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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 10:36:07 AM   
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Look up 'public" and then look up "private."


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 10:37:54 AM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:10:06 AM   
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In the first place, this may sound stupid but, what does TNG mean?
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:25:01 AM   
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I would like to know how people feel about public or private play.

I feel very strongly that what goes on between 2 people should remain private.


Well yay for you.
Good thing not everyone holds that same opinion or the world would be such a boring place.
And then we'd all have no one to look down on.

That being said....we're private people.



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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:28:19 AM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:29:11 AM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:30:04 AM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:30:32 AM   
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I love very discreet public play.
(Is it truly "public play" if no one sees it... even if just the risk is there? )



So do i!  Isn't it great knowing that there is a possibility of being seen?  It almost never happens, but that "risk" is a big thrill.  That element of exhibitionism is one of my favorite kinks.  

i know that many are against even allowing the potential for exposing the non-consenting to our kink, but i adore discreet exhibitionism (and i do realize that some would argue that "discreet" and "exhibitionism" are opposing terms). 

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 11:45:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas

Look up 'public" and then look up "private."



It became clear very early on that people weren't quite clear on what you were getting at in this thread.  As the OP, it was up to you to provide that clarification.  People asked what you meant by "public".  They also asked what you meant by "play".  Your response really does little to answer those questions.

Nobody can make you answer the questions.  But as the OP, it is up to you to make sure that the thread stays focused on your original question, and provides you with the feedback that you were seeking.  Your unwillingness to do so seems to indicate that you don't care, and that you just threw the question out there because you were bored.

i hate to single out any particular individual, but i am going to do so to make a point.  When LadyAngelika starts a thread, she does an excellent job of responding, facilitating the conversation, and preventing thread drift.   i believe that she is a great example of how an OP should remain engaged in the thread that they start.  In fact, i wish that i did as good a job of it as she does. 

Of course, you are free to use your own style.  You obviously choose to remain uninvolved in your own thread.  But much of the confusion would have been avoided had you stayed engaged in the discussion.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 12:05:12 PM   
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I love very discreet public play.
(Is it truly "public play" if no one sees it... even if just the risk is there? )



So do i!  Isn't it great knowing that there is a possibility of being seen?  It almost never happens, but that "risk" is a big thrill.  That element of exhibitionism is one of my favorite kinks.  

i know that many are against even allowing the potential for exposing the non-consenting to our kink, but i adore discreet exhibitionism (and i do realize that some would argue that "discreet" and "exhibitionism" are opposing terms). 



For me actually, what I most love about discrete public play does have to do with paradox but not in that sense.

When we are out in public and have one of those moments, the rest of the world vanishes... and there in a very public place we have just shared a very intimate moment and no one else had any awareness of it at all.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 2:48:25 PM   
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I like the "Grandmother" rule. If you would not Do it or Say it in front of your Grandmother, then do not do it or say it in public. But I guess there is always the 1 wild and crazy Grandmother



But once again, even grandmothers have changed.  These days, many "grandmothers" are 33 years old and still go to nightclubs.  They wear belly shirts and low-rise jeans.  They cuss like sailors and spend more time text messaging than actually talking on the telephone.

So which "grandmothers" are we to use as the prototype?

The 1950's are over.  Welcome to the 21st century.



Ah, you miss the beauty of the Role. There is not 1 Grandmother to rulel the group but each person uses their Grandmother. So there are no 33 year Grandmother's in this rule. If you mother was 16 when she had you, and her mother was 16 for her, and you are now of legal age, that make your Grandmother 50 years old.

The hidden beauty of the "Grandmother Rule" is if you would not Say it or Do it in front of YOUR Grandmother, then don't do it in public. Its a great rule. I am sure someone will find and exception but it has work well for 20 years of munches and dinners for our local BDSM group!


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 3:25:37 PM   
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Look up 'public" and then look up "private."


LOL, perhaps you should, there are clubs that are private and other's that are public. Not understanding the difference is why Club X got raided all those years ago.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 3:43:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am very certain that neither of my grandmothers would care at all right now.
However, going by your rule there are many things I never would have done in front of them back when they were in their original form: bathing, dressing...anything involving nudity.
As for other more intimate stuff, I am sure that they would have not have wanted to stay and watch so I think I would have been pretty safe were it not for the whole never undressing and bathing bit...

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 4:42:52 PM   
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Ah, you miss the beauty of the Role. There is not 1 Grandmother to rulel the group but each person uses their Grandmother. So there are no 33 year Grandmother's in this rule. If you mother was 16 when she had you, and her mother was 16 for her, and you are now of legal age, that make your Grandmother 50 years old.

The hidden beauty of the "Grandmother Rule" is if you would not Say it or Do it in front of YOUR Grandmother, then don't do it in public. Its a great rule. I am sure someone will find and exception but it has work well for 20 years of munches and dinners for our local BDSM group!



Knowing both my Grandmothers I would never have dared to go as far as being impolite let alone walk into a room where they were buck naked. Strewth, if I was cutting wood with my shirt off, and one of them came out of the house I'd automatically put my shirt on. Same applied for my Mother too. Some things were just not done in polite company no matter how kinky or liberated they were. It was just good manners never to say or do something which may embarrass others of your family or social group.

Despite the chronic deterioration of manners, respect for people generally and courtesies, I still find an underlying core of people who would prefer to follow this path except for the social pressures placed on them by peer groups.

Even as I grew up, there was an intricate language hidden from those not in the know, such as subtle hints, double meanings, hand and posture signals as well as adaptions to the language of the fans and flowers which would indicate that a "Naughty" evening was planned. Part of the enchantment and excitement in the build up was certainly that the proposed activities were note for public consumption except for the selected few. The pleasure of being involved in something "Naughty" and as such "Forbidden" was immense. Even forays into affairs for the married were accepted as long as they were not make public. Perhaps one of the reasons for this even today is the illicit relationship was and still is far more exciting that just wandering into a brothel or a pick ip bar. It had class, and was not crass. Even the legendary Hellfire Club started by Sir Francis Dashwood, whilst catering for ll sorts of sexual depravity had it's mystiques with the patrons being masked so you believed at least that no one could identify you. For some the modern crass, blatantly open, in your face situations are perfect and they are welcome to them. For me and others like me, we welcome the old ways where mystery and intrigue was part of the enjoyment.


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 4:43:53 PM   
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It isn't always about children. Sometimes it is about people that don't enjoy displays of overt sexual behavior while they are having dinner out or anywhere else. It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless.


Agreed. I'm not even close to being a prude, but I do very much believe in decorum.

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C'est exact! ;-) You aren't that rusty.

I just want to note that when I joined this conversation last night, since the OP had not really defined the type of display, the discussion was following the lines of public sexual activities.

As for the rest, I think I'll echo OrpheusAgonistes' thoughts on the subject here: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3219227

"In public, the Domme/submissive relationship, for me, is best expressed with subtle deference and dignified doting."

That pretty much expresses how I see it. I don't care if people are vanilla, kinky, etc. Decorum is always in good taste.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 4:47:37 PM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 4:56:51 PM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 6:07:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas

I would like to know how people feel about public or private play.

I feel very strongly that what goes on between 2 people should remain private.



How do you define public and what is private as well as what qualifies as play.

To many wearing a collar in public is offensive, yet to ME its not. Infact I know many people outside of the lifestyle who wear collars. Truth be told I have known a few nillas to walk around collared and leashed by their significant other. Granted this was in a goth / punk scene but none the less.

My play partner loves to take my shoe shopping and have me try on and model heels for him. He loves to put them on me and then says walk for me. Is that playing in public? Not to ME. To me it is his way of pampering me and me pampering him.

My play partner loves to pick out lingirie for me when we go shopping. Is that public play? Not to ME.

I have been known to "risk" doing certain sexual things in semi public places where I could possibly get caught and possibly get arrested. I admit I enjoy the rush. I admit to ME this is perfectly acceptable behavior as long as its not done in the eye shot of children.

I admit I have been known to give a foot job, hand job, or even blow job while at a restraunt or movie theatre. (I know its not the PRS board)

The reality is I dont live my life thinking "what if someone is offended" because the reality is no matter what we do, say, wear, ect someone is going to eventually be offended. Nor am I the morality police. I have children but I am not going to tell someone how to speak I will simply teach my children that people have different standards of what is acceptable and what isnt and that they have to find that balance for themselves.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 6:14:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		G'day DIS, I go shoe shopping with my wife and even shopping for lingerie. been known to have my arm outstretched with a variety of bras draped over it, or be holding the awesome and lethal hand bad often enough especially if I am in a wheelchair and Neets is trundling me around. Seems some of the women witness this find it very hot indeed.

I'm big enough, old enough, ugly enough and confident in myself to do such things and not give a damn of someone wants to take the micky and laugh in their face as they do.. Blokes who do this are not men but wimps with no balls in my book.


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/8/2010 6:25:57 PM   
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G'day DIS, I go shoe shopping with my wife and even shopping for lingerie. been known to have my arm outstretched with a variety of bras draped over it, or be holding the awesome and lethal hand bad often enough especially if I am in a wheelchair and Neets is trundling me around. Seems some of the women witness this find it very hot indeed.

I'm big enough, old enough, ugly enough and confident in myself to do such things and not give a damn of someone wants to take the micky and laugh in their face as they do.. Blokes who do this are not men but wimps with no balls in my book.




See I find that romantic and sexy and I totally agree if someone is secure in themselves they dont give a rats ass what some random stranger "may" think of them.

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