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IronBear -> RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out (6/13/2010 7:35:15 PM)
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I come down on the Mercnbeth side here. I'm a parent (who has been illegally blocked my an ex wife from seeing my son , now 16, since 2001. This not withstanding, I would and will support my offspring no matter what (with in reason and with the exception of drug use where I will still support and remove the drug supply). I do base this on my own experiences.
My late Mother, bless her, was absolutely mortified when I resigned my commission in the Australian SAS (The best of the Best), and believed I had screwed my social advancement chances. Mind you she would have had the vapours if I dated a girl below my social status too. However I told her what I tell you now and I quote:
"Mother if you love me you will allow me to make my own choices and stop trying to live my life for me. If you do love me you will give me your suppoet and blessings and stand by to pick up any pieces from mistakes I will make. If you can not do this, you do not love me for me but want to clone me for your own social aspirations, at which stage I shall mave no option but to leave and make my own way without family support."
There was silence after which my father applauded. My Mother left the room and refused to see me off the next day when I flew out for the US and Fort Brag to accept a commission in the US Army SF. I saw her again when I came home from ther US after I completed a 5 year stint in 'Nam as a commissioned officer (SF), at the funeral of my late Father. I know he kept her up to date with my doings over seas and a close family friend talked to her briefing her of my promotions and decorations. She never acknowledged my choices after than and made a point of keeping my kid brother apart from me until she dies when I met him for the first time in over 20 years.
My point is lass, you make your own choices even if you choose a harder road. Opportunities do arise to finish your education and live on your own terms. When Neets and I started our relationship she was a 22 year old virgin and I was 30 years her senior. her parents were not happy. I told them that we were getting engaged and they had but two choices.....Accept our relationship and gain a son in law or loose a daughter (and miss the wedding). The counter offer was to have a two year engagement (we had already decided on that) and they would pay for the wedding provided Neet's older sister (Neets and I can't stand her) was invited to the wedding.. Ity all worked out famously. In my book and in my experience, many 18 year olds are old enough, ugly enough and smart enough to move out and spread their wings, make their mistakes and build a jolly good life. Some parents bow to the inevitable and allow their kids to do just that (as long they don muzzels or ball gags so as not to spew poision nevery chance).
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