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New Dom - 6/14/2010 12:24:00 PM

akinkyguy

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I was introduced to a sub, she told me her needs and and I thought I knew what she wanted. She has now dedided that I am not dark enough. Short but sweet.

I want more! How should I find a suitable sub ?

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 12:25:18 PM

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Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 12:25:46 PM

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Don't take offense. Sounds like you just have different needs.

Find a sub by making a profile, participating in the forums, and browsing profiles of submissive females.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:19:36 PM

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Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

And yet the leotardy/lycraesque top is working for you Jeff?

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:25:11 PM

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Hello akg,

Welcome to the boards!

First off, don't despair - it may take some time, but you'll eventually find someone. If you're after a real relationship bear in mind that in some senses it's doubly hard to find a kinky partner - You have to find someone who is compatible in a vanilla sense (so you can stand to be with eachother outside the bedroom) as well as in terms of kink.

But there are lots of sane, sorted, kinky gals out there - so keep your pecker up, and carry on looking.

I would, respectfully, suggest an alternative profile pic... although this is just a question of my personal taste (and since you're not looking for someone like me I suppose my preference may not be worth that much).

Also - beef up your profile - Talk a little about what you can BRING to a relationship, as well as what you expect FROM a relationship.

I'd also suggest talking a little about your non kinky interests as well as your kinky ones.

Don't expect a deluge of responses - you may well have to do most of the chasing, and don't be too downhearted when promising initial chats seem to disappear (happens all the time).

Good luck!

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:25:44 PM

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Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

And yet the leotardy/lycraesque top is working for you Jeff?

Your outfit makes me immediately think gay male submissive. I know, I might get accused of stereotyping, but it doesn't make me want to submit to anything but taking you to the mall for some proper masculine attire. Sorry.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:26:02 PM

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Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

And yet the leotardy/lycraesque top is working for you Jeff?

Baby steps, crazy.....baby steps

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:30:17 PM

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Op,

What do you know?

If all you know is what gets your dick hard well there are so many of you that you will spend LOTS of time in the horizontal position with Jergens and Tissues.

The sub in question is looking for a feeling and a concept that is most likely based in fantasy and will be dificult to reproduce in reality. descriptors like "Dark" & "Haunting" and things like that usually lead me to wonder how long ago they read Christine by De Sade or The Story of O.

Take you time and learn about the playground before you hop on the swings man.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:45:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

And yet the leotardy/lycraesque top is working for you Jeff?

Your outfit makes me immediately think gay male submissive. I know, I might get accused of stereotyping, but it doesn't make me want to submit to anything but taking you to the mall for some proper masculine attire. Sorry.

Raises her hand uh Anynne you can take me shopping! Pick me! Pick me! PICK ME!

Welcome to the forums OP!

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 6/14/2010 1:46:00 PM >

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 1:55:55 PM

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Your outfit makes me immediately think gay male submissive. I know, I might get accused of stereotyping, but it doesn't make me want to submit to anything but taking you to the mall for some proper masculine attire. Sorry.

For me, it's not so much the attire as the pose. Your right knee is bent back in a most alluring way. There's a bit of left nipple kinda thingie that's NOT working for me.... IS it working for anyone else? Thought not.....

HEY! But it sounds like you might know what IS good for you with respect to the more important stuff. Look around, enjoy. Establih a personality through your posts.

Short-n-sweet: WELCOME!
And remember: Always have fun!

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 2:06:46 PM

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On the plus side, black IS slimming!

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 2:28:58 PM

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On the plus side, black IS slimming!

You should start wearing white, then. Oh wait, that's too virginal.

Eggshell.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 2:29:57 PM

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 3:19:05 PM

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What color is THAT? Kinda like peach?

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 3:52:55 PM

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I was introduced to a sub, she told me her needs and and I thought I knew what she wanted. She has now dedided that I am not dark enough. Short but sweet.

I want more! How should I find a suitable sub ?

You could try going to those tanning bed places. There is also that cream stuff that you can use to dye your skin so that you look like you have a tan.

Other than that, I am not sure how you would make yourself darker.

Best of luck!

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 4:36:27 PM

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I was introduced to a sub, she told me her needs and and I thought I knew what she wanted. She has now dedided that I am not dark enough. Short but sweet.

I want more! How should I find a suitable sub ?

G'day mate and welcome to the CM boards. Now believe or not you have already received some of the best information and help you'll need. The joking and teasing are all just good fun and bno one is trying to ream you a new arsehole.

So old chap, lets get down to business. The clobber you are wearing may be good for dungeon time if that is your look. Doesn't do anything for me but we are all different and have different likes and styles. For all we know that clobber may be what you wear to the gym (Sweaty training gear is a better chick magnet) or it could be your training costume if you are learning dance (again a great place to find sensual ladies) but if that is the case a Rudolf Khametovich Nureyev you aren't. For your NEW profile photo, you need something different. Something which establishes you as a person grounded in reality and not fantasy. In your current photo you look a tad twee and those man boobs do nothing for you although you are showing a bulge in the crotch, a pare of rolled up socks may look more convincing if you are advertising being a man whore. No old chap, shoulders back and for heaven's sake stand up straight, that slightly cocked leg s only attractive to a pooch who can't find a fire hydrant or tree to piddle on. Frankly if you stood like that on any parade ground I was commanding, you'd be rubbing laps in full battle kit with an LMG raised over your head untill you fuigfured oput how to stand. The pose makes me thing you are not used to posing for a camera and may even be shy or lacking self confidence in this department. Do yourself a favour and get a friend who can take good photos to do a shoot for you or seek professional help to put together a good set of profile photos.

You need to rework your profile and if you are entirely new of have limited experience, then for God's sake state it else you will come across as either a fake or a troll and in either case unlikely to attract as much serious attention. If you are able, get to some munches in your area so people can meet you, watch listen and learn. Attending a public dungeon is a good thing too for there you can learn by watching experienced BDSMers play and how they interact with their sub/slaves.

Look old boy, this is your life, not mine, do what you will, listen to the advise given on these boards or not as Lance commented above all have fun here and do join in so we can get to know you.

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RE: New Dom - 6/14/2010 4:43:45 PM

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Your outfit makes me immediately think gay male submissive. I know, I might get accused of stereotyping, but it doesn't make me want to submit to anything but taking you to the mall for some proper masculine attire. Sorry.

For me, it's not so much the attire as the pose. Your right knee is bent back in a most alluring way. There's a bit of left nipple kinda thingie that's NOT working for me.... IS it working for anyone else? Thought not.....

HEY! But it sounds like you might know what IS good for you with respect to the more important stuff. Look around, enjoy. Establih a personality through your posts.

Short-n-sweet: WELCOME!
And remember: Always have fun!

OK. When Lance tells you that the pic isn't working, I'd take his advice on that.

As to the rest, you already have your own answer. You met a submissive woman before. Well, what did you do to meet her?

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RE: New Dom - 6/15/2010 4:12:26 AM

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Same way you find a compatible girlfriend. You date, you talk about what you both want and decide if you are sufficiently compatible.

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RE: New Dom - 6/15/2010 5:57:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Well, first, you might want to get some different shorts.

And yet the leotardy/lycraesque top is working for you Jeff?

Your outfit makes me immediately think gay male submissive. I know, I might get accused of stereotyping, but it doesn't make me want to submit to anything but taking you to the mall for some proper masculine attire. Sorry.

Raises her hand uh Anynne you can take me shopping! Pick me! Pick me! PICK ME!

Welcome to the forums OP!

laurell!!! I would love to :) First we shall drink. Only malls that have plenty of tacky littly chinese restaurants around them so we can have mai tai's then buy clothes, it's the most fun, then the next day you say "Did I really need those 5 inch stripper shoes or that faux leopard bolero"? lol..but it looked so good at the time!

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Edited to add Laurell your post pushed me into "Deranged"! I'm honored.

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RE: New Dom - 6/15/2010 9:57:20 AM

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I was introduced to a sub, she told me her needs and and I thought I knew what she wanted. She has now dedided that I am not dark enough. Short but sweet.

I want more! How should I find a suitable sub ?

What do you want? What are your needs?

Find someone that fits these.. Don't try to conform yourself to whatever it is they want, just to be in a relationship.

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