiming to be the "model" sub, unknot your panties. Do I find it classless to come here first before she honestly talks to him? Yes, but I'm not her and I personally wouldn't be griping about my partner on a public forum to begin with. To me the risk of it coming to light she made this post and hurting him by her public display is SO much greater than any risk of him having hurt feelings by an honest conversation.



yes you misunderstood.... it is ALL manipulation... you might want to check what the word actually means.

Domiguy just managed to manipulate commercialbody to post more delicious pictures, i have no problem with manipulation

also i have no interest in  how you would solve your relationship problems, and i have no issues with the op trying to do it her way.

the op wrote:

"How do I tell my boyfirend to be more dominant and creative in the bedroom? I have been with him for three years and don't want to hurt his feelings!

I have already tried, pulling his hair, thrusting him deeper inside of me, biting his neck, going down on him while he watches his favorite TV shows, etc...

Please Help!"

She posted this in cyberspace under a made up name in the hope of getting some info on how to spice things up, her boyfriend most likely will never know what she wrote or where she wrote it unless she tells him.
And if he finds out anyway by some miracle... well it might even cause him to be more dominant rather than distroy their relationship... you never know

laurell... i think you might lighten up too 




spankthesub25 -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 3:12:57 PM)

Thank you for understanding ranja! Everyone else on here just desides to jump to conclusions!

First of all, I HAVE tried talking to him! I have asked him to reveal fantasies, dreams, hot spots, etc and his response is always, "I don't really have any." I have even suggested him to be a little more agressive in bed and my suggestions last for the current sex session and then HE FORGETS!

Second!!! The blow job while watch television was actually really hot! I enjoyed completely pleasuring him while he was doing something he loved to do, which in this case was watching TV. I have also give him a blow job while he drives as well! ;)

Maybe dominant was the wrong word...... which I AM SORRY GEEZ! You really didnt have to jump down my throat! ranja was on the right track, I am at my wits end on how to spice up our life! I enjoy serving him, and would love for him to be more aggressive! Our relationship is perfect besides the missing aggression! If it wasnt I wouldn't have stayed with him for three years!

Does this clarification help?




Missokyst -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 3:47:30 PM)

Well that sort of says it all. Sounds like a nice nilla boy who is probably just happy he can stick it in something warm and wet. You probably are not going to get him to top you, his mindset is not wired that way. But you can continue taking the lead and topping him. It might not be exactly what you want but its something.
You cannot make someone be kinky, they have to want it.


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ORIGINAL: spankthesub25
First of all, I HAVE tried talking to him! I have asked him to reveal fantasies, dreams, hot spots, etc and his response is always, "I don't really have any."




laurell3 -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 4:37:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: spankthesub25

Thank you for understanding ranja! Everyone else on here just desides to jump to conclusions!

First of all, I HAVE tried talking to him! I have asked him to reveal fantasies, dreams, hot spots, etc and his response is always, "I don't really have any." I have even suggested him to be a little more agressive in bed and my suggestions last for the current sex session and then HE FORGETS!

Second!!! The blow job while watch television was actually really hot! I enjoyed completely pleasuring him while he was doing something he loved to do, which in this case was watching TV. I have also give him a blow job while he drives as well! ;)

Maybe dominant was the wrong word...... which I AM SORRY GEEZ! You really didnt have to jump down my throat! ranja was on the right track, I am at my wits end on how to spice up our life! I enjoy serving him, and would love for him to be more aggressive! Our relationship is perfect besides the missing aggression! If it wasnt I wouldn't have stayed with him for three years!

Does this clarification help?


He's a guy, he's not forgetting about sex, he isn't interested in what you want. If he was, forgetting it wouldn't happen.

Manipulate, talk, bite, plead or stand on your head, it isn't going to make the guy kinky or more agressive. You can either accept what you describe as an otherwise perfect relationship and him the way he is or not. There's no advice in the world that's going to make him be something he isn't and it's highly unlikely that continued manipulation will do anything other than jeopardize the other parts of your relationship.






subrob1967 -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 4:40:01 PM)

I'm afraid that if he hasn't already brought this up, he's just not wired to be a Dom.




Elisabella -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 5:33:23 PM)

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How is pulling his hair, and biting his neck, going to make him more Dominant? How are your actions in any way submissive?


Provocation. It was always a reliable trick for me.

ETA - to clarify, if it hasn't worked by now it probably won't. Doing stuff like that is a way to send a signal, if the signal is ignored, it just doesn't translate to that person.

Maybe you can try talking about it. I don't know, I never talked about that sort of thing with vanilla guys, I either provoked them and got rough or provoked them, got no response, and moved on.




Elisabella -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 5:39:31 PM)

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yes i promote manipulation... and not mean underhand manipulative bitch type of manipulation, but skillful flirting and pleasantly asking for what you need (it might get you much further)  is manipulating nevertheless


I agree with this part of your post.

I mean if you want to have sex tonight, do you put on lingerie and light candles, or do you go up to your partner and say "excuse me I was wondering if we could discuss whether or not you'd be interested in having sex tonight, and if so, can we negotiate a length of foreplay and whether there will be oral involved and where in the house we will do it" etc etc?




osf -> RE: Boring Boyfriend... (6/10/2010 6:28:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I know nothing about the OP since her profile is hidden. However, I think someone hit it on the head earlier when they said she seemed to be wanting rough or wilder sex rather than have the boyfriend become dominant.

I advocate being open and honest about sharing fantasies; that has always worked for me. But then again, I would not wait till 3 years into a relationship to state what my desires in sex were about.

This is not a Dom/sub thing either; anyone in any relationship can figure out a way to discuss sexual desires and fantasies. I understand what the OP was doing when she bit him, etc. I think she was probably just trying to show him what she liked non verbally and hoped he would just do it without having to broach the subject.

P.S. if you are giving someone a blow job while they are watching TV and they keep watching TV, something is very wrong. :)




What could be more humiliating than she give you her best bj and you hardly notice.




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