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MLskajira -> a bonding issue (4/11/2006 8:12:58 PM)
this girl has been in the lifestyle for 33 years, but until she met her Master, no one had been able to have anal with her (she would genuinely fight), so she was truly "virgin". no one but Master has had that. she would like to know, does His takeing it mean the same to Him as it does to her, is it as important to Him as to her, or is this a one sided feeling? W/we have been together, in a 24/7 M/s relationship for almost a year and a half now, this girl worships her Master and she knows He loves her too.

MadamShy -> RE: a bonding issue (4/11/2006 8:16:49 PM)
darlin this is something you need to ask your Master... and if He doesn't know how special this is to you He should I think He will be touched ... even if He is a Strong Gorean Master...[;)]

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/11/2006 9:12:49 PM)
this girl's Master knows how she feels and tells her that He is touched. what she is searching for is weather or not it is something any Master would find special, and just how much significance They put into it.

skinnykitten -> RE: a bonding issue (4/11/2006 10:09:44 PM)
MLskajira, I think whether a Master would find this special or significant is subjective - while I can only speak for myself, I would imagine that there are some who consider the taking of virginity a sacred and spiritually binding act, others who think it's pretty special but don't attach any significance beyond the novelty of it, and others who would prefer an experienced lover... At any rate, you have found a Master who shares your values in this regard, congrats on achieving new levels of intimacy in your relationship [;)]

Arpig -> RE: a bonding issue (4/11/2006 10:29:32 PM)
Well I for one do find the giving of virginity (rather than the taking of it) special. It is nothing unique sexwise (often less fun actually) from my point of view, but what is special is knowing that she is offering it to you. Virginity (any virginity) can only be given up once, and to be chosen as the one to whom it is given up is what I find special. So yes...at least one dominant out there does think of it as a very special event, and treasures the memory of the virginities he has had the pleasure of taking.

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 3:49:12 PM)
this girl is grateful to each of Y/you for Y/your insights. it has served to ease her mind a bit. not that she was worried about anything, just curious.

KnightofMists -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 4:29:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MLskajira this girl has been in the lifestyle for 33 years, but until she met her Master, no one had been able to have anal with her (she would genuinely fight), so she was truly "virgin". no one but Master has had that. she would like to know, does His takeing it mean the same to Him as it does to her, is it as important to Him as to her, or is this a one sided feeling? W/we have been together, in a 24/7 M/s relationship for almost a year and a half now, this girl worships her Master and she knows He loves her too. your 43 years old and you been in the lifestyle for 33 years......mmmmmmmmm this is rather interesting.... Makes me wonder what you think "being in the Lifestyle" is? as far as your question.... Why don' t you ask him how it means to him... No one else can speak for him! For the life of me I can't understand why you would ask anyone else what it means to him! How can anyone here speak for him?

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 5:31:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists your 43 years old and you been in the lifestyle for 33 years......mmmmmmmmm this is rather interesting.... Makes me wonder what you think "being in the Lifestyle" is? as far as your question.... Why don' t you ask him how it means to him... No one else can speak for him! For the life of me I can't understand why you would ask anyone else what it means to him! How can anyone here speak for him? this girl HAS been in the lifestyle for 33 years. back when it was mostly underground. she was raised by a slave mother and a Master step-Father. yes, she knows that in the beginning it was abuse (DO NOT PITY THIS GIRL!!). she left home at a very early age and KNOWS what she is talking about. this girl is not looking to find out how "her" Master felt about it, she knows how He feels about it, but how other Master's feel about it.

KnightofMists -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 5:55:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MLskajira quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists .... Makes me wonder what you think "being in the Lifestyle" is? this girl HAS been in the lifestyle for 33 years. back when it was mostly underground. she was raised by a slave mother and a Master step-Father. yes, she knows that in the beginning it was abuse (DO NOT PITY THIS GIRL!!). she left home at a very early age and KNOWS what she is talking about. So from this statement... are you saying that being in an Abusive Relationship could be considered as "Being In the Lifestyle"? Personally for me... "Being In the Lifestyle!" for one thing amoung many things... IS "not being in an Abusive Relationship" For me the lifestyle is not about Abusive... but Personal Empowerment!

DelRey -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 6:54:35 PM)
You're how old ? He did you in the ass, now you want to erect a monument? It is what it is, hopfully you pleased him. "that is what it is all about, pleasing Master".

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 9:28:37 PM)
no KnightofMists, being abused is being abused. this girl walked away from what she had been taught when she was a child, but could not walk away from who and what she is. regardless of if she wanted it or not, this girl WAS in the life from the age of 11. she was actively and willingly in the life from the age of 13. sorry if that confuses or offends You, it was not done to that end. this girl's life was and is, what it was and is. DelRey, this girl will be 44 in 2 months and she could give a shit less if a monument was raised, that is not why she started this post, she was only curious to know how other Masters feel about the subject. and please, this girl knows better than some what it is all about and yes, she did please her Master, thank You for asking.

truesub4u -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 11:27:54 PM)
MLskajira.... as to your OP before it was picked apart there.... yes.. I do think there are alot of others out there that think that when they're given something special, that was never given before to another. That they think it very special and brings a closer bond to the relationship. Some like to cut that notch in the bed post, others cherish. Sounds like yours did too. Congrads to the both of you on tightening that bond.

ownedgirlie -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 11:32:53 PM)
MLskajira, i am going to attempt to actually answer your question, without comment about your age, what your upbringing was, or monuments about your ass. my Master also was my first for many things. When i had told him i had not been taken in certain ways before, he grinned and said it was nice of me to save it for him...heh. i think Masters, and perhaps men in general, think differently overall than females do. Maybe we women place more sentiment on such things. Maybe i am wrong, who knows. Master liked the idea that he was my first in such things, and found me to be a special girl over all. Knowing how new i was to many experiences, he realized my giving over of self had great meaning to me, since it involved letting go of many fears. He did not take that lightly. It is an interesting concept to think about - i for one like to hear the perspective of other Dominants on topics such as this. Hopefully more will participate in this thread with regard to your actual question.

BitaTruble -> RE: a bonding issue (4/12/2006 11:37:40 PM)
I met Master a bit later in life and the 'firsts' which were available to him were few and far between. Because of this, those things which were a 'first' were very special for both of us. As we make new discoveries and share in things together, they are thought upon with fond memories and much laughter. Celeste

KnightofMists -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 5:07:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MLskajira no KnightofMists, being abused is being abused. Agree... but then this still leaves the question... What do you consider as "Being in the Lifestyle"?

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 5:12:39 AM)
thank you, ownedgirlie and bitatrouble. this girl did not start this thread to open herself up for "verbal" abuse, only out of curiousity. honestly, this girl does not understand the attitudes of KnightofMists or DelRey. They seem to be reacting as if this girl had offended Them in some way and for the life of her, she cannot see how she might have done that. so thank you again and this girl, too, hopes that more Masters who are willing to openly and honestly answer her question will view this thread.

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 5:24:32 AM)
KnightofMists, this girl is a slave, born and bred. she considers the "lifestyle" to be a mutual and loving exchange of needs. the Master's need to control and this girl's need to be controled. this girl is a maveric when uncollared and only causes herself and T/those around her worry and stress if she is left to her own devices. she grew up in fighting pits, so can have a bit of an attitude at times, and even in her 40's, sometimes thinks herself untouchable. her Master straightens her out on that score. this girl is a pet now (the first time in her life she is not a working or fighting slave) but she is not a poodle, she isnt even a pittbull, this girl will eat pittbulls, she is a pet tiger and she acts like a tiger. just because she has stripes, she will not eat grass and brey like a zebra, this girl needs meat and a good roar on occassion. she hopes this answered Your question.

Tikkiee -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 5:30:51 AM)
quote: she would like to know, does His takeing it mean the same to Him as it does to her, is it as important to Him as to her, or is this a one sided feeling? I would think that only one person could answer this question. Have you tried asking him?

MLskajira -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 5:54:57 AM)
Tikkiee, no disrespect intended, but if Y/you had read a llittle further into this thread Y/you would have seen that this girl HAS spoken with her Master on this subject. she did not word the opening remark correctly, what she would like is to know the feelings of other Master's on this subject. thank Y/you for responding and she hopes to hear more from Y/you.

crouchingtigress -> RE: a bonding issue (4/13/2006 10:22:27 AM)
With all due respect Mlskijara, what are fighting pits and what is it like to grow up in them? You are a facinating girl, what is a fighting slave? And how does you master typically keep you in line? Gosh the boards were starting to get so boring until you came a long....cant wait to hear you replies!

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