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Drifa -> RE: Spankings and beatings (7/11/2010 7:26:15 AM)
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You know, I consent to a lot of things. But even though I had a lot of fun doing them, sometimes I am marked up in ways that are on the "no no list". Generally, I don't ever want a blood blister, broken skin, marks that are visible in work clothes, or bruising on the sitting parts such that it is difficult or impossible to do my RL day job.
I trust my Lady to never get carried away and mark me up due to being out of control. If she thinks she's getting past where she can adequately control how much or where she's marking, we take a break or she shifts to something else, or she takes that opportunity to shift to playing with ice or something.
However, sometimes things slip. I may have struggled in such a way as to move out of position and got an unintended target in the way of a blow. She may have gotten the angle just a wee tad wrong and wraparound or the tip of the toy may have dug deeper than intended. Heck, even vanilla things happen - we accidentally have blacked one another's eyes with a misplaced elbow once each over the course of 15 years just rolling over in bed while doing nuthin' but sleeping. We also had a "cat jumped into the middle of her hiney with all claws out" oopsie in which my nipple was between her teeth at the time (ouchie!) that took a couple of stitches.
The moral of the story:
(1) If you can't trust your dominant to be in control while performing play that may leave bruises or marks, you have a problem. You need to communicate about it and together develop strategies that will avoid the issue.
(2) Sometimes oopsies happen. Ice the injury, take vitamin C and K supplements, apply vitamin E and aloe to the marks.
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