Daddysredhead
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Joined: 11/6/2005 From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia Status: offline
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The very best piece of advice I have is GO SLOW, BE PATIENT, EDUCATE YOURSELF, READ, READ, and then READ some more about the lifestyle and the dynamics within it. Be equipped with knowledge and have a support system in place to help you along the way. If you can, get a mentor who you can run things by and see if they seem ok or if there are any red flags that you should be wary of. I met my Master (we work in the same field in the same town) and during our first conversation, I "came out" that I felt no shame in wanting to have a more traditional relationship, where the man was the dominant (yet loving and protective) figure, and where I could be the submissive (and supportive) one, who also had a great deal of brains and love to add to the mix. I had no idea that Master was into BDSM and that I had used two of the "buzzwords" (dominant and submissive) in our chatting, LOL. I was just a vanilla girl who was tired of trying to fit my "square peg" ideas (as I thought them to be) into a round hole. Luckily, I chanced upon someone who shared my "square peg" ideas as well as my secret kink tendencies that were never really tapped into before I met Him. Embrace what you have found to complete who you are. But I cannot emphasize it enough, go slowly into these (for you, right now) unchartered waters. There are a lot of really good and amazing people out there who will help you along the way. Good luck, ask questions, read, ask more questions, and be safe and happy... Daddysredhead
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