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dreamerdreaming -> RE: Nipple Scabs (7/20/2010 8:54:23 AM)
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We are not immortal, and neither are our parts. Except a few choice parts of Dark Steven. [:D]
Treat every part of you as if it can be ruined if you're not careful. Because it can.
Exploring more gentle play when your nipples have healed, would be a wise course of action IMHO. Everything doesn't have to be taken to extremes, to be wonderful and fulfilling. If a dom wants to break his toys, the sub doesn't have to let him.
Nipples are sensitive for a reason. You've got nerves attached to them. Fuck up those nerves, and they may not heal right. I am not a doctor, FYI but it seems glaringly obvious to me that if you mess up your nipples permanently because neither you or your dom are wise enough to go easier on them, then you'll probably have the same cavalier approach regarding other parts of your body. You could end up really messed up in multiple places.
Have a conversation with him about backing off on the extremes, and finding other ways to get the same or better feelings. D/s is not an endurance contest. Even if it was, I think you've already shown very well, that you can match his appetite in the area of pain play. So there's nothing left that you should feel like you need to prove, in that department. Examine the reasons behind your actions. What's your motivation? Are you feeling deep-down that maybe you're not wothy of him, so you've got to prove it to him or to yourself, that you are? Just a guess- I may be out in left field.... Maybe you both just want to see what you can take? What are your driving forces, behind your D/s dynamic- and how can you both address your needs, while being careful not to harm you? [8|]
I am not a doctor, as I say- but I do have some personal knowledge in this area that you can PM me about if you'd like to know a little more. FFS BE CAREFUL!
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