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PeonForHer -> RE: married subs finding Dommes to serve (6/25/2010 7:37:44 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
Likewise, a major part of me thought that I'd one day 'lose' the submissive feelings. I'd 'put away childish toys', as they say. I could have got married, lived the vanilla life and learned to enjoy some of it, while putting up with the rest of it - with the D/s desire firmly locked in a cupboard, gathering dust. Then, I could have come here, had that desire suddenly woken up and right out of the cupboard, jumping around in my head and scrambling up what I'd once hoped and believed would turn into a normal, moderately happy vanilla marriage.
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THIS is the part that I am talking about. I think it's within reason that a person doesn't know that the universe of perversity doesn't exist, if you don't go looking for it. What I have a lot of trouble with is the "sudden" discovery of submissive feeling at age 50, or whatever. To not know deep down what your personality is, what your desires are---and I am not referring to kink here, but to orientation---shows a total lack of introspection.
I don't know, Lady Hib. It's hard to imagine, I suppose. But, on the other hand, people can be astonishingly lacking in introspection. They can also be fully-paid-up members of that nutcase mentality that has it that you can always 'act your way into a new way of thinking'.
So they can also believe, to an extent that's sometimes astonished me, that they can 'mould' their desires. There have been enough homosexuals who've believed that they can 'mould' themselves into being heterosexual, for instance. In fact, I read that there's yet another new and thriving, church-based school of thought in the USA founded on that belief. A D/s kink is going to look like less of a challenge than that, too, I'd bet.
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