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lally2 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:32:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FetishRose

I consider myself a relatively bratty sub.  For my Sir and I...that means I am playful, and give him, within the bonds of play, an excuse to "punish" me.  While I know many find the concept of play punishment to be silly or idiotic, we enjoy it.
For example, I may disregard an order, when I sense he is in the mood for me to do so.  I will go wide-eyed, and shake my head, and maybe giggle.  This always leads to rough and tumble fun time.
It's about knowing when it is and when it is not acceptable.  If I act bratty, and he calls me on it and tells me he is not in the mood, I change, and do what he asked.  I could not be with a dominant that I could not have this sense of playfulness around.  I enjoy being physically overtaken, and he enjoys physically forcing my submission at times.  It's just our way.



i think that sounds wonderful and its working out great - because youre up front and straight with each other and its part of the dynamic.  its fun and works for you.

what i want to know is whats the difference between having a spirited personality and opinions of youre own and brattyness.  someone mentioned 'doormat' but ive never met a doormat ever - i think the thought that you cant be submissive and express youreself is silly, but there are ways of expressing youreself that are either respectful or rude, which is oversimplifying it i know, but basically thats the bottom line.

what actually is brattyness, i dont really see FetishRose's description as bratty at all, its just how they like to be and its playful and plays into their funishment needs.




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:37:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

as do you, though i dont like taking a debate to cmail simply because someone does not like how its turning out.



as I wrote in cmail ~~
"I am going to respond to you here because derailing a forum is not in good taste:"

I stand by my statements in my 2nd post.




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:41:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FetishRose

I consider myself a relatively bratty sub.  For my Sir and I...that means I am playful, and give him, within the bonds of play, an excuse to "punish" me.  While I know many find the concept of play punishment to be silly or idiotic, we enjoy it.
For example, I may disregard an order, when I sense he is in the mood for me to do so.  I will go wide-eyed, and shake my head, and maybe giggle.  This always leads to rough and tumble fun time.
It's about knowing when it is and when it is not acceptable.  If I act bratty, and he calls me on it and tells me he is not in the mood, I change, and do what he asked.  I could not be with a dominant that I could not have this sense of playfulness around.  I enjoy being physically overtaken, and he enjoys physically forcing my submission at times.  It's just our way.




thank you Rose.  while understanding playful bratiness, and it seems like you have a grand time, is one type of brattiness, I guess I lumped bad smart ass/brat with the good kind.  thank you once again for allowing me to see the difference.




juliaoceania -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:46:17 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

as do you, though i dont like taking a debate to cmail simply because someone does not like how its turning out.



as I wrote in cmail ~~
"I am going to respond to you here because derailing a forum is not in good taste:"

I stand by my statements in my 2nd post.



If you ask me her posts were spot on in regard to this thread, and not in any way a derailing of it...

This part of your OP I found to be particularly worth emphasizing

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and maybe a smart ass/ brat or sarcastic submissive finds and even thicker headed smart ass sarcastic dom/me.


You are basically saying that dominants that find pleasure in a bratty submissive are "thick"... that is a fucked up way to think about what other people enjoy...

What does it matter to you what people like? Don't like the way people play, don't associate with them... I find more beauty in people having a good time and expressing themselves than those who go around with their tiny boxes trying to force the rest of the world into them




DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:49:55 PM)

OP, I can be a total smart ass and extremely sarcastic. I can even be a a playful brat at times. That being said my partner, my Daddy, loves that in me. He finds me extremely submissive towards HIM. I know where that line lies with him. When dealing with forums he pretty much allows me to express myself openly and honestly. He loves that I can think for myself and have no issue expressing myself. Simply because I am submissive to him and give into his will doesn't mean I am going to give into the will of every tom, dick and harry online or real life.

Now I would NEVER presume that my smart ass, sarcastic, playful attitutude is for every dom anymore than I would assume that every dom is for me. I do know that EDQ2 and I work wonderful together even with those personality traits and to me that is all that matters. There is no twuee way.... no one way that works for everyone. There is only the way that works for us and I am greatful he loves me and wants me just the way I am.

ETA: I found your OP full of judgement and the one twue wayisms.




littleone35 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:52:59 PM)

I am hardly ever a brat. A few times in over 4 years i admit i have been a bit of a brat. Once i got displined for it because i did not listen when he told me to shape up. The other times i was his good girl and listined. The time when i fele the most bratty is when i am PMSing but for me that is par for the course. I don't act on it often but every once in a while..... I do not do it to get attention that would be the wrong kind of attention. Some but centinly not all feel that any attention is good. I am not one of them.

Some Dom/me like bratty subs some don't it is a personal preference.

Matt's littleone




leadership527 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:54:43 PM)

I like people who are respectful of others. The way I personally interpret the words "bratty" and "sarcastic" is not respectful therefor I shun such people. In my mind, this has nothing to do with dominance or submission. It has to do with the kind of people I like in my social circle in general.

Insofar as your questions about why some people thrive in a dynamic that allows for more push/pull between the dominant and submissive, I have to assume it's because that works for them. Does there need to be any deeper reason? Is there some deeper reason that you follow your path other than "it's the path that works for you?"

Sometimes, the total depth of the answer is, "I like chocolate because chocolate is what I like."




DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:56:32 PM)

Leadership so does that mean you shun me? (i'm just kinda curious)

ETA: I think we all define what is sarcasm and what is being a smart ass in our own ways. Like most things there is no across the board concensious of what these things are. I also think alot of it is based upon personal intermpretation especially on the forums.




juliaoceania -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:57:49 PM)

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I guess I lumped bad smart ass/brat with the good kind.


Who makes that judgment? You? Or the people in that relationship?




DarkSteven -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 12:58:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Level

Being playful is fine, but being a brat is disrespectful. It all depends on how folks define the two.







leadership527 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:03:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
Leadership so does that mean you shun me? (i'm just kinda curious)
No. Whatever it is that you have expressed where I can see it (namely, here on collarme), it has not been something that would meet my definitions of "bratty and sarcastic". How you describe yourself is up to you and what you may do in venues I cannot see is... well.. invisible to me. But I don't associate the words "bratty" and "sarcastic" with what I've read of you.

I am well aware that some people imbue different meanings in those words than I do. If you see "bratty" more along the lines of what I'd call "playful" then it's just a semantics gap and has nothing to do with you or me.




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:06:42 PM)

to luci,

This is my interpretation of sarcasm.  I am using the dictionary to be exact in my meaning.
A cutting, often ironic remark intended to wound.
A form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.

I do not equate sarcasm with breaking rules or wanting attention but I am sure some "good and bad" types of brattiness is a want to need for attention. 
I work with kids...to get attention, there was one little boy who would act bratty to get attention. 
Adults do act up to get attention~ the acting out behaviour can be seen as more "mature."

I don't appreciate some of the things spoken of me in the last paragraph but that is your opinion.....  I won't call it a judgment, cause I don't see it as such.  It's an opinion based on what your perceive of me.




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:10:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TheLadyIsADomme

I like sarcasm. I think it shows a quick wit and and engaging mind. Now, brattiness, not so much, unless it is in the context of playfulness. Otherwise it is just immature self-centric behavior.



I am understanding playful brats.
I do agree about the immature self-centric behaviour.
Is that not seeking attention?
I am glad I am not the first one to have written the words.





DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:10:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
Leadership so does that mean you shun me? (i'm just kinda curious)
No. Whatever it is that you have expressed where I can see it (namely, here on collarme), it has not been something that would meet my definitions of "bratty and sarcastic". How you describe yourself is up to you and what you may do in venues I cannot see is... well.. invisible to me. But I don't associate the words "bratty" and "sarcastic" with what I've read of you.

I am well aware that some people imbue different meanings in those words than I do. If you see "bratty" more along the lines of what I'd call "playful" then it's just a semantics gap and has nothing to do with you or me.



THAT is my point. Sarcasism, brattiness, playfulness, ect are based on personalal perceptions and judgements. So what is bratty to you or sarcastic to you or even the OP isn't to others. And I when I speak of me as a brat it is me being playful, like poking at EDQ2's ribs or stealing his boxers when he is trying to get ready to go back to work or things of that naturel. Lol




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:14:17 PM)

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what i want to know is whats the difference between having a spirited personality and opinions of youre own and brattyness. someone mentioned 'doormat' but ive never met a doormat ever - i think the thought that you cant be submissive and express youreself is silly, but there are ways of expressing youreself that are either respectful or rude, which is oversimplifying it i know, but basically thats the bottom line.


what lally said, but now I have more questions creeping in    [:D]




lally2 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:21:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
Leadership so does that mean you shun me? (i'm just kinda curious)
No. Whatever it is that you have expressed where I can see it (namely, here on collarme), it has not been something that would meet my definitions of "bratty and sarcastic". How you describe yourself is up to you and what you may do in venues I cannot see is... well.. invisible to me. But I don't associate the words "bratty" and "sarcastic" with what I've read of you.

I am well aware that some people imbue different meanings in those words than I do. If you see "bratty" more along the lines of what I'd call "playful" then it's just a semantics gap and has nothing to do with you or me.



THAT is my point. Sarcasism, brattiness, playfulness, ect are based on personalal perceptions and judgements. So what is bratty to you or sarcastic to you or even the OP isn't to others. And I when I speak of me as a brat it is me being playful, like poking at EDQ2's ribs or stealing his boxers when he is trying to get ready to go back to work or things of that naturel. Lol


i think the point being made was that since youre not bratty or rude around here the question about being shunned is moot.  i dont believe there was a judgement being made about youre dynamic.

its an interesting point though in that people may be playful bratty with their D and that works for them but here theyll just come through as playful - isnt it the D who decides whats bratty and what isnt and isnt it up to him to control it, stop it or enjoy it.

i was reading a thread yesterday where a couple of D's suggested one sub's attitude was a little tiresome - was all it took.




juliaoceania -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:24:50 PM)



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This is my interpretation of sarcasm. I am using the dictionary to be exact in my meaning.
A cutting, often ironic remark intended to wound.
A form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.





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Definitions of sarcasm on the Web:

witty language used to convey insults or scorn; "he used sarcasm to upset his opponent"; "irony is wasted on the stupid"; "Satire is a sort of glass, wherein beholders do generally discover everybody's face but their own"--Jonathan Swift
wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
Sarcasm is the rhetorical device of using a characterization of something or someone in order to express contempt. It is closely connected with irony, in that the two are often combined in the same statement.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sarcasm
A form of humor that is marked by mocking with irony, sometimes conveyed in speech with vocal over-emphasis. ...
en.wiktionary.org/wiki/sarcasm
sarcastic - expressing or expressive of ridicule that wounds
wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
sarcastically - in a sarcastic manner; "`Ah, now we're getting at the truth,' he interposed sarcastically"
wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
sarcastic - Containing sarcasm; Having the personality trait of expressing sarcasm
en.wiktionary.org/wiki/sarcastic
raw and scornful use of apparent approval to express disapproval. Another of London's favorite devices for social commentary.
london.sonoma.edu/Essays/glossary.html
is one kind of irony; it is praise which is really an insult; sarcasm generally invovles malice, the desire to put someone down, eg, "This is my brilliant son, who failed out of college."
academic.brooklyn.cuny.edu/english/melani/lit_term.html
Sarcasm is a form of irony that attacks a person or belief through harsh and bitter remarks that often mean the opposite of what they say. See, for example, Dave Bidini's sarcastic description of arena names in "Kris King Looks Terrible": ". . . these days, arena names make little sense. ...
www.pearsoned.ca/text/flachmann4/gloss_iframe.html
A verbal tone in which it is obvious from context that the speaker means the opposite of what he or she says. “Mom, I'd love to see Howard the Duck with you” is probably a phrase you would say sarcastically.
www.sparknotes.com/testprep/books/newsat/chapter12section2.rhtml
a form of verbal irony in which apparent praise is actually harshly or bitterly critical.
www.wwnorton.com/litweb/glossary/glossary_s.htm
A sharp, caustic expression or remark; a bitter jibe or taunt; different from irony, which is more subtle.
www.jerichoschools.org/hs/teachers/lfischer/apvocab.htm
n. heavy use of apparent praise for an actual dispraise: it is the common man's usual form of irony; sarcasm is personal and intended to hurt.
station05.qc.ca/csrs/bouscol/anglais/book_report/glossary3.html
Remarks that mean the opposite of what they seem to say and are intended to mock or deride.
elearning.autism.net/en/mod/glossary/view.php
Language that conveys a certain idea by saying just he opposite such as if it's raining outside and you say, “My what a beautiful day.”
www.wcs.k12.va.us/users/honaker/Literary_TermsTeaching1.ppt


You do realize that one can be "sarcastic" to their mate in a way to be playful.... one can also use sarcasm as a way of making fun of others not even present as a way of making their partner laugh... there are many ways to use sarcasm that are not hurtful to a submissive's dominant. You cherry picked your definition




RealSub58 -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:25:06 PM)

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ETA: I found your OP full of judgement and the one twue wayisms.


I enjoyed reading your response.
I am sorry to think that some still believe I am the way you describe.
I stated by saying I 
take things sensitively and I must measure these things out because as I said....nm

Socrates did say: an unexamined life is not worth living.




ranja -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:31:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RealSub5

Socrates did say: an unexamined life is not worth living.



He might have said some wise things too, but i think that is just balls




xxblushesxx -> RE: the beauty of brattiness and sarcasm (6/20/2010 1:31:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

 

I don't appreciate some of the things spoken of me in the last paragraph but that is your opinion.....  I won't call it a judgment, cause I don't see it as such.  It's an opinion based on what your perceive of me.



Well, when you talk about how sensitive you are and then proceed to put an entire group of people down (whom you have not even interacted with) and imply that what they do is not "beautiful" or "submissive", (with the implication being like you are) I hope you can understand that some people will be offended.
I was, but assumed at first, that it was from a new poster, someone who honestly wouldn't know better.  I was very surprised that it came from someone who's been here a while, and has quite a few posts under her belt.
I guess if anyone can take anything away from this conversation (which comes up every once in a while, and usually degenerates into a bash the brat brawl...) it's that we're all human, we're all wired differently, and...well...what works for me, may not work for you. It doesn't necessarily make it wrong, just different.




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