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Strap-on Questions - 4/16/2006 3:28:30 AM   
Taik


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Status: offline 		        Senpai is trying to train me to take her strap-on with ease so that she can use it when she feels like.  We are trying to take things slow and safe, and took some time to get the Anal Health & Pleasure: A Guide, as well as The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men.  Both were a great help, however we have run in to a few things that aren't mentioned and we are not sure what to do about them.   The goal she would like to reach is being able to penetrate me at will and to be able to do so more then once a day, and in more submissive positions then me on top. 

     At the moment she can penetrate me for a while, but if she pulls out when she goes to put it back in (even with lots and lots of lube) it burns.  I also cant take much pumping, even if I am on top; it feels fine to wiggle but if I tried to slide it in and out it hurts, even though it dosn't hurt at all during the first penetraion.  It's not a bad hurt its just a bit more uncomfortable buring.  We aren't sure if this is the lube or my muscles.  We have tried multiple lubs specifically for Anal as well as typical water based like astroglide, and still the same results.  We have started very small and I'm not sure if that is an issue, we have no trouble sliding a plug in thats larger or even and Egg toy.  We have also tried with and without condoms in case it was the latex.  We are only using water based lube due to the fact that her strap-on is silicon.

     So our questions are:  Has anyone else experinced this sensation of burning, or know what might be causeing it?   Is it healthy to continue slowly or should we look at different things?  Would streaching with plugs for 20 mins a day for a few weeks then using a large plug make it easier for the smaller strap-on?   Are there any exercises or practices that might help us that anyone knows of?

Well thanks in advance for any assitance you can provide.
Taik

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 4/16/2006 1:18:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Is your toy rubber or jelly? Rubber and jellie toys are on the shit list for toys to have because they are always constantly off gassing. The plastisizor used in them also leaches out and is toxic.

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 4/16/2006 3:33:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		We are only using silicon, both for the reason you mentioned but also because they are easy to clean and sterilize (boiling).

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 4/16/2006 4:20:41 PM   
NickInSLC


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Status: offline 		Perhaps your cleaning routine is to blame?  If you're rinsing out with tap water, you're introducing quite a bit of clorine into your rectum. 

There are several filters on the market that can be added to a tap and then remove clorine as well as many heavy metals from your water.  Maybe try bottled water once to see if that makes any difference.

Good luck.

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/7/2006 11:46:19 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		I wonder if you just aren't able to relax enough?  Burning sounds like tearing; could things be too tight?

I enjoyed the video "Bend Over Boyfriend" (by Fatale Productions with Carol Queen) (which could be for either sex)...  quite educational!  Honest!!!      

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/7/2006 6:04:58 PM   
sissysarah53


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Status: offline 		i find that anything with silicon in the lube makes me burn.....the cheap equate ky jelly you get from walmart works best i think.......id, wet, etc etc seems to make me burn and also some of the toys i have make me burn.....i do have a clear long dong that i simply cannot take and i also have an inflatable rubber plug that i cannot take with out a condom on it because it burns.....i would suggest trying walmart cheap lube first and if it still burns try switching toys.....when you get it to stop burning you will like it alot....good luck to ya and many fucking to come!

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/7/2006 6:31:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is a product on the market as well called Analeeze or analease that I've found to be quite helpful during strap on training. Are you using condoms as well? If so you may wish to swich from latex to something else all together. Funny as it may seem I've found that using the dishwasher for cleaning is the best way to sterilize yet (no dishes at the same time however). 

As far as stretching and prep go I love the inflatables as well as inreasingly sized plugs worn for short periods at first and working up in diameter. It is a slow process but one worth every moment in the end. Best of luck!



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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/7/2006 6:41:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think you're using enough lube.  Try getting some good old fashioned vaseline and putting it in a plastic syringe...apply inside very liberally.  A lot of those new lubes don't really work well for anal sex.

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/8/2006 9:00:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I found in my own personal dildo's its the silicone ones especially the colored jelly looking ones, make me burn like my puss is on FIRE, after 3 or 4 minutes that's it can't take it anymore. DSpoke with the local adult toy stores and the girls in there all say the same thing the colored jellies burn them inside too. One says it's the dye in them, but could be the silicone too.  lol I switched to the UR3 materials OMFG I LOVE those, feel real. and  ahem, last time I used a  dildo on a male sub, the walmart lube (which I like & use) ate the condom off the dildo. Sooooooo oopsie

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/8/2006 9:08:41 PM   
MistressLove999


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Status: offline 		Oh and also, How long have you been  trying the anal sex? If just a short time you may also need to use a smaller dildo, until your body becomes adjusted to it then slowly work up one  size at a time. And, buy YOUR own dildo's.....to be used ONLY on YOU!! I never share my personal toys NEVER!!!  And I know they don't reccomend it but I always clean mine in strong bleach water then wash them in antibacteral soap,,, if I boiled them in  pot I would be throwing away a good pot....yuck   

and no before ya jump down my throat......no I do not nor do I get any infections or have any female problems at all, and I have  some dildo's  that are over 20years old and still  in great shape.

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RE: Strap-on Questions - 5/9/2006 2:14:55 AM   
Taik


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Status: offline 		Thank's for all the great advice.   We are just starting out, and using the smallest one we could find.  We use non-lubricated condoms when using them.   To many of the lubed condoms have nox-9(can't remember spelling) which we read was not recommended for anal play.  And since I get the same trouble without condoms we continue to use them because it makes the toys easier to clean.

Alas the dish washer idea is a lovely one, but living in Japan... I am the dish washer ^_^

The dye/silicon causeing the burning sounds reasonable but i still feel it when we use condoms, so as someone suggested maybe we can find non-latex condoms to try, as well as looking for more lubes.

Currently we have tried lubes from:  Babeland/Maximus/For Play(from JT's)/Astroglide/and KY.  We haven't tried the syrengs before so that's an option too.

Thanks everyone for the great advice and help, always willing to hear more.


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