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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/19/2010 4:09:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: zoeypinkk

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ORIGINAL: Miyani

"But if you don't feel right putting things on hold with others yet, tell him that. "I really like you, and I'd love to see where this is going, but it's a bit too early to be 'under consideration,' for me. Let's just keep doing what we're doing, and see where it goes."

His reaction to that will also give you some of the information you need to make your choice about him.

This is an excellent Idea, thank you :)

Yep, that's what I wanted to say as well....

I sometimes put in my profile that I am not looking, but this is then the case when "I" want to give my attention to one guy in particular at that moment and NOT because he says so, as I am not good in genuinely dating several people at the same time, for me it is a fair bit kind of one person after another...also it does not mean that I am in general unable to get to know others during that time either, however IF I get to know others during that time, then they know that right now my main focus won't be with them...that can potentially change at a later time (and happened in the past) but I simply found for myself to put it in when I feel that I want to take him serious for now and want to give him my full attention and also helps to avoid answering every fool who doesn't bother to read my proifle in the first place that I am not looking and so can just delete it without and answer .

But yep...it can certainly tell you a lot depending on his reaction when you would take it out

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/19/2010 5:16:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

Girls. go. too. fast.

Not everything that happens today is a forever decision. Take time. Get to know him, bit by bit by bit.

You're all ready to settle down, exactly when you should be talking to other men as well.

And already you're overanalyzing and second guessing. Playing games with you? He just met you--once. Let him get to know you first.

Expectations are resentments under construction. Day at time, girl. Day at a time.

Enjoy today.

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Quoted not only for truth but because it bears repeating.....often not so much for the OP but for anyone who reads this and needs to read it. Racing ahead of where the relationship actually is will kill it faster than virtually anything else.

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/19/2010 5:39:21 AM

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Just take your time. spend time as friends (possibly play partners) and get to know one another. See for yourself just how he behaves day to day, how hhe interacts with his friends, how he lives on a day to day basis.

Also be careful of what I call the "Beefeater Doms" You know.. the guys who troll the site for a quick fuck with no intention of ever going any further.

Your submission ALWAYS has to be earned. if you give it too easily then it will be abused, if you make him go through the effort of EARNING you, then he will more than likely take better care of you.

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/19/2010 6:53:28 AM

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Be smart lass. Be very smart and take it slow. Explore your options. Some one who wants you in a collar of consideration so fast probable is preying on your inexperience because he can't get an experienced sub so I see red flags here straight off.

But IB.... all of that makes sense for you. In YOUR mind, the word "slave" has a certain commitment to it. It has even more commitment in mine (since I would never consider a temporary slave... it's lifelong or bust). But that's just you and me. Zoey clearly wants something and she wants it NOW. She's 25... I strongly doubt she's thinking in terms of "for the rest of my life I'm giving my entire self to another human being literally as his property".

Zoey... my advice to you is to be clear on whatever it is that you want then go for it. If this M/s thing is, as I suspect, a kinky boyfriend/girlfriend thing, then knock yourself out. Have fun. From the tone of your post, it sounds like you and this dom are having great fun. My advice is try not to do anything too stupid, but enjoy it.

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/22/2010 11:03:24 PM

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Zoey, I am new to this site and this lifestyle. I did the same thing. I wanted to find a Master and be a Slave without understanding what kind of commitment that entails. I also got "used". I met a very wish Dom who advised me to slow down and try being a submissive and be mentored, maybe by several doms. I appreciated his advice and the other advice that everyone has given. It's nice to know that everyone isn't in to just using someone to get off.

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/23/2010 3:23:41 AM

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Thought for the day: If you name yourself snatchtastic, don't be surprised if people don't see past the vagina to the rest of you.

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RE: input for a new slave :) - 6/23/2010 7:31:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: snatchtastic
and be mentored, maybe by several doms.

Personally, I think mentorship should come from the same side of the kneel and that mentorship never involves play or sex.

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