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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:31:13 AM

MissAsylum

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hey believe what you want, i respect your opinion anyway. but like i said, nothing mentioned in my OP has anything to directly do with me. i was purely concerned to hear about it.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:35:48 AM

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i've had a crazy life, i make no apologies for it. am i crazy? my psychologist(and yes she is certified lol) says that i have an anxitey disorder(forgive i cant spell to save my life)and a touch paranoid about being homeless and jobless and thats it.

It shows..

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:39:41 AM

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I do think crazy people can tend to gravitate towards ideas, activities and groups of people that may support, enable or foster their nuttiness, such as cults, conspiracy theorists, etc. Anything that appears to fit within the umbrella of someone's delusions may suck in the mentally ill. If they think that BDSM is all about being evil, and causing true harm, and that fits in with their agenda- then they may gravitate towards it just as a sane person who is just mean, might.

But anyone would also be crazy to put themselves in a position where a bad or crazy person had unfettered access to harm them. Obviously your friend was either being rather convincingly mindfucked, or he allowed a crazy -or just bad- person to get to close to him. He needs to turn his jerk detector dial to the "on" position, or he'll keep placing himself in harm's way.

I think you need better friends. Exposing yourself to people with such bad judgement is likely to end badly for you, over time.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:42:40 AM

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I think you're describing very ordinary kinky activities about which we should all strive to keep open minds, Miss A.

What neighborhood do you live in that death and amputation are ordinary kink peon?

A completely lunatic neighbourhood that I just decided to make up for the purposes of that post.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:48:49 AM

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It's one of those hoods you check to see if your doors are locked as you drive through.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:49:12 AM

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Kinky people...tend to walk close to the edges in life. It is no surprise to me that occasionally we will encounter people who don't just want to walk the edge, they actually want to jump.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:51:53 AM

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while i respect your post, i have to disagree. the way my anxiety disorder affects me is that i'm a workaholic. i work so much because i am afraid to the point of being paranoid because i think i could become homeless. i'm sure if one were to do a 6 degrees of seperation, they could find a connection between my disorder and me being concerned about the matters of human life in some kind of way. but i don't see how it relates directly. but if you have an idea, please share it.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:54:52 AM

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i only know of one recent vet and he SEEMS to be well adjusted and is employed, doing his art work,

Is it Hitler?

Dude please tell me it's Hitler.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 7:56:11 AM

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I would have to agree with Jeff. Have you ever stopped and taken a look at yourself to see why you even know all of these crazy people?

Once I had a lot of drama and crazy things in my life. I took a long hard look at things and decided that some of the places and people I associated with needed to change. Doing that the drama, the crazy stories, any insanity that was going on just disappeared out of my life.

When we moved back to Florida I was close enough to visit some of those people, There are a couple of them I would really like to know how thay are and if they are OK or not. I won't go and look them up. I am not willing to get involved or have them trying to drag me back into those things.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:00:36 AM

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well as somebody who has been a victim of her own bad judgement( nothing serious happened, but there was room for it), i understand where you're coming from. i had told him about a situation where my lack of judgement had put me in a potentially dangerous situation. i haven't been in one since and have gone back to my ways of being overly cautious when it comes to people and really think things out all the way through. i had figured that he would have taken heed to what i had told him, but apparently not. i've recommended him to somebody who works with returning vets and i think it would do wonders for him to get out his stressful state or it may continue to grow.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:00:46 AM

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I think your screen name might explain the impression people are getting....

Even though you can seek political "asylum", it still maybe attracting the crazies and giving people the impression you are into running an asylum or belong in one

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:06:23 AM

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nah. he's African- American, has a good income, and hates politics.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:08:15 AM

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Kinky people...tend to walk close to the edges in life. It is no surprise to me that occasionally we will encounter people who don't just want to walk the edge, they actually want to jump.

i wouldnt really consider this kinky though - more disturbed to be honest. there are disturbed people all over the place who just maybe migrate 'here' to make themselves feel a bit normal.

is BDSM a gateway for fruit loops to explore their strange fantasies - im sure it is. but im not going to worry about them. youre never going to fix them and you cant protect them from themselves -

the other week a young woman was murdered by a man she met on the internet after she tried ending it with him. he killed her and her boyfriend. - insanity exists -

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:10:16 AM

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you calling me crazy Jeffffffffffffffffff? i dont like being called crazy!

Jeffff, Don't make her mad, you wouldn't like her when she's mad!

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:10:58 AM

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while i appreciate your advice, if i had a bad expirence, i don't associate with them again. my op was about something that a client of mine had expirenced. in the almost 3 years that i've known him, never once did he show signs of any potential crazy lurking around inside. the situation i explained has nothing directly to do with me, it only concerned me.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:15:00 AM

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nah. he's African- American, has a good income, and hates politics.

Cool. The chances are slim that he'll turn into a genocidal maniac.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:15:48 AM

MissAsylum

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oh Lord....i hope that isnt it. Truth be told, Asylum came from when i was chasing this dream of being a SuicideGirl. the name i wanted had been taken and in a rue to be cleaver, i picked Asylum. it just stuck. granted, i'm disgusted with myself for ever wanting to be involved with SG(no offense to those who are), but since i never followed through with it, i dont feel bad about having the name.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:18:46 AM

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to the "tap tap tap" people.
And as for the OP. Look, life attracts weird. We either choose to indulge it, or we walk away. I gotta say though, your screen name might attracting more than the average share of nuts. When I see crazy I shake my head and think, amazing.., someone will fuck that... but it won't be me. Most people don't notice the weird because they have learned to use filters that blind them to the nutcases. I look around with the eye of a researcher everywhere I go and I see some people that make wonder how they made it this far... and then I do my job and walk away without a second thought about them.

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:21:25 AM

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there has been a recent string of events that has me very concerned. i had breakfast this morning with a regular client of mine who has also become a friend, and he was shaken badly by his first time expiernce with a male dominant. long story short, the dom tried to force my client into sawing off one of his legs(the right one specificly) because he was into people with missing limbs. i know that is a fetish, but i thought i applied to those ALREADY missing a limb, but this dom wanted the honour of removing my client's leg himself. also, i recieved a message from somebody who said that he has an extreme kink. he said that he is going through some medical problems and would pay somebody to sexually abuse him and torture him before they kill him. these this really concerns me since these things are playing with human life, something that i believe should never be messed with. do you think BDSM is being used as a cover-up for being mentally ill?

Very narrowly, I can see what you are asking but the bigger part of my brain is going "Wha????"

In the first case you mention, you have a submissive who ran into a dominant who...possibly...was into extreme mind games and the fear that they can create. Given the reaction of your submissive friend, the dominant was successful.
ORRRR, it is possible that the dominant is a kook. But the fact that he uses BDSM as a "cover" for his crazy behaviors does not make BDSM the new codeword for crazy, anymore than the fact that Ted Bundy chose to use the cover of being a clean-cut student and then, political worker make college student or political worker the codewords for crazy.

It's been noted on here before that you are going to find nutcases in any walk of life. While some of the things we do can seem crazy to the outside world, that is their perception. Hell, some of the things I've seen done or have heard about in what we do seem crazy to me but at least I have the background and the sense to stop and think that all may not be as it seems in a world in which "smoke and mirrors" are used to great effect to enhance various situations. Some do not because they do not have the ability to think things through and/or they lack any firsthand knowledge and, because they ARE a nutcase, they THINK that there is someone out there who "gets into" what they do/want.

I've been at it for 12 years now and have yet to meet any of them though...

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RE: Is "kinky" becoming the new codeword for ... - 7/8/2010 8:32:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

nah. he's African- American, has a good income, and hates politics.

Cool. The chances are slim that he'll turn into a genocidal maniac.

Idi Amin..........

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