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RE: young slaves - 7/21/2010 10:54:03 PM

MadameMarque

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I tend to prefer younger men, for partners. Some women do, and some women don't mind the age, just consider the individual.

Very young men are usually anxious to be taken seriously, and I do, because I'm paying attention to the individual, make my choices based upon my feelings. To be painfully candid, it has happened before that someone has proven themselves unworthy of being taken seriously, as it developed. But I feel what I feel toward a person. So, how should I regret? You can't choose for whom you have feelings, and you can't base your choices on some canned conventional "good advice," as if you were shopping for an appliance.

Besides, if you think about it, what makes people think an older man is going to be a better choice than a young one?

P.S. ~ You don't seem to have a profile, at the moment, "slavejim111" ~ ?

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RE: young slaves - 7/21/2010 11:09:23 PM

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I would suggest finding someone close to your age that is interested in exploring with you (or find a TNG group as others have stated). I tend to avoid very young and/or inexperienced submissive men for the same reasons I avoid very young and/or inexperienced men in general: they lack many social skills, they fail to recognize the needs of others, they often think solely with their dicks, and they often are at transitional points in their life (IE college or lack of job) and unsuited to handling the demands I would place on them.

While the idea of "fresh meat" is appealing in fantasy, the reality is generally a pain in the ass. Younger submissive men have been (in my experience) incredibly emotionally unstable and drama-prone. Submissive men with little to no experience require so much work it's generally not worth it. Many of the men I have encountered have simply changed their minds about submission within the space of a week and acted as if such rapid changes were par for the course (which I suppose is true for someone that's whole life thus far has been rapid change).

I'm not saying any of the above is you, but just trying to give you insight into why many might feel that way.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 6:40:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

I knew what I wanted at your age. Perhaps you can find a Mistress closer to your age. That way it won't be an issue. Ms. Mlicious is over forty, and her youngest slave is only twenty-three. It can happen.

Dude,

MsM is NEVER gonna have a hard time finding any man of any age to serve her.

Lucky you ;-)

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 7:01:14 AM

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 8:15:45 AM

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hello so new to the whole scene and all that but i really do love it and want to live it i know its for me but my problem is most dommes who talk to me bring up my age saying since im so young i couldnt possibly know wat i want or wouldnt be able to handle being a sub or slave and i was just wondering if age really matters that much wat can a couple years really do to someone i feel im ready now but i just keep getting dismissed saying age is the reason without them even knowing me

slaveJim

I'm not being rude here, but you know, stream of consciousness without punctuation might work for some authors, it doesn't work if you have a question and you want to be taken seriously. If you can't be bothered to use proper spelling (not talking about the occasional spelling mistake), it makes people wonder why they should take you seriously.

Now if you would send me a mail like that, I possibly wouldn't even bother replying, thinking that you couldn't be bothered to try and make an effort. As somebody said, a lot is in the presentation, the way you present yourself with this post is a bit like somebody who's throwing a tantrum, because a few people aren't interested to get to know you. Now if you can't be bothered to have a presentable post, thought out, easy to read, etc. I would wonder what would happen if you had a task, would you do the task just a sloppy? That IS a big turn off for most doms and dommes.

Now if you would feel somebody is too old for you, you wouldn't want them to be angry about it, you feel that way and that's it, so some feel you are too young for them, why should they get to know you? Because you are interested in them doesn't mean they are automatically interested in you.

You call yourself slave, but it really is all about you, isn't it? It's that you feel ready now and others should bend and see it your way, I think you will experience that a lot more and then possibly try a different approach. Take a step back and read your posting as if you were a domme and you'd be reading the posting of a sub.

Maybe it would help in your search if you have a list of things you can do for a dominant, showing that you are willing to put something in, that you have the maturity to not just expect, that's it's not just about you, it might change people's minds about your age.

Btw I couldn't find your age, as it appears that you don't have a profile.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 8:24:50 AM

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I think the guy should go back to school. Seriously he should think of his approach to Dommes as an Interview. Would you send an ungrammatical, unpunctuated written piece to an employer? What would be the response? Well when you work that out it doesnt take Einstein to realise that ungrammatical waffle wont wash with Dommes either
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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 9:20:55 AM

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Jen is right. Funny how Ms. M did not really realize that early on. She gets it now, though. Her youngest boy just loves her.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 11:35:36 AM

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Update on Duchebag OP cuz he sent me a PM:

He really is only checking out women on the net and not in real life. Apparently I need to learn to suck cock (his specifically) and he was only asking Dommes not "stupid switches".

Have at it ya'll...I'm gonna go be a pilot.

One of those days.

boi

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 4:17:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejim111
hello so new to the whole scene and all that but i really do love it and want to live it i know its for me but my problem is most dommes who talk to me bring up my age saying since im so young i couldnt possibly know wat i want or wouldnt be able to handle being a sub or slave and i was just wondering if age really matters that much wat can a couple years really do to someone i feel im ready now but i just keep getting dismissed saying age is the reason without them even knowing me

Age shouldn't be a problem. Most of us get that, and I'd venture to say most, ideally, would be open to young males serving them. The problem with the reality of this idea, however, is that many young males tend to be skittish, egotistic horn balls that haven't yet put together concretely what it is exactly they are really looking for. Eyeball deep in the vagaries of testosterone, it's hard for women young and old alike to trust young males say what they mean and mean what they say. While your libido is a given, you'll need to double your efforts to show sincerity, depth and decisiveness to attract the intellectual respect of dominant females.

P.s. Paying attention to proper punctuation and spelling in your writing would be a great start.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 5:37:18 PM

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Y;know, Jen, I was holding you up as an example to the OP and hoping that he could learn from you. I kinda doubt now that that's very likely.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 7:34:16 PM

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Steven,

I simply told him the same thing ANY Domme or even any individual with success would have told him: Get out from behind your computer and go meet people. In response, the OP sent me a nasty PM to which I responded to publicly. Chastise me for it if you want. Bad attitudes are bad attitudes and they should not be rewarded...at least that's what Ma'am keeps telling me. He had decided before even posted that he was only going to address and take the advice that he wanted to take.

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RE: young slaves - 7/22/2010 9:22:13 PM

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OP:

Forget the toys. They're nice to have, but when someone approaches me saying 'I have xyz in my toybag!' it turns me off.

Instead, focus on your investment being YOU. Take classes or pick up a book that betters you as a person - learn a different language, learn how to cook gourmet, grab a couple of DIY books and get crafty so that when a Lady needs something done, you can say 'I can replace that blown out wall socket for ya!'.

Unless you join a TNG group, you're not likely to get much attention until you gain a few years. Unfair? Hell yes. But if you throw yourself into making you a better person than you were yesterday, and keep that goal, you'll have them lined up at your door.

ETA "stupid switches".... I guess I need to delete my advice, since I'm a stupid switch!

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