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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
Michael.....If you approached me with your attitude, i would tell you in no uncertain terms, you are a mess.

You are ignoring your strengths to focus on your weaknesses. It may work for you, but while your focus is on what you profess to need help changing, your strong points are becoming stagnant.

Perhaps i might suggest you focus on and build on your positive points with limited focus on the negatives. In doing so, you may find that your negatives have tagged along and gained improvement as you bettered yourself through a positive attitude.

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ORIGINAL: boymichaelobeys
I have some good points. But focusing on what I am good at, do well and such have not gotten me to improve on the things I know I need to improve upon to become the boy I want to be.

I think my initial introduction may have given the wrong impression, but I am working on improving myself so that I am worthy to offer myself to a Master.

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ORIGINAL: dreamofthemoon

Psst, Mr Lance, er, Sir...

It's Pollyanna-ish.

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ORIGINAL: dreamofthemoon

You're welcome, Mr La-, er, Mr Hughes, Sir.

i hope it was helpful, though my only attitude is sweet and innocent... MOSTLY.
*looks around for holly and the rest of them*

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ORIGINAL: dreamofthemoon

You're welcome, Mr La-, er, Mr Hughes, Sir.

i hope it was helpful, though my only attitude is sweet and innocent... MOSTLY.
*looks around for holly and the rest of them*

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this old man needs be in bed

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and asleep, you perverts.

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: dreamofthemoon

You're welcome, Mr La-, er, Mr Hughes, Sir.

i hope it was helpful, though my only attitude is sweet and innocent... MOSTLY.
*looks around for holly and the rest of them*

*snorts loudly*

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

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ORIGINAL: dreamofthemoon

You're welcome, Mr La-, er, Mr Hughes, Sir.

i hope it was helpful, though my only attitude is sweet and innocent... MOSTLY.
*looks around for holly and the rest of them*

I meant "GOOD attitude, attitude, attitude".  As in "she has a good attitude."  Yes, when "attitude" is used without an adjective, it usually implies a "bad" attitude.  Ex: "She has such an attitude."  Ex: "All I got from her at work today was attitude, attitude, attitude."

I'm looking for a man with a "Yes, Sir" attitude <see profile>, so sometimes I just forget to qualify the word.

Also, attitude can be fun - except those SAMs and brats and the like - they just wear me out.  I'll might go 'round once or twice and then punish them by simply withdrawing.

Summary?  dreamofthemoon, I had fun.  I'm not punishing you, but this old man needs be in bed (and asleep, you perverts. LOL! Local time pushing 11 PM) 

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ORIGINAL: boymichaelobeys

My life lacks focus. I am fat, I am broke, I am working a job that is going nowhere. I am not getting any younger and I won't make change on my own.

I--with the help of Masters and interested parties--am going to set up rules to live by and I am going to report honestly and fully and I am going to have consequences if I fail.

I need to get in shape.

I need discipline. I need order, I need to remake my life into something of value to myself and someone else.

Please check out the blog at betterboyblog.blogspot.com

Thank you.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
As long as ya'll have some connection, that would be wonderful. He sounds like a nice guy and I know you are. He would be lucky to have someone like you.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

It doesn't solve all your problems, but if you're the flighty creative type (like me) and have a master who is extremely structured (like HM) it does help to make the flighty one more organized. At least it did for me.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Michael, you seem to be in a place that makes me wonder a few things. You say you aren't ready to serve a master but you need one to basically serve you, to make you a better person you for whatever reason cannot do yourself. What would the purpose be for that dominant willing to help you? There is always the feel good about helping another person be all that they can be, but it is a lot of work. I don't think I said that well enough! It is a whole hell of a lot of work, energy and time to put into someone who has nothing to offer back even if one were to be foolish enough to believe they did it in hopes of one day creating a half decent submissive. Then there is always that part where you spend all that time and effort of self, giving to another who will go find another when you are done. lol

So what you are looking for is someone to donate a lot of time, energy and themselves to help you with nothing in return or expected. Most wish for more than a feel good in helping someone, even former Polly Anna types like me. I did help people... what I got was people not invested enough in themselves to stand by what they committed to in change, lies, games and them walking away when they really were required to do something and stay the course they couldn't stay before me. I would have done it for the reward of helping someone alone, but to put myself out there and get nothing but trouble for my time and a waste of my time... no thank you.

I would recommend starting with one area of your life that you wish to change and start working a bit of a program you put together with the goal of being ready for a relationship of whatever kind you seek and stop seeking the bonus (attention) before you can prove to yourself and others... you're worth the effort. Then maybe someone might see walking the rest of it with you.