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What really works when looking for... - 4/11/2006 5:01:11 AM

PainfulPair

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We have been looking for another sub/slave to add to our
play as a couple and trio. We have some questions
which we are looking for feedback or suggestions:

Are munches and party the best way?

Is online and chat?

If you have done this, what had worked for you in the
past?

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MsTender & DeMoN
Casa de Chaos ~Evil, Mean, & Nasty~

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RE: What really works when looking for... - 4/11/2006 5:20:43 AM

Tikkiee

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ORIGINAL: PainfulPair

We have been looking for another sub/slave to add to our
play as a couple and trio. We have some questions
which we are looking for feedback or suggestions:

Are munches and party the best way?

Is online and chat?

If you have done this, what had worked for you in the
past?

Consumed by the fire,
MsTender & DeMoN
Casa de Chaos ~Evil, Mean, & Nasty~

Personally I would concentrate my search more in the area of munches, play parties, etc. Real time meetings give a much better impression than online. That is not to say that you can not find him/her online; many have. Only that face to face is sometimes better.

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RE: What really works when looking for... - 4/11/2006 5:47:18 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Offline is the way to go, it gives you a ready made pool to enjoy and pick from, and allows everyone to see how you interact right off the bat.

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RE: What really works when looking for... - 4/11/2006 2:50:36 PM

Sensualips

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I think offline is the way as well, assuming you have active munches and so on in your area. I would only use online as a way to communicate between face to face, or if you were forced to expand your search.

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RE: What really works when looking for... - 4/11/2006 3:11:23 PM

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I'm going to be the odd man out I guess. My experience with munches/sloshes are that they are a great way to socialize with others in the lifestyle, but probably not a great way to meet others that share your interests and particularly ones that are likely candidates. Of course this depends on your area which no doubt affects the attendance of said candidates. I have seldom seen many single, unattached, uncollared, whatever, attend munches by themselves, most are cautious or even scared to show up at one alone. On the other hand, on-line is a scary proposition as well, sure you can reach the masses, but you don't really know who you are talking to. (Reflects a second) Of course this is an issue in real life as well, just no-one wants to admit it. I would suggest utilizing both methods and just see what happens...but I certainly wouldn't discount finding someone on-line, we had our share of disappointments but in the end, had great success as well. After all..for all practical purposes, you are on an on-line BDSM people meeting site....seems many forget that part.

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