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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 7:18:59 AM   
KnightofMists


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Oh sure, call me nutless..... after all I've contributed to the forums here, this is the thanks I get *grins*
 
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Tosses Level a bag of rusted nuts of various sizes.... Grab some for your self  *G* 

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:05:50 AM   
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Again though, I know nothing, not being experienced <evil grin>

C


Whuuuu? You mean all that good advice?...... apparently was able to sift through the half-thoughts to understand what I was trying to say? ............  and you're not even a .... a .... a REAL DOM? <GASP>

Seriously though, I see what you're saying about not wanting to be an avenue for a potentially horrendous outcome. I've never thought in those terms (ahhh, did I just learn something???lol ).
I guess that's where 'insert communication here' would go?
However, for me, I don't think that going through these types of experiences (let's leave off the word scene) is abusive at all.... its actually quite the opposite- the last one involving 112- 16/18 gauge piercing needles helped me to refocus & left me feeling VERY grounded. This was something I requested from my piercer (who is a Shaman) and I understand that not everyone is going to have that level of skill nor do I expect them to.
I guess I simply havent found things (yet) that have that level of intensity. For now, I'm on my own but who knows that one day I wont find something with the right 'someone' that will very well supercede all of the experiences I have now. After all, I can't fathom what I could possibly be capable of with the right person. My mind may change 'eh?
Perhaps that's why its very appropriate to say we're ever evolving- I think life circumstances/experiences have a way of  changing what we believe ourselves to be sometimes.

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:12:43 AM   
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I would assume that along with all the other brave nutless warriors that survived that grand battle that you recieve two pair of large brass balls that were hand rubbed to perfect orbs by submissives of my household?


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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:14:03 AM   
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I would assume that along with all the other brave nutless warriors that survived that grand battle that you recieve two pair of large brass balls that were hand rubbed to perfect orbs by submissives of my household?



lol ... now I have AC/DC's song 'Big Balls' in my head ...

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 4:03:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		How I would handle it depends on exactly what it is.

If it is past my comfort zone but not a hard limit then at some point it is likely that I would indulge her. I don't just enjoy pushing her soft limits from time to time but also my own, after all if it isn't a hard limit I might find that the effort is worth it, if it isn't then I won't do it a second time.

If it is something I simply won't do but don't have a problem with her doing then it can also be accomidated. I'm poly and finding someone I feel confident to a) do whatever it is safely and b) respect my collar and play within limits *I* set isn't a problem to me. I'm phobic about needles so that would be something that would fall in this catagory

If however it was something I considered harmful in a negative way and I objected to me or my property being involved in then it would be a straight choise for her. accept the no or find another collar because it ain't happening whilst you wear mine!

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 5:44:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Level,

I would assume that along with all the other brave nutless warriors that survived that grand battle that you recieve two pair of large brass balls that were hand rubbed to perfect orbs by submissives of my household?



lol ... now I have AC/DC's song 'Big Balls' in my head ...


...................... sometimes..............you find a post so tempting........... *laughs and refrains*........

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 5:46:57 PM   
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I would assume that along with all the other brave nutless warriors that survived that grand battle that you recieve two pair of large brass balls that were hand rubbed to perfect orbs by submissives of my household?



LOL at "nutless warriors"..... the mental image...... but yes, CD. Indeed, I remember one lovely lass that brought new meaning to the term "spit shine".........
 
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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 5:49:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Level

Oh sure, call me nutless..... after all I've contributed to the forums here, this is the thanks I get *grins*
 
Level


Tosses Level a bag of rusted nuts of various sizes.... Grab some for your self  *G* 


LOL......thanks Knight..... *heads to the submissive forum to show some single ladies my "nutsack"*
 
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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 6:18:38 PM   
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LOL......thanks Knight..... *heads to the submissive forum to show some single ladies my "nutsack"*
 
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Make sure that MisTress doesn't get a gander at it... I hear she has been practicing with a hammer lately  *eg*

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 6:21:47 PM   
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Make sure that MisTress doesn't get a gander at it... I hear she has been practicing with a hammer lately  *eg*


yes... Instead of a Hammer she might use a Wrench instead and bolt your nuts to a board!  I hear she is always looking for a new challenge *G*

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 6:43:56 PM   
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quote:

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Again though, I know nothing, not being experienced

C



Whuuuu? You mean all that good advice?...... apparently was able to sift through the half-thoughts to understand what I was trying to say? ............ and you're not even a .... a .... a REAL DOM?

Seriously though, I see what you're saying about not wanting to be an avenue for a potentially horrendous outcome. I've never thought in those terms (ahhh, did I just learn something???lol ).
I guess that's where 'insert communication here' would go?
However, for me, I don't think that going through these types of experiences (let's leave off the word scene) is abusive at all.... its actually quite the opposite- the last one involving 112- 16/18 gauge piercing needles helped me to refocus & left me feeling VERY grounded. This was something I requested from my piercer (who is a Shaman) and I understand that not everyone is going to have that level of skill nor do I expect them to.
I guess I simply havent found things (yet) that have that level of intensity. For now, I'm on my own but who knows that one day I wont find something with the right 'someone' that will very well supercede all of the experiences I have now. After all, I can't fathom what I could possibly be capable of with the right person. My mind may change 'eh?
Perhaps that's why its very appropriate to say we're ever evolving- I think life circumstances/experiences have a way of changing what we believe ourselves to be sometimes.

Respectfully,
enthralled



Actually, I don't think that experiencing 'edge-play' needs to be abusive but I do recognize that for some it is very close to abusive situations some have come from...an ever-shifting line...
As for your experiences with a shaman, though I don't know his experience, I do know some needle play would enter into releasing chakra etc...(ok, put in your own terms here) releasing energy and might hover around the spiritual...
One thing I do believe though, as far as intensity...that with the proper (for lack of better term) individual, very small, subtle experiences can hold just as much intensity as the edge play can...different types of intense perhaps, but very shaking.
Namaste,
C


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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 7:26:56 PM   
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kyraofMists wrote:

Level,

Make sure that MisTress doesn't get a gander at it... I hear she has been practicing with a hammer lately  *eg*


quote:

KnightofMists wrote:

yes... Instead of a Hammer she might use a Wrench instead and bolt your nuts to a board!  I hear she is always looking for a new challenge *G*



So, what ya'll are saying is that the "Nutcracker Suite" begins playing when Tress enters a room?.... *laughs*....
 
*looks down and reassures Sam and Dave that all is well..... then puts on iron pants*....



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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 7:29:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ooooooooo .... and you should see the glimmer in her eye too! Kinda sexy and spooky at the same time! <G>


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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:07:46 PM   
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Ooooooooo .... and you should see the glimmer in her eye too! Kinda sexy and spooky at the same time! <G>


enthralled


She does have beautiful eyes......... but the iron pants stay on lol.
 
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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:11:04 PM   
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editted to add...

gives  Level two Big Brass Balls to replace his bag of Rusty Nuts.

< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 4/18/2006 8:34:49 PM >

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:15:42 PM   
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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:38:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		So we've finally come to a conclusion here, that a dom's limits have something to do with not having their nuts nailed to a board? Did I get that right?

Gee, and here I thought dom's were so tough!!

Cin

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/18/2006 8:44:19 PM   
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So we've finally come to a conclusion here, that a dom's limits have something to do with not having their nuts nailed to a board? Did I get that right?

Gee, and here I thought dom's were so tough!!

Cin


yes ... But wearing IRON Chasity pants is acceptable  *G*

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RE: A Dominant's limits - 4/19/2006 5:51:04 AM   
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