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Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 1:12:53 PM

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Daughters are our thing. We had assumed the would be subs or even slaves. However recently we have been playing with one who subs to us but tops her fiancée. (Our scenes include all 4 as we are the inclusive/poly types.)

We are posting here to get the opinion of switches about this age/status dependent switch. Is being a "daughter" with a fixed sub role with regard to Mommy & Daddy likely to satisfy the needs/wants of a switch?

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 1:27:27 PM

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Nice cleavage mommy!

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 1:35:25 PM

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I'm not sure if you are asking if the daddy and mommy dom scenario or fixed role would be something switches would want. However, it's irrelevant. There is not a common desire that all switches want. We are unique individuals with different needs and goals. You would have to ask the paticular individual you are considering.

You may be asking if a switch can stay in one role with a paticular partner or partners. Again, that varies by individual, however, my answer would be yes. In fact, if I identify with someone as Dominant, I would be submissive to them and not want to switch at all.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 1:36:38 PM

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Probably haven't lurked enough, but this is the first good question I've seen asked on the switch board.

Couldn't help you, though, as I am not a switch.

Nice pic, btw.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 3:03:00 PM

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The better question to ask is "Is this situation fulfilling to everyone involved?"

That being said, the majority of switches do not switch or desire to switch WITHIN a dynamic.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/10/2010 6:39:37 PM

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your question wasn't very clear. Are you asking can switches be happy not switching at all, or not switching with mommy and daddy in that dynamic?

I'm ok with not switching in dynamic, but if I wasn't allowed to switch outside my relationship at all the entire time I had a relationship, I wouldn't be very happy.

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ORIGINAL: DaddyDomAndMom

Daughters are our thing. We had assumed the would be subs or even slaves. However recently we have been playing with one who subs to us but tops her fiancée. (Our scenes include all 4 as we are the inclusive/poly types.)

We are posting here to get the opinion of switches about this age/status dependent switch. Is being a "daughter" with a fixed sub role with regard to Mommy & Daddy likely to satisfy the needs/wants of a switch?

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/11/2010 1:28:21 AM

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The better question to ask is "Is this situation fulfilling to everyone involved?"

That being said, the majority of switches do not switch or desire to switch WITHIN a dynamic.

Agreed, although even that can vary. If that's even what you're asking which still is pretty murky imo.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/11/2010 4:24:28 AM

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We are posting here to get the opinion of switches about this age/status dependent switch. Is being a "daughter" with a fixed sub role with regard to Mommy & Daddy likely to satisfy the needs/wants of a switch?

It's entirely possible. Good communication with potentials should sort out the answer for you. If it were me, yes, I could be quite happy and content because my switchy only relates to SM (as it does for many other switches) and within M/s, I'm strictly on the kneel side. SM is take it or leave it but M/s is at the core and a *must* in relationships for me.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/13/2010 1:38:26 AM

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We have a very pretty young switch girl of 20, who is dominant to her husband but submissive to us, she loves to play confession games about what she does to him.
It works completely, he hasn't a clue and he will never hear about it from us, that was at her request. She's actually our only ever secret affair and it's sexy as hell.
It must admit it plays more like No no nannette, than la ronde, though.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/13/2010 10:41:59 AM

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So far, I haven't switched on a D/s or M/s level with the same person. I've had a 5 year relationship as a Domme and a 3 year relationship as a submissive with no switching at all in either, and a 1 year relationship as a slave in which I topped and dominated another woman, but did not switch with my Master. I've occasionally been in a bit of a "little girl" headspace when I was excited, but hadn't actually dressed up or made the scene about age play until last night (with another "little girl"). I don't know if I could maintain that headspace/dynamic within a LTR, since it's more of a passing mood than a core part of my personality. I'm not sure whether or not I could submit to both partners in a couple, since most people just don't push my submissive buttons. I could still obey and do acts of service for both people even if I was only actually submissive to both of them, but it sounds like you would need her to actually submit on a deeper, emotional/psychological level. Another switch might be very happy in that situation, everyone is different. Heck a lot of submissives would *NOT* be open to that scenario at all, even if they've never switched.

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RE: Switches as Daughters? - 6/14/2010 8:44:46 AM

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Thanks for the comments! The purposely ambiguous and flexible question resulted in helpful and well thought out answers almost universally agreeing that individual pre-disposition(s) rule and a switch might be compatible with us. (If anyone happens to knows someone they think might be the right fit point them in the direction of our profile.) We appreciate the time you took to respond and welcome any additional thoughts!
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