I'm a switch and I thought I might provide my point of view.
This whole line of discussion is a bit overblown, to begin with.
The reason I am a switch is that I receive gratification from submitting sometimes, and also from dominating sometimes.
Just like, some days I feel like watching a comedy movie, and other days I detest the idea of watching a comedy, and some comedies I enjoy, and others I dislike. There is no magical or profound psychological mystery at play here. It's just preference and the human ability to have an interest that sways from time to time.
Furthermore, not every scenario calls for domination, and not every scenario calls for submission. Attempting to dominate or submit at all times is inefective.
I used to take martial arts and I had to assume a subserviant posture at the Dojo because it was what would ultimately provide me with the most useful end result.
When helping a customer or providing a service for which you have a thurough and authorative knowledge of the subject, dominance is the right tool for the job.
Many of my sexual fantasies involve my role as dominant and submissive switching back and forth NUMEROUS times during a single fantasy, from situations where I am COMPLETELY at the mercy of my partner to being in COMPLETE control, that is how rapid and hard-wired my desire to be in both positions is.
One must use the right tool for the job. I don't use a hammer to brush my teeth, and I don't use submission when the occasion calls for domination.
It's been my discovery during my BDSM journey that everyone has the capacity and desire to be lead. Being lead by someone capable offers a sense of safety and security, and everyone has a basic need for safety and security.
For some people, the need to be in control is greater than the need to receive safety and security from others, in these cases you have dominant personalities.
For other people, their need for safety and security is greater than their need for control, or they lack enough control to provide a sense of safety and security for themselves (which is okay!), in which case you've got a submissive personality.
And finally, there are people like me, who want to have their cake and eat it too. I want control over my life, I want to be able to provide safety and security as a dominant, and I want to be able to enjoy the warmth of safety and security provided by others.
< Message edited by dbloomer -- 7/11/2010 11:01:54 PM >