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Ishtarr -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 1:20:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I start all introductory e-mails "On your knees and suck, worthlessbitchslutcuntwhoreslave." Shrugs Works for me So not true! I've, never gotten anything even remotely that interesting from you...

UniqueRaven -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 1:23:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ishtarr sigh I just posted this on a different topic, but seeing that it applies here too...: Well, I've read through the profile and like so many other profiles on here, it just left me shaking my head. So... you want a slave girl... good... nearly every male Dom on this site wants the same, join the club. The thing that leaves me wondering on if you're going to find her though is this: why? Why would a girl want to be your slave? What do you have to offer her? What makes you different than every other male Dom looking for the same thing as you are? Why YOU and not the next guy? You give no information whatsoever on what SHE is getting out of this, other than that she'll have the privilege of being your slave. Hoorah! If that's all a girl needed to beg a collar from a man then ANY man would do... Seriously, it's not because you're looking for a slave that suddenly it becomes ALL about you. Really... it doesn't become ALL about you until AFTER you've got that collar around her neck. Prior to that, you are still courting a... WOMAN. Not a slave, but a woman. You are still trying to convince HER that you are the right guy for her. That you're better than the next guy. That you're different than the next guy. That's YOU are going to make HER feel special. If you can't do that, then sorry dude, she IS going to move on to the next guy who CAN make her feel special... Might wanna think about that a little and make some adjustments to your profile... Just quoting because this deserves to be on the second page too. [;)] Fabulous.

DesFIP -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 1:33:14 PM)
Be somebody that the person of worth who you want, would want to be with. Be honest, upright, honorable. Think before you speak. Keep your word no matter what. And focusing on punishing someone like your profile does, seriously dude, that's a red flag. It's your job to teach her to succeed.

Kana -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 1:36:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ishtarr quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I start all introductory e-mails "On your knees and suck, worthlessbitchslutcuntwhoreslave." Shrugs Works for me So not true! I've, never gotten anything even remotely that interesting from you... Oooh. So now I'm boring, you guttercrawlingtaintlickingcockgobblingwasteoffleshwhoonitsbestdaydoesn'tsdeservetolickmytoiletclean withitsworthlesslecherousdepravedpieceofmeatitthinksofasatongue? Uh-huh. Crosses arms and harrumphs.

Ishtarr -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 2:00:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Oooh. So now I'm boring, you guttercrawlingtaintlickingcockgobblingwasteoffleshwhoonitsbestdaydoesn'tsdeservetolickmytoiletclean withitsworthlesslecherousdepravedpieceofmeatitthinksofasatongue? Uh-huh. Crosses arms and harrumphs. curls toes

xBullx -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 2:15:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ishtarr Prior to that, you are still courting a... WOMAN. Not a slave, but a woman. You are still trying to convince HER that you are the right guy for her. That you're better than the next guy. That you're different than the next guy. That's YOU are going to make HER feel special. As I would expect, Ishtar got it right in her comments. But this isn't her first day. I'm only going to add one very important part that she didn't hammer out. Be true, be truthful and define exactly what you're looking for and do not compromise, it will cost you in the end.... Don't exaggerate or leave things out about yourself, your desires or interests just to make yourself look better; and when evaluating the other person(s) involved no overlooking obvious signs of difference, and be sure all parties to be effected are invested fully in the courting process. If you do a half ass job during the job interview you'll end up with less than you planned for, or worse more than you bargained for ;) Just take the initial comments of the op, he has invested 6 months, hell most have invested that 3 fold. Why waste those "courting" efforts with less than sincere information and intentions. Get it right and be happy as long as you are willing to invest yourself, get it wrong and discover the definition of the term regret. Good luck folks.

MsLadySue -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 2:34:00 PM)
You've been searching for 6 months. Be patient my dear, it took me 8 years to find the one who was right for me.

peppermint -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 5:56:01 PM)
Can I be frank here? You are an older Dom with no real experience except what you pretend to have. By pretend I am referring to your profile that says you are not a rookie and enjoy public play which means you must already be part of the local community. However your post says you are a newbie who has no experience with a slave. Which is it because it can't be both. Surely if you are part of your local community you will have gained some experience by now. Most of the Doms I know are always willing to take a newbie under their wing. I would really love to know if you are a newbie or experienced. I can't help you unless I know the situation,. Next, you are an older Dom who is.....and I don't want to be picky here....but your picture does not make you very attractive. When you look for someone online your picture is very important because you can not wow her with your personality while typing in Yahoo IM. That picture is very important to helping you gain a submissive. So please find a better picture with you wearing nice clothing. You are trying to impress. If you feel you don't need to impress because you are the big bad punishing Master, you will be very disappointed. You seem to give away your newbiness by what you say in your profile. You forget to say how you will gain her trust over time so that she will want to become obedient. You say you love your slaves young, yet how can you know that when you are still looking for your first slave? What I am saying is that between your profile and your post there is a lot of truth being lost. Slaves are not stupid. They will sense those untruths. If they can't trust you, they will not want to be anywhere near you. My advice, clean up your act. Tell the truth. Get a picture that makes you look nice, smile and look happy. The one you have makes you look mean and unfriendly. Do not lie about experience you do not have. And, have fun. If it's not fun it's not worth doing. Being way too serious is a downer.

lally2 -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 7:29:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven quote: ORIGINAL: Ishtarr sigh I just posted this on a different topic, but seeing that it applies here too...: Well, I've read through the profile and like so many other profiles on here, it just left me shaking my head. So... you want a slave girl... good... nearly every male Dom on this site wants the same, join the club. The thing that leaves me wondering on if you're going to find her though is this: why? Why would a girl want to be your slave? What do you have to offer her? What makes you different than every other male Dom looking for the same thing as you are? Why YOU and not the next guy? You give no information whatsoever on what SHE is getting out of this, other than that she'll have the privilege of being your slave. Hoorah! If that's all a girl needed to beg a collar from a man then ANY man would do... Seriously, it's not because you're looking for a slave that suddenly it becomes ALL about you. Really... it doesn't become ALL about you until AFTER you've got that collar around her neck. Prior to that, you are still courting a... WOMAN. Not a slave, but a woman. You are still trying to convince HER that you are the right guy for her. That you're better than the next guy. That you're different than the next guy. That's YOU are going to make HER feel special. If you can't do that, then sorry dude, she IS going to move on to the next guy who CAN make her feel special... Might wanna think about that a little and make some adjustments to your profile... quoted all of you, cos, yep - great post. but the bit in blue - it isnt ALL about them even then IMO .

Jeffff -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 7:30:30 PM)
It's all about ME. I hope this clears everything up

BigDaddy723 -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 8:19:15 PM)
I would first off just like to say, Thanks all of you who posted in my intorduction with advice. The OP has proven alot of you right, not that I doubted in the first place. To the OP, they know what they are talking about, take what they say to heart, it will help you. P.S. I know this is probably the wrong place, but I saw the oppertunity, can I have some pointers to improve my profile please?

sunshinemiss -> RE: finding my first slave (6/25/2010 9:07:09 PM)
ahhhh... Winny Dee beat me to it! eta: To the OP: You don't ask for anything in your post. You just whine. Whining is not attractive. Neither is a man who wears a t-shirt, has no smile, and crosses his arm looking mean. Online all we see is your photo and your words. Neither of those is particularly attractive. Your profile and all its mistakes made me cringe. Also, your words show that you are all demanding and not giving. Why in the world would anyone want to be around you let alone serve* you? [:'(] There is nothing there that would pique my interest in the least. Be a man... a man who can laugh at himself, enjoy his life, and who wants someone to share it. Live with passion. Then you may actually attract someone. Good luck, sunshine

myotherself -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 1:13:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff It's all about ME. I hope this clears everything up It's twue, oh High Lawdy-Lawd Flooofykins!! [:D] grovels at his mandal-clad feet

heartcream -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 1:29:37 AM)
OP welcome to CM! Since you asked and only since you asked... Your profile picture is basically not working. The rest of what was said is worth reading and digesting but dude I didnt get past your picture. You look angry, standing with your arms folded in the kitchen or something with these horrific glaring lights in your glasses making you look no so good mate. Hope you find what you desire and it desires you back!

laurell3 -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 3:46:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I start all introductory e-mails "On your knees and suck, worthlessbitchslutcuntwhoreslave." Shrugs Works for me Oh....that's what that is, I thought you were just demanding catnip.

robertolapiedra -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 5:46:38 AM)
Hello gonnauseu. If you mean MS type experienced in LTR (real time, full time in slave mode) you probably will not find anyone (odds). If you want a kinky submissive? These women are naturally attracted to dominant men and the odds are very good. After ? With time the relationship evolves and may become a MS type 24/7, then again it may not get to ''uber'' level, it may just be what you and your future submissive ''really'' want. From experience, even former female ''uber'' slaves revert to primary submissive mode when seeking a new relationship before they would trust you enough to accept your collar. Just remember the difference between fantasy driven kink and ''walking the walk'' in a full time relationship. Finally, I believe you cannot ''find'' a slave, they find you. RL.

Kana -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 7:52:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I start all introductory e-mails "On your knees and suck, worthlessbitchslutcuntwhoreslave." Shrugs Works for me Oh....that's what that is, I thought you were just demanding catnip. There's a difference?

LaserKitty -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 7:56:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I start all introductory e-mails "On your knees and suck, worthlessbitchslutcuntwhoreslave." Shrugs Works for me um, may I have one of those?? + hey, gotta get my fun SOMEWHERE...

Zevar -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 3:52:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gonnauseu im kinda new to all this. i am looking for my first slave. anyone got any pointers? im not having much luck. i have been looking for about 6 months. Greetings gonnauseu: To begin I find it rather peculiar that you claim to identify as a master. But then that statement is solely derived from my perceptions that are based on my definition of mastery. However by the implication of your words it appears that you are a man who has some incorrect and unexplored concepts of M/s dynamics. I will say in all honesty that I disagree with the notion of asking others how to lay claim to a female due to any reason and in particular that your hurriedness of ( 6 months) has not been mastered within your own self, according to your words that is. It appears that you have missed the entire essence of mastery. I cannot imagine posting on any board to total strangers and asking them how I need to live my life and forget asking how I am to find with a female to master or otherwise. I ask you, Where is your self respect? In all seriousness I must say that you might want to consider that mastery begins with yourself and not some misinformed ideology of lording over a female so you can feel some form of pseudo control over another whom you perceive as weak thus giving you the illusionary sense of some form of ownership. Instead perhaps you might begin your search with finding out within yourself what it means to master yourself with the goal of attaining a refined sense of self confidence. Thus I can venture to say that you will not be seeking the advise of strangers when it comes to whom you desire to master if you are assured of your own self confidence. Finally if you endeavor to re-adjust your approach then you might find females attracted to you for who you are as a man who is strong, solid and stable. A man who knows something about mastery of himself. One is capable of living life in a solitary manner and does not require a female prior to being assured of his own completion within himself and knows that at the right time the dance of dominance and submission will manifest in the manner in which it is naturally intended to do so with the right female and at the right time. Anything less would only serve to teach a man the lesson of discontentment, to say the least.

peppermint -> RE: finding my first slave (6/26/2010 10:51:24 PM)
Same picture and same profile with the same misspelled words and grammar problems. Guess this one is too macho to take the advice he asked for in his one and only post. Maybe I'm strange but I think if people go to trouble to help someone out, a thank you is not asking for too much.

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