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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/18/2010 10:43:20 PM   
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It may be more women that want to call their man, Daddy, than men who want to call a woman Mommy, but if you check out age play sites and age play personals and stuff, and yes, Fetlife too, you'll see a few men looking for mommies.

You are correct that more women may want to use that term. It is also less of a stigma for women to do so.  After all, one of my favorite Toby Keith songs is "Who's Your Daddy?" So on some level society seems to be pretty open to women using that term with their man.  I checked fetlife, there are over 2900 listed kinksters who are into or curious about the mommy/boy dynamic.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 3:06:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I call my Man Daddy on occasion. And it has nothing to do with child play. It's just a term we're both comfortable with. I also call him Sir and Mister Hunny Man. As a full grown adult i fully know the difference between my dad and my Daddy. None of it is incestuous, nor do I care it to be. It's simply a word we're both willing to allow me to use and I'm his baby girl. Again, no age play involved.

A word is just that, a word. You can make of it what you want. Just as some women do not like being called a cunt, whore or slut, it can be hawt in the bedroom. Intended as an insult implies a whole other connotation. Not something I would allow, not something Sir would ever EVER consider using as he knows how hard it would be on me. Everyone has different preferences and I like to think it's a "whatever floats your boat". I try my very best never to be judgemental or mean. But that doesn't mean I don't have a snarcastic streak that will show through with assorted dingleberries, various dumbasses and myriad asstards. Then all bets are off.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 3:19:20 AM   
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It is nothing new. In Paper Moon, Trixie called Moses "daddy" and Judge Hardy refered to his wife at "mother". I have never thought about it in an incestuous way and I seriously doubt they did either.



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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 3:29:07 AM   
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It may be more women that want to call their man, Daddy, than men who want to call a woman Mommy, but if you check out age play sites and age play personals and stuff, and yes, Fetlife too, you'll see a few men looking for mommies.

You are correct that more women may want to use that term. It is also less of a stigma for women to do so.  After all, one of my favorite Toby Keith songs is "Who's Your Daddy?" So on some level society seems to be pretty open to women using that term with their man.  I checked fetlife, there are over 2900 listed kinksters who are into or curious about the mommy/boy dynamic.


My ex still has her phone set to play that when I call. I could never wrap my head around calling her "mommy" but "daddy" worked out ok for us.

And to answer the OP's question, hell yes we had sex. My daddy had double "D"s, you don't think I was going to let them go to waste, did ya


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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 7:04:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't understand what the big deal is about a couple calling each other "Mama" and "Daddy".  All my relationships, my partners would call me "Mama" from time to time, and we didn't have that sort of dynamic at all!  But, my ex, well, I was the mother of his child, I guess with the others, I was just a mother of a child or the matriarch of the family, I guess the same went for the patriarch.  I think they are just terms of endearment. 

I wanted a Daddy/lg dynamic very much when first getting into this, however, now, after a couple of experiences with a couple different people, I think that I would prefer that be sometimes, but not 24/7.  After a while, it gets terribly old, but for sometime play, for me, I think it could be a whole lot of fun.  But I really don't want anyone trying to "punish" me and I certainly don't think that a man could possibly know what is right for me and have him direct my life for me.  I just want to have lots of really kinky sex and a mate that I can depend on and share life with, too.  And he wraps his arms around me and holds me close, too.


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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 12:07:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		And of course, the phrase "Aye poppy", or who's your Daddy bumper stickers have been popular for a long time now.

It's seen as very cute and cuddly for a girl to call a man Daddy, and then the guy is seen as kind of studly and manly.


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You are correct that more women may want to use that term. It is also less of a stigma for women to do so.  After all, one of my favorite Toby Keith songs is "Who's Your Daddy?" So on some level society seems to be pretty open to women using that term with their man.  I checked fetlife, there are over 2900 listed kinksters who are into or curious about the mommy/boy dynamic.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 1:20:49 PM   
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I checked fetlife, there are over 2900 listed kinksters who are into or curious about the mommy/boy dynamic.


I'm not one of them!


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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 1:25:00 PM   
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I checked fetlife, there are over 2900 listed kinksters who are into or curious about the mommy/boy dynamic.


I'm not one of them!


Ditto! And nothing fills your inbox quicker with Daddy's seeking their missing link than membership in one of those groups. You'll have a never-ending stream of them invading your space.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 1:38:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have been totally against the daddy dom thing until recently i played with a dominant who enjoyed this role play   -   so i tried it.  To my surprise i enjoyed it, and on thinking about it, i think i enjoyed it because a child can be forced to say and do things that an adult could resist. I could say things that as an adult i wouldn't care for, but the little girl in me didn't really know what they meant and said them to please the adult. It was a freeing thing in many ways. And interestingly enough, it didn't feel like play at the time - i was invested in the little girl image.

I wouldn't want to do it outside of the bedroom, but in the bedroom it was a hot thing for me.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 1:42:44 PM   
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I had a partner that loved the Mommy/boy dynamic during sex... but no other time. And no way would he tolerate me calling him Daddy.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 2:06:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have always been attracted to older men, although my current one is only 5 years my senior. Ever since getting involved in BDSM, I've called my dominants "Daddy." It just seems to fit. With me, it's not about typical age play, even though there is an element of adolescentilism. My personality is such that I normally have a tendency to act like a very young adult. I still shop in the juniors department for my clothes. I call him "Daddy" because of the way he fusses at me to drive safely, drink more water, take my medicine correctly, etc. He's always giving me advice, which I can choose to either heed or ignore. When we have sex, I still call him "Daddy" because that is where his control is absolute. I suppose it might seem a bit incestuous when Daddy rapes my ass and tells me to be a good girl if I struggle, but it's not about role playing a daddy and daughter. It's more of a TPE. I'm not comfortable calling him "Master." It's "Daddy" or his name, and I only use his name in "public."

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 2:22:12 PM   
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And no way would he tolerate me calling him Daddy.


That's cause he wanted to be the baby.

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I'm not comfortable calling him "Master."


Oh, yes, Master!


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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 2:27:33 PM   
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For me, calling someone "Daddy" is a hard limit.

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Ditto, but to each their own.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 3:11:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Calling a dominant "Daddy" is a sign of respect, acknowledges their authority over you, yet feels intensely intimate at the same time. It also has the connotation of being an equal relationship even though one person has the authority.

I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord... It is too impersonal for my taste... so it is either their given name or "daddy" OR nothing.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 3:24:24 PM   
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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord...


That is a hard limit for me!  I'd rather act like a live human being than some third rate actress in some really bad renaissance play.  Besides, I wouldn't be able to stop laughing long enough.  You want me to call you WHAT?!?


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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 4:08:01 PM   
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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord...


That is a hard limit for me!  I'd rather act like a live human being than some third rate actress in some really bad renaissance play.  Besides, I wouldn't be able to stop laughing long enough.  You want me to call you WHAT?!?



I know that for some people these words have deep meaning, and they turn them on... it just does not feel emotionally right to me.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 7:27:55 PM   
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Calling a dominant "Daddy" is a sign of respect, acknowledges their authority over you, yet feels intensely intimate at the same time. It also has the connotation of being an equal relationship even though one person has the authority.

I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord... It is too impersonal for my taste... so it is either their given name or "daddy" OR nothing.


I believe the term can be a sign of respect for some depending on their dynamic. It is nothing something my owners have wanted from me on a continual basis. They are and always will be master. For me the latter is more fitting because I take great pains to choose a partner that can do that. I have always felt the Daddy/little girl dynamic is markedly different, though not better or worse, but a unique way of relating. As for honorifics, I grew up with Sir and Ma'am and I still use them today.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 7:31:42 PM   
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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord...


That is a hard limit for me!  I'd rather act like a live human being than some third rate actress in some really bad renaissance play.  Besides, I wouldn't be able to stop laughing long enough.  You want me to call you WHAT?!?



I know that for some people these words have deep meaning, and they turn them on... it just does not feel emotionally right to me.



Yep it doesn't to me either. I really personally find titles distancing and corny. I call him by his name, novel concept, I know.

If it works for others great, but "daddy" squicks me out.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 8:28:33 PM   
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I believe the term can be a sign of respect for some depending on their dynamic.



I should have prefaced my post with "for me"... because I have had a daddy dom

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 8:30:43 PM   
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I should have prefaced my post with "for me"... because I have had a daddy dom


No worries. I knew what you meant.

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