cloudboy
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Well, since the powers that be have driven Lola from the CMMBs, I'll try to step in and fill the gap.
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But I've often seen feminization described as making a man into something "less" than a man.
To my own particular (and admittedly peculiar) way of thinking, one does not make a man into something less than a man by making him into an imitation of something greater than a man, i.e. a Woman. As I've often put it, feminizing somebody like me is not degrading to me. It is, however, insulting to Femininity.
Your question lies on false assumptions and misunderstanding.
When dressing is used as a tool of humiliation (as opposed to say passing) the effect is:
CHANGE ---- Man ---- from ----- male ---- to ---- sissy male.
It is not:
Change ---- Man into caricature of woman.
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This is different from changing a male into a female: transexualism.
This is different from Men impersonating females: Transvestism.
Transvestism and Transexualism exist independent of FEMDOM and BDSM altogether.
"Sissification" and "Forced feminization," though, rely on a DOM to devise the route of emasculation into sissy space --- hence men need guidance, control, rules, and someone to serve within a BDSM context as a sissy. Typically one becomes a maid. (I might point out a maid is more useful than a dog, horse, or piece of furniture as you suggested.)
Once dressed, the male becomes awkward and dependent --- and often times aroused --- these three traits then are there for the grabbing, shaping, and use of the DOM. (I might point out that a man won't be nearly as stimulated if forced to become a dog, horse, or piece of furniture as you suggested.)
I once served a DOM for three months as a sissy maid about 1-2 x a week. Oddly I really had not been into dressing for a long time when this opportunity opened up --- but I jumped at the chance because I really, really wanted to have this experience. In that time I became really adept at cleaning Mistress' House and keeping order, following rules, and otherwise undergoing training. What I liked about it was how INSANE IT WAS, me going into this sissy maid role. It just seemed CRAZY, but it was a great escape, and I became a blank slate for Mistress to draw upon.
As for the Mistress, she for some odd reason liked a guy femmed up --- it gave her more hand to work with. She also enjoyed having an obedient servant who followed rigid eye contact and speech restrictions. In many ways, this women intiated me into BDSM. At about the 3 mo point, I broke it off because I wanted something more personal with a Mistress that objectified servitude. I still feel like I let her down, as she was getting quite used to having me "in-service." Nonetheless, I chose to break it off.
My new Mistress is like most ladies. She's uninspired by thoughts of feminization --- and that was fine with me. I was glad to be masculine again. Nonetheless, we recently had a maid day, where I had to truss up, follow orders, and stay in role. What is humiliating about it goes into several levels: the difficulty in walking in high heels, being an enfemme male with male male manerisms and voice, and lastly, being overall dependent on my Mistress to guide me through the experience.
For her, I think this gave her an idea of what it might be like to have a slave. (I've always told her she's not cut out for slaves because she's too fair minded and considerate -- and she's too interested in who she is with...)
I think it would be an absurd extrapolation to deduce that my maid day and before that maid service --- in any way degraded women or feminity.
Like I said upfront, such an assumption is ill-founded and the question therefore is a bad one.
The better question is, what will a sub do for his FEMDOM? What can a FEMDOM do to reach inside her sub? Exploring traditional gender roles in this context is nothing but healthy role play, trust building, and discovery of one's self. This is a far cry from "degrading" feminity or women.
In deference to the now departed Lola, I was tempted to use a pink font, but I'll just stick with something blackish and masculine for contrast.
As a parting shot, I'm glad to not be as fetish driven as I was in my 20s. Now that I'm older, I actually have a great appreciation for bodies, the feel of body on body or hand on body, and as rule I see clothes as just getting in the way.
< Message edited by cloudboy -- 4/12/2006 6:13:54 PM >
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